12 Steps to Turn a Bad Day Around 64

12 Steps to Turn a Bad Day Around - infographic - letsreachsuccess.com

This is a guest post by Marilyn, a freelance writer, specializing in topics connected to management, careers and self-improvement from a HR perspective. You can find her on Twitter.

No matter how perfectly you have your working day planned, no matter how fine-tuned your routine, disaster can still strike in the shape of the unexpected.

Your good intentions and polished techniques do not preclude the interference of outside forces, or even inner ones – you’re only human, after all. It could be computer trouble, a sick pet, a bad night’s sleep or a nightmare assignment, but when your plans are thrown out of whack it can be tough to get your ideal-you back online.

Bad days are, however, a fact of life. Being in control of your life means learning to roll with the unexpected as much as perfecting your ideal routine.

Working out your own personal method for dealing with day-derailing occurrences can help you to maintain inner peace. What’s more, that positivity can be translated into tangible results.

We’re 31% more productive when we’re chipper, and three times as creative – which is perhaps why we’re 40% more likely to get a promotion. The benefits to your health and to your relationships are also considerable.

So what to do when your perfect plan goes awry?

The first thing to remember is to breathe.

The way we relate to our body dictates so closely what we feel in our minds. Taking deep breaths will help you find a peaceful place from where to begin rebuilding your day.

Only then should you engage your brain: take a comfortable seat, a pencil and paper, and write down in concrete terms what the problem is. Be logical. Try to trace the anger, hurt or fear you’re feeling back to the precise events so as to get a broader view on the situation. And then you should be ready to assess how serious the turn of events really is.

It’s time to re-plan your day.

Maybe you don’t need to make any major changes, or perhaps some sacrifices need to be made to resolve the situation. That’s okay, if it’s the only way forward.

If it’s a minor situation, or something that doesn’t need dealing with urgently, perhaps you can afford to take an hour off while your nerves settle down. Remember, going for a walk, a swim or a shower can be productive if they reboot your system for a more effective performance.

If you don’t have time to get away, it is still worth making the discipline of taking five minutes to reset your mood.

Think about all the good things that are going on with you right now, and the ultimate reward for the tasks that are proving troublesome. If that mood really won’t shift, trying talking to a friend or colleague about it. Rather than purely venting, a meaningful discussion can help you find a new perspective on one level, while distracting you from the raw emotions on another. Never underestimate the healing properties of human warmth!

Finally, whatever goes wrong, remember that there’s a lesson to be taken from each setback or mistake – even if that lesson is simply how to cope better next time the unexpected strikes. For more ideas on getting ahead of the game on that one, be sure to check out the infographic below by Headway Capital for a step-by-step guide to defusing a good day gone bad.

What about you? How do you turn a bad day around?

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Alternatives to The Twelve-Step Program 38

Alternatives to The Twelve-Step Program

For those suffering from addiction, the Twelve-Step Program is the world’s most famous method of recovery. It was introduced back in 1939 in The Alcoholics Anonymous ‘Big Book’ as it’s come to be known.

It’s since helped many more than one hundred men (and women) and has been only slightly adapted over the years. Regardless of small changes, the core principles of admitting alcohol/narcotic dependency, believing that God can restore health, and making amends to others hurt during one’s addiction are retained.

While this program has had many successes in helping thousands across the world to overcome their addictions, there are two main criticisms:

  • It doesn’t work for everyone, and;
  • It is founded on faith in a Higher Power.

Some people try this famous program, lauded as the ultimate key to sobriety, only to be disappointed and feel a sense of hopelessness that something that has worked for so many hasn’t worked for them.

Others are put off that belief in God is required to truly embody the program, which some people simply don’t align with.

It’s important to remember that the Twelve-Step Program is far from the only addiction management and recovery method out there. Every individual is different; therefore, a one-size-fits-all approach to addiction (or indeed anything) is impossible.

Here are some other recovery programs that have facilitated recovery from addiction for many people around the globe.

SMART Recovery

This organization focuses on cognitive behavioral therapies that help addicts to adapt their reactions, thought processes and dependencies into healthier habits. It helps those with alcohol and drug dependency recognize the emotional and environmental factors behind their problems and learn to manage addictive behaviors. SMART is committed to evolving its program as scientific knowledge evolves; remaining active rather than static where addiction treatment is concerned.

If this sounds like something you’d like to try, there are over 635 groups in the US and 613 international groups – it’s more than likely that there is one in your vicinity.

Women for Sobriety

If you are a woman who feels she would be more comfortable supported by a group of women, this is offered by WFS.

The group was founded in the 1970s by Jean Kirkland, who developed her own way of overcoming addiction and dependency. It centers on bolstering women’s self-value and addresses the individual emotional issues that lay behind each person’s addiction. 

S.O.S.

If Twelve-Steps hasn’t worked or isn’t something you want to try, but you’re open to getting support from a secular organization, then S.O.S. could be an option to explore.

They work on an abstinence-based approach and their groups are free to anyone who wishes to be free from addiction. They are a non-profit organization and cover running costs with donations, which are greatly appreciated by anyone who uses the service or other supporters.

Meetings generally begin with celebrations of sobriety and abstinence anniversaries, followed by discussions and group activities. They aim to create a positive, buoyant atmosphere through which to motivate members. Sharing of advice and strength is promoted and members are encouraged to offer their utmost support to others. 

Besides these examples, there are hundreds, if not thousands, of rehabilitation facilities all over the world that have developed their own recovery programs – it’s down to the individual to choose one that they think will benefit them best. This rehab website from NJ gives details about the SOBA College Recovery which integrates addiction rehabilitation with treatment for coexisting mental health disorders and return to education for young adults.

There are a multitude of options out there – some simple research is sure to find a path right for you.

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This article is not certified medical advice. If you or a loved one is struggling with addiction, please consult your doctor for medical advice about how it is best for you to begin to change your lifestyle.