Defining Your Ideal Lifestyle Can Happen Now. Here’s How

Defining Your Ideal Lifestyle Can Happen Now. Here's How - law of attraction, law of expectation

Where there is no vision, there is no hope.  – George Washington Carver

The journey to the ideal lifestyle begins by defining it clearly.

Too many people today have no direction in life and are getting nowhere because of that. They are wandering through life, desperately trying to find meaning by spending time with random people, keeping themselves busy all day, pursuing goals they don’t really want to achieve, and indulging in their bad habits that give them comfort.

Luckily, you’re a decision away from living a completely different life. But you must first have an honest conversation with yourself.

Questions to Ask Yourself on Your Path to The Ideal Lifestyle

Before the law of attraction can be part of your life, you must get familiar with the law of expectation. It’s similar, but can be considered the stepping stone to getting exactly what you want.

One of the worst things you can do with your life is to spend years going after one thing, just to realize that you never really wanted it in the first place.

Some people live by the standards of those around them and try to live in a way that will make others happy. In the end, they have regrets about not taking their own path, as they see other people can never be pleased and keep judging and criticizing even if you do everything right.

For a start, know that you deserve to have your own kind of happiness and success.

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One of your missions in life is to create an enjoyable lifestyle, which will let you be your best self, do your best job, be good and help others too.

The law of expectation states that most of what you expect will happen, whether it’s negative or positive. So before you begin attracting the things you want in your life, it’s smart to get rid of the ones you don’t like that much. And, most importantly, to stop expecting more of what you don’t want.

Take a closer look at your environment and how you spend your time daily. Make a list of anything you’d like to change, from your job and the way you treat others, to how much you use social media and what more productive things you could be doing at the same time.

Ask yourself, ‘Which of the things I have in my life now should I eliminate to get closer to the ideal lifestyle?’

Once you identify them, stop thinking about them. Know that they’ll be gone soon as long as you’re moving forward in the right direction.

Then comes the time to have a deeper conversation with yourself. To get clear about where you want to be in life in order to make sure you don’t end up in the wrong destination. This will also help you visualize things more clearly when you’re working on creating your own reality using the power of your subconscious mind.

Whatever you imagine in your mind, the universe will give you more of it. Because together with this picture and the consistent attention you pay to it, you’re also giving birth to new feelings and emotions that raise your vibrations and awake you spiritually.

So, try to answer the following questions about your future life as honestly as you can:

  • Who do I want to be in my surroundings?
  • How will a standard day in my ideal life go? What time will I wake up? What will I work on? How will I spend my free time? What clothes will I wear?
  • What words will I use to speak more confidently? How will other people look at me now that I’m more social, positive and successful?
  • How much money will I have in my bank account?
  • How often will I travel and where?
  • What new skills will I learn and how will they help me expand my horizons, start a business or build a name for myself in a certain industry?

Set aside a day or two to really think about all that. Write it down to make the effect stronger. Know that you’re creating your destiny now and you shouldn’t miss out on anything important to you.

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Once you’re done, accept all the things you wrote on the list and start expecting them.

No more negative thoughts in your mind, no more desperate complaints about what you don’t have in your life. All this is coming your way already, you just need to be ready for it and to attract it. But that starts with first expecting all this in the near future.

Know that whatever it is that you have now and whoever you’ve become, is a result of every single decision you’ve taken throughout your life. The power of a decision is stronger than we give it credit for.

So from now on, your decisions must be aligned with your new way of thinking, with your newly developed spirituality and awareness.

If you’ve already been working with the law of expectation and attraction, you can still make the vision in your head clearer. The thoughts that go together with it need to be stronger than your doubts, and than any outer factor from the outside world that is trying to make you part of the crowd.

On the journey to attracting abundance and accumulating wealth, you’ll be listening only to yourself. But it will be your stronger self, your inner voice, your potential giving your guidance.

No one else is allowed to create your reality on your behalf. They don’t know your true desires and you’ll never be peaceful and contented unless you define your ideal lifestyle and start building it.

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How This Family Guy Makes $10,000/Month Online Teaching Others How to Make, Save and Invest Money

How This Family Guy Makes $10,000/Month Online Teaching Others How to Make, Save and Invest Money - Interview with R.J. Weiss from

This is an interview-style post with R.J. Weiss from The Ways to Wealth.

Hey R.J. What’s your background and what do you do?

I blog about all things personal finance at The Ways to Wealth.

Before I went full-time into blogging, I spent ten years in the financial services industry. Specifically, helping families buy the right type of life insurance.

During my time with a full-time job, I’ve always had different side hustles going on. From freelance writing, Amazon FBA, conversion rate optimization, to website design — there were many projects I pursued outside of work.

