9 Signs of Unhappiness to Look Out For 35

9 Signs of Unhappiness to Look Out For - letsreachsuccess.com

You deserve to be happy. You already have so much to be thankful for, and together with finding joy in the present moment and welcoming wonderful opportunities in your life, you can find true happiness.

But what if you aren’t satisfied with your life? How can you know what’s wrong?

Here are some signs of unhappiness to watch out for:

1. You constantly go back to the past.

Living in the past leads to being unhappy. Once you go there, you start reliving past situations, usually negative ones.

You have regrets, are disappointed, feel upset and thus ruin your present moment.

But hey, what’s done is done. You can’t change it, but there’s something more practical you can do with it – take the lesson and move on. This way you can guarantee your happiness in the present and future, and that’s what really matters.

Check out my book on living in the present moment.

2. You expect too much.

Do you find yourself expecting others to behave in a certain way? Or wanting life to turn out the way you wish?

Well, things usually turn out differently. And if you expect too much, you end up disappointed. That’s another sign of unhappiness you should be careful about.

Luckily, you can do something about it right away by simply letting go of all expectations, and replacing them with acceptance and finding contentment in the present moment.

3. You always want more.

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Those with many desires are never satisfied, simply because the moment they get something, they are after something else. That’s not success, that’s greed most of the times.

So many people want the latest product out there, more money, more friends, a bigger house, to go out every day, to be like someone else, etc.

That makes them focus on what they don’t have in their life. And according to the law of attraction, it doubles.

Stop that. It’s one of the signs of unhappiness you’d better notice early on, before it gets worse.

Realize that you already have a lot. Stop daily to thank for it. Then, set goals and go after them, but only if it’s something you truly want.

4. You haven’t found your passion.

A happy life is a passionate one. It may be a childhood hobby, something you love doing with friends, a way to spend your time when you’re alone, or a side hustle project you’re working on that has the potential to turn into a business.

Whatever it is, you need to find your true passion and follow it.

5. Not finding reasons to smile.

According to happy people, one of the biggest signs of unhappiness is not smiling daily.

Look around you. There are plenty of things to smile about. Find one reason daily for a start and make sure you appreciate it. Be it the nice weather, the chance to be doing what you love, an opportunity that knocked on your door, a great book you’re reading, a compliment you received, a good deed you did, or else.

6. No one in your surroundings is truly happy.

How can you be happy if you’re surrounded by negative people?

Make sure you find positive ones instead and spend as much time with them as possible. Get rid of the toxic ones in your life, and find inspired souls looking to connect with other optimists.

Related: Habits of Happy People

7. You never take action.

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If you’re constantly wishing for things to happen, or even waiting for opportunities to be given to you, you won’t really achieve anything in life. And if you’re not moving forward, going after goals and getting 1% better daily, you can’t find meaning and contentment either.

So if you want to get rid of another one of the signs of unhappiness, set a goal today and take a tiny action related to it.

8. Making too many plans.

Look out for this too.

If you live in the future, you may start living in an illusion too. We tend to fear what might happen tomorrow, or to expect different things from what life has planned for us.

Also, it’s possible to lose yourself in dreams and never actually do something about them today.

Be careful not to fall into that trap. Practice mindfulness and go back to this moment, where you can actually take action to build a better future.

9. Always being in a bad mood.

One of the more obvious signs of unhappiness is complaining all the time, being negative about everything, not seeing the good in people, always wanting to do something else instead of your current activity, etc.

Usually, that’s an attitude towards life. It’s for people who can never appreciate anything, and no matter what happens to them, they’ll see it as bad and will want something else, will blame life or others, will complain, will make excuses.

To make sure this doesn’t happen to you, find ways to be positive in daily life. Read inspirational books, listen to encouraging podcasts, talk to positive and successful people, visualize yourself living a happy life, count your blessings every morning, find things you enjoy and do them daily.

There are many signs of unhappiness to watch out for. But happiness is just around the corner, waiting for you to embrace it.





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What the Richest People in the World Have in Common 4

What the Richest People in the World Have in Common

Getting rich is something everyone dreams about.

For those facing financial hardships, getting rich seems the only way out to tide over shortage of money. For the bourgeoisie – the working class – getting rich conjures up visions of stuff they want to buy for luxury or higher social status. Millionaires also wish to get rich: they want to become billionaires and enter Forbes List of the world’s wealthiest people.

Unless you inherit a fortune or get lucky at lottery or sweepstakes, getting rich can be quite tough.

Yet, there are countless rags-to-riches stories around the world. Enterprises such as Amazon, KFC, Facebook or SpaceX have become runaway successes within a short span. The reason: their founders have several things in common, which is rare among other people.

Here we look at various traits that the world’s richest and most successful entrepreneurs have in common.

The Common Traits of The World’s Richest People

The Common Traits of The World's Richest People

1. Serving People.

“If your only goal is to become rich, you will never achieve it,” said John D. Rockefeller, who laid the foundation stone for America’s giant petroleum industry and his own enterprise, Standard Oil. The same adage holds good today.

