LRS 037: How to Stop Suffering 51

How to Stop Suffering | The Let's Reach Success Podcast - Lidiya K

In episode 37 of The Let’s Reach Success Podcast I’ll talk about what unhappiness looks like, I’ll try to describe pain and analyze what causes it in daily life. I’ll then move onto offering a solution to each point I include. The goal after listening to this episode of the show is to know how to stop suffering.

It sounds like a big deal. You’re probably wondering ‘How can 15 minutes of audio content help me when there’s so much pain in the world, when there are millions of miserable people out there?’

Well, my mission is to open your eyes for what’s already in front of you. The happiness within, the abundance you live in, the magic of the present moment and the art of letting go.

So if you think there’s a chance to get a bit more happier once you change your perspective, and want to stop suffering, listen on!

By the way, everything you’ll hear now, is part of my book on letting go and being present. It’s called This Moment. There I talk about freeing yourself from any thoughts connected to the past and future, so that you can go back to this moment, and enjoy and appreciate it.

Show Notes:

  • What pain really looks like (it’s not what you think) [1:40]
  • The 14 things that make us unhappy [6:37]
  • How we create our own struggle [8:05]
  • The importance of knowing what truly matters in life [10:35]
  • Why you don’t need goals and plans and how to live without them [11:25]
  • The solution to all the things that cause suffering [14:28]


Action Steps on How to Stop Suffering:

  1. Try to see pain from another perspective. Realize that you are the one to blame about your suffering.
  2. Stop creating ideals.
  3. Want to be right here, right now.
  4. Let go of the constant struggle by not putting too much pressure into the things you do daily, not trying to interfere in the natural flow.
  5. Seek happiness within, not in external sources.
  6. Let go of the past.
  7. Accept instead of trying to change what can’t be changed.
  8. Stop comparing.
  9. Know that what’s most important is right in front of you right now – the people around you, the thing you’re doing, the place you’re at and the thoughts and feelings you have.
  10. Don’t take things too personally and stop playing the role of a victim.
  11. Leave behind any thoughts connected to the future.
  12. Don’t depend on goals and plans too much.
  13. Stop expecting anything from others and yourself.
  14. See this moment and anything happening right now as perfect and you won’t need to change anything anymore.

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So, how can you stop suffering once and for all?

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How I Finally Managed to Focus and Got to Work without Putting It Off 19

How I Finally Managed to Focus and Got to Work without Putting It Off

Here are the things that helped me find focus and finally get to work:

Tip #1 Write it down.

When I say write it down I mean that whatever you want to do on the day or even the night before for the following day. Simply write exactly down what you want to do/achieve. This simple tip alone is almost like flicking a switch in your brain to do it.

Simply writing down your goals and your plans not only makes you think about the goals and the steps that you need to do to achieve them. Sometimes this can be a great way to realize exactly what you want and get you thinking of things you perhaps hadn’t thought of prior.

Not only this but there have been countless studies done showing that writing something down with greatly improve the chances of it coming to fruition than not writing it down at all.

The great thing about this is that it can be literally applied to many areas of like. You can write down your long-term goals or you can write down what you plan to do for the next day.

I, personally, do it every night after I am long finished with my work for that day. I set aside 5-10 minutes for writing down what I want to do tomorrow. The act itself cements it in your brain.

This is also a great way to help with procrastination. It’s almost like holding yourself accountable for it which I will get into more in my next point.

Tip #2 Hold yourself accountable.

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Holding yourself accountable to an overall goal or target can be an excellent way to actually push yourself to that point where you get to work consistently.

For example, let’s say I want to lose some weight and be on a particular diet to achieve that goal. Telling your friends and family that you are doing it makes you more accountable than doing it alone.

Your friends/family will often follow up with you about your progress. This is a constant kick up your ass to keep working towards your goal. Also, doing things like posting it on Facebook or somewhere where people can engage with you and follow your progress is great.

Ideally, having an accountability partner would be the best option for this.

An accountability partner and you would usually be moving towards the same goal and would constantly encourage each other to get to work. Most importantly, you two will be accountable for your actions!

A great way to find such like-minded people is through social media. For example when I work on my blog FlipFlopsandAppleSauce, I have a artner that is also running a blog. We both set goals on how often we publish content to hold each other accountable. It works extremely well.

Tip #3 Don’t be focused on results.

Don’t put pressure on yourself if you aren’t achieving your goals as quickly as you want.

Let’s say you have an online business and you want to make $1000 a month in profit. Instead of focusing on how much money you are currently making, look at what steps you need to take to get to that $1000. The more of these you take, the sooner you will get there.

Tip #4 Concentrate on today.


Some people are always thinking of long-term objectives. That’s not a problem, but you should always try to break down your goals into smaller, easier steps. Then, dedicate each day to working towards completing these steps.

Not only does that make things simpler and easier to manage, but it also puts less stress and pressure on you in the long run and will undoubtedly save you lots of time.

Tip #5 Let it become a habit.

Once you get into a routine, doing some of the more tedious things won’t be as much of a problem. Because at the beginning, you had to make a more conscious effort to make them happen. But once something becomes a habit through use of constant repetition, it becomes 10 times easier to do it.

After doing something consistently for 20 days in a row, it will start to become a habit.

So, if you are doing something that you don’t enjoy 100% to work towards your goal, it would be a great idea to challenge yourself for 3 weeks. Make it a habit, because, beyond that initial 3 weeks, things should only become easier.

#Tip 6 Think goals, not hours.

Some people say ‘I want to work 5 hours on this today’. In my opinion, this is not a solid mentality to have.

People who work with that in mind tend to draw out what they are working out to achieve that time target, which usually isn’t helpful at all. Not only that, but it lowers overall productivity.

I like to set steps that I want to do on that exact day. I have a clearer target that isn’t limited or restricted by time in this case.

Also, once you have finished what you set out to do for that day, you feel a great sense of accomplishment. Which for me, is an amazing feeling that keeps me coming back for more!


David Gray is an entrepreneur that loves marketing. This “career” path allows him the freedom that he truly craves in his life.