These 10 Things Will Happen When You Become More Confident 152

These 10 Things Will Happen When You Become More Confident

Have you ever wondered what will happen if you become more confident?

Confidence is a powerful skill, and a much needed asset in today’s world.

It changes so many areas of your life once you have it. But if you’re insecure, don’t believe in yourself and aren’t confident in your abilities, everything you try will go wrong.

Those will high self-esteem are living courageously, dream big and don’t take no for an answer. While those who lack it can’t make new friends, don’t try new things and lose hope easily.

If you still aren’t sure why you need to improve your confidence, here are some reasons:

  1. You’ll be more decisive.

If you have a hard time making decisions, even in daily life, then you’re full of doubts and uncertainty. You want to make the right choice and spend a lot of time analyzing it. And no matter what decision you make, it always seems to lead to regrets.

That’s because you overthink and don’t make the best of what you got.

Confidence can help you solve that problem. Once you’re sure of what you can achieve, you’ll just decide quickly and will do your best.

And even if it turns out to be the wrong thing, you’ll know you can do better next time and that won’t bring you down.

  1. You’ll set bigger goals and will go after them.

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Confident people are purpose-oriented. They know the only limitations are the ones they set to themselves, and don’t let fear or insecurity get in the way.

They simply have a positive vision of the future and set the right goals that will get them there.

While the average person doesn’t believe in himself enough to even dare to think such goals are possible. And that’s why he never decides to follow them, and can’t become more confident.

  1. You’ll improve your social skills.

You won’t need to worry about social anxiety once you become more confident.

Because then you’ll feel comfortable in your skin and around many people, won’t be afraid to speak to new ones or be too shy to make friends.

These social barriers won’t be an issue once you know you have something to offer and aren’t anxious and insecure.

  1. You don’t get depressed.

Depression and feeling upset are for the weak. Because they tend to feel bad about their past mistakes, to imagine the worst that can happen in the future, and – as a result of that – to never take action in the present.

But confident individuals are all about action. There’s no point in analyzing what’s wrong, instead they define what they want, figure out what the next step is and go take it.

  1. You’ll be improving yourself all the time.

Once you’ve gained some self-esteem, you’ll realize you have a lot of potential and will start looking for ways to unleash it.

That means getting more done, improving your qualities, learning new skills, gaining experience and knowledge, making the necessary changes in your life so that you can look and feel better, and so on.

You’ll not only become more confident, but will constantly be challenging yourself and thus becoming the best possible version of yourself.

  1. Others won’t get to you easily.

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Once you’re confident enough, you won’t need to do anything to deal with naysayers and those trying to discourage you. You’ll simply follow your path no matter what and keep your vision in mind.

That also means that people won’t be able to talk you out of your goals, won’t hurt you by leaving or rejecting you, won’t ruin your plans, won’t make you feel bad about yourself.

  1. You’ll feel complete.

You’ll finally understand that you yourself are enough. And will stop looking for another person to fill a void inside you.

In fact, there won’t be any void anymore. It will be filled with bravery, dreams and action steps.

  1. You won’t feel inferior to others.

Some people like to make others feel inferior. That won’t be the case with you anymore even if there are authorities around you.

You’ll know what you’re good at and will be working on improving your skills constantly. Which makes you the perfect candidate for anything you want to try in life.

  1. You won’t compare your life to those of others.

Too many people spend hours daily in social media looking at how others are living their life and wishing for the same. That makes them miserable.

But self-assured people know that’s pointless. They understand their past and current goals and dreams are different and so is their journey to getting what they want. So there’s no need to compare it with what other people are going through.

This helps them stay focused and determined.

  1. They get out of their comfort zone.

Life in the comfort zone feels safe, but is never satisfying. It’s what people without courage and self-esteem choose to do with their time simply because anything else requires more action and decisiveness.

But we’re not born to live comfortably and do the same things every day without challenging ourselves. Instead, we must get out there and try things, fail and try again, get better and be on top eventually. We must have the power to say yes to opportunities and to laugh at fear knowing it’s an illusion.

That’s how those who believe in themselves do it.

So what can you do today to become more confident?

See also:

A Thoughtful Guide to Gaining Self-Confidence
The Confidence Conundrum
25 Killer Actions to Boost Your Self-Confidence





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What the Richest People in the World Have in Common 13

What the Richest People in the World Have in Common

Getting rich is something everyone dreams about.

For those facing financial hardships, getting rich seems the only way out to tide over shortage of money. For the bourgeoisie – the working class – getting rich conjures up visions of stuff they want to buy for luxury or higher social status. Millionaires also wish to get rich: they want to become billionaires and enter Forbes List of the world’s wealthiest people.

Unless you inherit a fortune or get lucky at lottery or sweepstakes, getting rich can be quite tough.

Yet, there are countless rags-to-riches stories around the world. Enterprises such as Amazon, KFC, Facebook or SpaceX have become runaway successes within a short span. The reason: their founders have several things in common, which is rare among other people.

Here we look at various traits that the world’s richest and most successful entrepreneurs have in common.

The Common Traits of The World’s Richest People

The Common Traits of The World's Richest People

1. Serving People.

“If your only goal is to become rich, you will never achieve it,” said John D. Rockefeller, who laid the foundation stone for America’s giant petroleum industry and his own enterprise, Standard Oil. The same adage holds good today.

