We associate confident people with success. But does confidence lead to success, or does success lead to confidence?
It’s a bit of a chicken and egg scenario. But there is plenty of evidence to suggest that working on your confidence levels will indeed boost your achievements in the workplace.
The thing about confidence is that it works two ways.
On the one hand, exude confidence and your clients and colleagues will have confidence in you – self-belief is very reassuring to others!
In fact, for better or worse, the mere appearance of confidence can be more likely to get you a promotion than your actual ability! When you think of some of the dubious phonies who’ve leapfrogged you in the past, it kinda makes sense, right?
And on the other hand, confidence builds confidence within yourself. When you adopt the look and the sound of the self-assured, you begin to feel bolder on the inside. You take risks and put yourself forward for opportunities you might otherwise not have. You begin to work with clear, bold strokes rather than inching ahead in half-measures.
Great – so how to create that feeling? Well, in the long-term, you can use cognitive behavioral therapy techniques to deal with the underlying causes of your indecisiveness and lack of confidence. But in the short run, getting the aforementioned look and sound of self-belief is a fairly simple matter of adjusting the way you speak, listen, and move.
If you’re particularly shy, try starting with your hands.
Keep them out of your pockets.
Burying your hands in your pockets instantly gives the (possibly correct) impression that you are nervous or uncertain.
And even the (hopefully incorrect) impression that you are dishonest or lazy. Keeping your palms open and faced upwards is a way of opening up to those around you and exuding trust.
Likewise, a firm handshake of around two-five seconds communicates warmth and self-assuredness. A limp handshake, on the other hand, might create the impression that you feel out of your depth. And an over-strong handshake always feels like the giver is trying to prove something!
The next steps are to work on your eye contact and the way that you intone your sentences.
This can be a bit much to think about when you’re struggling with what you actually want to say. Which is why it’s best to start with the other stuff first.
But take it one stage at a time and you can gradually build a confident manner that will start to perpetuate itself by making you feel strong on the inside. For a full guide to the remaining tweaks, you can make to get that feeling, run through this new infographic from Poundplace.
Build your confidence back up, and success will surely follow.
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