This is a guest post by Rachelle Scott – a writer, blogger, social media marketing and trend analyst, currently at a company offering dissertation help. Monitoring trends and extracting what works best for the industry and what doesn’t is what ticks her interest. When not working, she loves reading and watching Soaps.
Human beings have a tendency to judge others. While we judge the other people, it is also ironic that we don’t want others to judge us or make personal comments. In spite of its negative connotation, judging others is a reality of our society, and we live with it every day.
What is even pathetic is when people get influenced by the opinions of others to the extent that it becomes their fear. It affects our self-esteem, and we tend to fear being judged by the people.
So if you are self-conscious about yourself, and you think that someone will make negative comment about you, here are 4 ways you can save yourself from being judged:
1. Don’t Pay Heed to Others’ Opinions.
The feeling of being judged can be an embarrassing thing to deal with. It hurts when you think that you are constantly under the scrutiny of people. However, an independent life is about changing you to please the others; it is about living life on your terms.
People might have their own opinions about you. But they should not be the one to change you as a person. If you love what you are, you should not bother how people want to see you. It’s your life, and you should be the only one to judge yourself.
2. Differentiate Between Judgment and Ignorance.
Everyone who judges you don’t necessarily knows you well enough to make a comment. I call it ignorance and not judgment, and there is a huge difference between the two. In my own case, I learn that people’s judgment is mostly based on ignorance.
The last time someone judged me was for the dissertation paper that I bought from dissertation corp. It was only meant to give me a reference for my research work. When one of my classmates learnt about it, he was quick to call it a cheating without knowing the purpose of the paper. When I explained him the whole story, he was sorry for his words. The morale of the story:
“If someone judges you, there is likelihood that he does not know you enough to make a judgment.”
3. Take the Detractors Out of Your Life.
Life is too short to dwell on the mediocre thinking of the people. If you believe yourself and accept yourself as you are, then there should be no one to judge your actions. It should be only your opinions that should matter and not the others. Therefore, you should forget all those detractors from your life and start living your life on your own terms.
Remember that when people judge you, there is not always a reason for it. They will judge you only to hurt your self-esteem or vent out their frustration. So if you get influenced by their biased views, you are only allowing them to interfere in your life.
Rather than hurting yourself from the negative agenda of the people who are jealous of you, you should disengage with them and do not make them a party to discourage you just because they are not happy with your success.
Judging others is a common thing in our society. However, everyone has every right to live his life on his terms. By valuing negative opinions of others, you are depriving yourself of living your life the way you want. Remember that it is only you who chose this life and, therefore, you should not let others have a say in your life.
For those facing financial hardships, getting rich seems the only way out to tide over shortage of money. For the bourgeoisie – the working class – getting rich conjures up visions of stuff they want to buy for luxury or higher social status. Millionaires also wish to get rich: they want to become billionaires and enter Forbes List of the world’s wealthiest people.
Unless you inherit a fortune or get lucky at lottery or sweepstakes, getting rich can be quite tough.
Yet, there are countless rags-to-riches stories around the world. Enterprises such as Amazon, KFC, Facebook or SpaceX have become runaway successes within a short span. The reason: their founders have several things in common, which is rare among other people.
Here we look at various traits that the world’s richest and most successful entrepreneurs have in common.
The Common Traits of The World’s Richest People
1. Serving People.
“If your only goal is to become rich, you will never achieve it,” said John D. Rockefeller, who laid the foundation stone for America’s giant petroleum industry and his own enterprise, Standard Oil. The same adage holds good today.
Facebook, for example, was launched by Mark Zuckerberg and his roommate, Eduardo Saverin to allow Harvard University students to share profiles and pictures
There are countless such examples of ordinary people striking rich. However, they share one thing in common: serving people. The main objective of launching these enterprises was to make life easier or enjoyable for people rather than earning money.
2. Reading Books.
Microsoft founder Bill Gates, celebrity TV show host Oprah Winfrey, SpaceX and Tesla CEO Elon Musk, Berkshire-Hathaway CEO Warren Buffet and several other extremely rich people of the world have one more thing in common: they are avid readers.
Bill Gates reads at least 50 books every year – an average of nearly four and a half books per month.
Elon Musk owes his success at SpaceX, the project to open space tourism to his love for books and the knowledge he gained from them about rocketry. Oprah Winfrey attributes her success to dozens of books, including some 70 top titles she read on her way to success while Warren Buffet spends about 80 percent of his day reading books.