Facebook, for example, was launched by Mark Zuckerberg and his roommate, Eduardo Saverin to allow Harvard University students to share profiles and pictures

There are countless such examples of ordinary people striking rich. However, they share one thing in common: serving people. The main objective of launching these enterprises was to make life easier or enjoyable for people rather than earning money.

2. Reading Books.

Microsoft founder Bill Gates, celebrity TV show host Oprah Winfrey, SpaceX and Tesla CEO Elon Musk, Berkshire-Hathaway CEO Warren Buffet and several other extremely rich people of the world have one more thing in common: they are avid readers.

Bill Gates reads at least 50 books every year – an average of nearly four and a half books per month.

Elon Musk owes his success at SpaceX, the project to open space tourism to his love for books and the knowledge he gained from them about rocketry. Oprah Winfrey attributes her success to dozens of books, including some 70 top titles she read on her way to success while Warren Buffet spends about 80 percent of his day reading books.

3. Long-Term Financial Strategies.

A report by CNBC states, all wealthy people depend upon long-term financial strategies rather than short-term gains. They utilized their earnings and savings to invest in safe stocks that would assure gains in the long run rather than indulging in risky trading that can offer high returns.

Such financial planning and decisions ensured they do not lose money. Further, they invested money in their enterprises without the hope of immediate returns.

These wealthy people first focused on building a brand, offering value for people to identify with the brand. And later, popularize the brand through word-of-mouth publicity, which is more effective than traditional advertising.

4. Never Say Die.

Yet another common character trait shared by the world’s richest people is, they are not quitters.

Like every other human on Earth, these wealthy folks also witnessed ups and downs in life. Some of these were so overwhelming most ordinary people would have called it quits and gone in search of easier ventures.

Brian Chesky, Joe Gebbia and Nathan Bleckharczyk, founders of Airbnb, the world’s largest hotels and accommodations aggregator were plagued with financial problems.


Heavily encumbered with debts, bankruptcy was staring at these entrepreneurs in the very eye. Yet, they did not budge. They innovated their service that made Airbnb the world leader in its field today.

Another excellent example is Colonel Harland Sanders, whose recipe for fried chicken was rejected as many as 1,009 times before it was accepted. Col. Sanders is the founder of global chain Kentucky Fried Chicken or KFC.

5. Accepting Criticism.

Most people flee from criticism of any sort. Rather than learning from negative comments arising out of their behavior or work, they take umbrage rather quickly. Yet, they do not bother to amend their behavior or work pattern.

All wealthy people, however, are different. They are willing to be criticized for introducing new ideas or thoughts.

Jeff Bezos, founder of Amazon, rightly says that those who will try and do something new must be willing to draw criticism.

Steve Jobs, founder, Apple, Inc. puts it in even stronger words: “If you want to make everyone happy, do not become a leader; sell ice cream instead.”

The success of Amazon and Apple proves their founders were right when it came to accepting criticism.

6. Out of The Box Thinking.

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Thinking outside of the ‘box’ or a typical mindset is often impossible for most people. Understandably, because everyone draws their mindset from factors and circumstances they are raised and educated in.

This mindset eventually becomes a formidable fetter for anyone wanting to become an entrepreneur. Generally, most people follow the flock and take professions they falsely believe as best suited for their skills. Others try to follow footsteps of their parents.

The wealthiest people in the world never followed flock or took lucrative professions of their parents.

Mark Zuckerberg’s father was a dentist and mom – a psychiatrist. Bill Gates’ dad was a banker father while his mother was a lawyer.

Despite coming from wealthy families, they chose to follow their passion rather than confine their thinking to the proverbial boxed mindset. Col. Sanders had lost his parents at a young age of six years and had to shoulder responsibilities of his siblings.

Other Examples of What The Wealthiest People Have in Common

As we can see, these qualities or personality traits are common to the world’s richest people. It sets them apart from others. Most of them launched small enterprises with the sole purpose of bettering the lives of people. Their products or services gained popularity because money was never their consideration. Widespread use of their technology, products, and services eventually led them to become wealthy.

These traits are not typical to the US or the western world, as one may mistakenly come to believe. A glance at some richest people in India and elsewhere also reveals, they share the same characteristics with their American counterparts. This amply proves that richest people around the world share something in common, regardless of where they live and flourish.

Another common trait that all rich people share in common is philanthropy.

Since childhood, they believe in giving back to the society and helping the underprivileged. They practiced charity when they were not so rich and continue to donate money for the betterment of the society even after becoming billionaires.

These richest people on the planet never waited to become wealthy. Instead, they were philanthropists since childhood – a trait most other people pathetically lack or try to foist upon themselves to gain popularity.

In Conclusion

It is not easy to become wealthy. Or everyone would become a millionaire. People who do make it to the top have a different way of thinking combined with an undying zest for learning new things and educating themselves.

They do not consider conventional learning at universities as the end of their education. Instead, they try and acquire new skills every day and find ways and means to become better humans rather than focusing on fattening their purses.

The world’s wealthiest people also share one common trait: they are not people pleasers, despite their generosity and willingness to serve the society. Because they know, trying to please everyone will get them nowhere and could mean possible failure.