Facebook, for example, was launched by Mark Zuckerberg and his roommate, Eduardo Saverin to allow Harvard University students to share profiles and pictures

There are countless such examples of ordinary people striking rich. However, they share one thing in common: serving people. The main objective of launching these enterprises was to make life easier or enjoyable for people rather than earning money.

2. Reading Books.

Microsoft founder Bill Gates, celebrity TV show host Oprah Winfrey, SpaceX and Tesla CEO Elon Musk, Berkshire-Hathaway CEO Warren Buffet and several other extremely rich people of the world have one more thing in common: they are avid readers.

Bill Gates reads at least 50 books every year – an average of nearly four and a half books per month.

Elon Musk owes his success at SpaceX, the project to open space tourism to his love for books and the knowledge he gained from them about rocketry. Oprah Winfrey attributes her success to dozens of books, including some 70 top titles she read on her way to success while Warren Buffet spends about 80 percent of his day reading books.

3. Long-Term Financial Strategies.

A report by CNBC states, all wealthy people depend upon long-term financial strategies rather than short-term gains. They utilized their earnings and savings to invest in safe stocks that would assure gains in the long run rather than indulging in risky trading that can offer high returns.

Such financial planning and decisions ensured they do not lose money. Further, they invested money in their enterprises without the hope of immediate returns.

These wealthy people first focused on building a brand, offering value for people to identify with the brand. And later, popularize the brand through word-of-mouth publicity, which is more effective than traditional advertising.

4. Never Say Die.

Yet another common character trait shared by the world’s richest people is, they are not quitters.

Like every other human on Earth, these wealthy folks also witnessed ups and downs in life. Some of these were so overwhelming most ordinary people would have called it quits and gone in search of easier ventures.

Brian Chesky, Joe Gebbia and Nathan Bleckharczyk, founders of Airbnb, the world’s largest hotels and accommodations aggregator were plagued with financial problems.


Heavily encumbered with debts, bankruptcy was staring at these entrepreneurs in the very eye. Yet, they did not budge. They innovated their service that made Airbnb the world leader in its field today.

Another excellent example is Colonel Harland Sanders, whose recipe for fried chicken was rejected as many as 1,009 times before it was accepted. Col. Sanders is the founder of global chain Kentucky Fried Chicken or KFC.

5. Accepting Criticism.

Most people flee from criticism of any sort. Rather than learning from negative comments arising out of their behavior or work, they take umbrage rather quickly. Yet, they do not bother to amend their behavior or work pattern.

All wealthy people, however, are different. They are willing to be criticized for introducing new ideas or thoughts.

Jeff Bezos, founder of Amazon, rightly says that those who will try and do something new must be willing to draw criticism.

Steve Jobs, founder, Apple, Inc. puts it in even stronger words: “If you want to make everyone happy, do not become a leader; sell ice cream instead.”

The success of Amazon and Apple proves their founders were right when it came to accepting criticism.

6. Out of The Box Thinking.

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Thinking outside of the ‘box’ or a typical mindset is often impossible for most people. Understandably, because everyone draws their mindset from factors and circumstances they are raised and educated in.

This mindset eventually becomes a formidable fetter for anyone wanting to become an entrepreneur. Generally, most people follow the flock and take professions they falsely believe as best suited for their skills. Others try to follow footsteps of their parents.

The wealthiest people in the world never followed flock or took lucrative professions of their parents.

Mark Zuckerberg’s father was a dentist and mom – a psychiatrist. Bill Gates’ dad was a banker father while his mother was a lawyer.

Despite coming from wealthy families, they chose to follow their passion rather than confine their thinking to the proverbial boxed mindset. Col. Sanders had lost his parents at a young age of six years and had to shoulder responsibilities of his siblings.

Other Examples of What The Wealthiest People Have in Common

As we can see, these qualities or personality traits are common to the world’s richest people. It sets them apart from others. Most of them launched small enterprises with the sole purpose of bettering the lives of people. Their products or services gained popularity because money was never their consideration. Widespread use of their technology, products, and services eventually led them to become wealthy.

These traits are not typical to the US or the western world, as one may mistakenly come to believe. A glance at some richest people in India and elsewhere also reveals, they share the same characteristics with their American counterparts. This amply proves that richest people around the world share something in common, regardless of where they live and flourish.

Another common trait that all rich people share in common is philanthropy.

Since childhood, they believe in giving back to the society and helping the underprivileged. They practiced charity when they were not so rich and continue to donate money for the betterment of the society even after becoming billionaires.

These richest people on the planet never waited to become wealthy. Instead, they were philanthropists since childhood – a trait most other people pathetically lack or try to foist upon themselves to gain popularity.

In Conclusion

It is not easy to become wealthy. Or everyone would become a millionaire. People who do make it to the top have a different way of thinking combined with an undying zest for learning new things and educating themselves.

They do not consider conventional learning at universities as the end of their education. Instead, they try and acquire new skills every day and find ways and means to become better humans rather than focusing on fattening their purses.

The world’s wealthiest people also share one common trait: they are not people pleasers, despite their generosity and willingness to serve the society. Because they know, trying to please everyone will get them nowhere and could mean possible failure.