3. Long-Term Financial Strategies.
A report by CNBC states, all wealthy people depend upon long-term financial strategies rather than short-term gains. They utilized their earnings and savings to invest in safe stocks that would assure gains in the long run rather than indulging in risky trading that can offer high returns.
Such financial planning and decisions ensured they do not lose money. Further, they invested money in their enterprises without the hope of immediate returns.
These wealthy people first focused on building a brand, offering value for people to identify with the brand. And later, popularize the brand through word-of-mouth publicity, which is more effective than traditional advertising.
4. Never Say Die.
Yet another common character trait shared by the world’s richest people is, they are not quitters.
Like every other human on Earth, these wealthy folks also witnessed ups and downs in life. Some of these were so overwhelming most ordinary people would have called it quits and gone in search of easier ventures.
Brian Chesky, Joe Gebbia and Nathan Bleckharczyk, founders of Airbnb, the world’s largest hotels and accommodations aggregator were plagued with financial problems.
Heavily encumbered with debts, bankruptcy was staring at these entrepreneurs in the very eye. Yet, they did not budge. They innovated their service that made Airbnb the world leader in its field today.
Another excellent example is Colonel Harland Sanders, whose recipe for fried chicken was rejected as many as 1,009 times before it was accepted. Col. Sanders is the founder of global chain Kentucky Fried Chicken or KFC.
5. Accepting Criticism.
Most people flee from criticism of any sort. Rather than learning from negative comments arising out of their behavior or work, they take umbrage rather quickly. Yet, they do not bother to amend their behavior or work pattern.
All wealthy people, however, are different. They are willing to be criticized for introducing new ideas or thoughts.
Jeff Bezos, founder of Amazon, rightly says that those who will try and do something new must be willing to draw criticism.
Steve Jobs, founder, Apple, Inc. puts it in even stronger words: “If you want to make everyone happy, do not become a leader; sell ice cream instead.”
The success of Amazon and Apple proves their founders were right when it came to accepting criticism.
6. Out of The Box Thinking.
Thinking outside of the ‘box’ or a typical mindset is often impossible for most people. Understandably, because everyone draws their mindset from factors and circumstances they are raised and educated in.
This mindset eventually becomes a formidable fetter for anyone wanting to become an entrepreneur. Generally, most people follow the flock and take professions they falsely believe as best suited for their skills. Others try to follow footsteps of their parents.
The wealthiest people in the world never followed flock or took lucrative professions of their parents.
Mark Zuckerberg’s father was a dentist and mom – a psychiatrist. Bill Gates’ dad was a banker father while his mother was a lawyer.
Despite coming from wealthy families, they chose to follow their passion rather than confine their thinking to the proverbial boxed mindset. Col. Sanders had lost his parents at a young age of six years and had to shoulder responsibilities of his siblings.
Other Examples of What The Wealthiest People Have in Common
As we can see, these qualities or personality traits are common to the world’s richest people. It sets them apart from others. Most of them launched small enterprises with the sole purpose of bettering the lives of people. Their products or services gained popularity because money was never their consideration. Widespread use of their technology, products, and services eventually led them to become wealthy.
These traits are not typical to the US or the western world, as one may mistakenly come to believe. A glance at some richest people in India and elsewhere also reveals, they share the same characteristics with their American counterparts. This amply proves that richest people around the world share something in common, regardless of where they live and flourish.
Another common trait that all rich people share in common is philanthropy.
Since childhood, they believe in giving back to the society and helping the underprivileged. They practiced charity when they were not so rich and continue to donate money for the betterment of the society even after becoming billionaires.
These richest people on the planet never waited to become wealthy. Instead, they were philanthropists since childhood – a trait most other people pathetically lack or try to foist upon themselves to gain popularity.
It is not easy to become wealthy. Or everyone would become a millionaire. People who do make it to the top have a different way of thinking combined with an undying zest for learning new things and educating themselves.
They do not consider conventional learning at universities as the end of their education. Instead, they try and acquire new skills every day and find ways and means to become better humans rather than focusing on fattening their purses.
The world’s wealthiest people also share one common trait: they are not people pleasers, despite their generosity and willingness to serve the society. Because they know, trying to please everyone will get them nowhere and could mean possible failure.