How did you start your career in finance?

I got started in finance straight out of college working for my the family insurance business. As I love the financial planning side of things, I choose to specialize in life insurance planning. This led me down the path to obtaining the CFP® Certification.

What made you start blogging?

The Ways to Wealth, which I started in 2016, has been my 5th blog.

The others mostly fizzled out most due to a lack of interest. But, in 2009 I started a personal finance blog called (no longer around) that had some success.

The idea was to write about what I was learning about studying to take the CFP®. The blog was, by all means, a success. I was able to gain valuable knowledge, pass the CFP® exam, earn some extra money and build up a good community.

I then took this knowledge and started a business blog, which allowed the insurance agency I was working for to generate leads.

I started The Ways to Wealth because my passion is personal finance–from investing to travel hacking, I love the challenge of optimizing my finances.

How was The Ways to Wealth born?

I didn’t have much of a plan for starting The Ways to Wealth when I purchased the domain name.

I was actually thinking it would be a niche site, which was inspired by Pat Flynn’s niche site duel. Then, I came across the income reports of Michelle Schroeder-Gardner and wisely changed direction to a more traditional blog.

This change came about 6-months after starting to blog.  I did a timeline of the site in one of my income reports.

What worked best when trying to grow the site?

I had a decent knowledge of SEO. So at first, I started growing the site with email outreach. One of the first posts I had about best investing books of all time, had about 15 links to it.

This was nice to start with but was quite slow to build up, as it can take a while to earn Google’s trust.

The big turning point came when I started to understand Pinterest. I spent a few frustrating weeks on the platform, then it finally started paying dividends.

I went from about 100 sessions a day to 1,000, which was huge for me at the time.

How did you get to 3 million monthly viewers on Pinterest?

the ways to wealth pinterest 3 million monthly views

I lay out my Pinterest strategy here. But at the core the idea is to:

1) Write high-quality content that Pinners want to click through, read, and share.

2) Pin to my own and high-quality group boards, with a keyword-rich description.

3) Continue to Pin my best pins across my own boards/group boards, ruthlessly eliminating Pins that don’t perform well.

One thing to keep in mind is impressions don’t mean much on Pinterest. What counts are clicks to your website. So, you want to design not for impressions but clicks.

What aspects of the online business are you outsourcing or automating and how?

The first thing I outsourced was Pinterest design. I’ll design about 30-40 pins a month, so this was big time saver for me.

Of course, it took some work to get going. At first, I hired 5 or so people on Fiverr. I found one decent designer but the work quality deteriorated over time.

I then went to Upwork and posted a job for a  graphic designer. I found a great team down in Argentina, who I’m very happy with.

I’m currently experimenting with working with a ghostwriter. A few of my latest posts have been transcribed from my recording, with the ghostwriter making sense of it all.

I can compile about 3 posts in 90 minutes, then take another 90 or so minutes to prepare them. Saving me around 3-4 hours per post this way.

What’s your main income stream and why do you think it works for you?

My main source of income for the blog is affiliate revenue. It works because the partners I do have are high-quality businesses, who deliver value and solve real problems. This makes it easy to naturally link to such a partner.

When did you start making more than $10K/month and what was the turning point?

My first month over $10K was in January of 2018. In December of 2017, income was around $3,000 and in July of 2017 around $500. So, it was definitely a jump.

What happened then in January?

First, personal finance is at its peak interest in January.

Second, I had multiple Pins go viral.

Third, in November I started driving traffic via Facebook to the site. So, in January I could take campaigns I’d been fine-tuning for a few weeks and scale them.

How do you balance work and family life?

I have a routine I stick to Monday through Friday.

When inside of my designated working hours, I work. When outside of these hours, I’m not.

This is a lot easier said than done. But the thing important for me is not to take work everywhere I go. This means I don’t have any apps on my phone that are work-related (email, analytics, etc..)

What are you 3 best finance tips for newbies?

  • Focus on your savings rate. How much you save is the most important decision you’ll make.
  • Small incremental improvements add up over time. My favorite example is increasing your savings rate 1% every quarter, means you’ll be saving 20% of your income in just 5 years.
  • Study happiness. Become a student on how to increase your level of happiness. The natural result is you’ll want less overtime, making the game of personal finance a lot easier to win.

What books, blogs or podcasts help you stay motivated along the way of growing an online business?

I read a fair amount to keep fresh ideas in my head.

My favorite podcast is The Tim Ferriss Show.

Two blogs I enjoy reading are:

Farnam Street
Barking up the Wrong Tree

And as far as books. I try to read one a week. A few books I would recommend to online entrepreneurs would be:

Deep Work by Cal Newport
The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy
The Four Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss

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