The Mirror Technique: A Beginner’s Guide to Building Self-Confidence 1220

The Mirror Technique: A Beginner's Guide to Building Self-Confidence

The mirror technique may be the answer to all your problems. The following guide will tell you why…

If we could all have one quality that would get us ahead in every area of life, it would be confidence. Because that’s what we need more of, and that’s the tool that can help us kickstart every day and be a winner in life.

Confidence is the ultimate success, as even if you don’t have the right qualities for a job, or else, you can still do it simply because you believe in yourself to such an extent, that all uncertainty, doubts, and fears are gone. And you see yourself successful before you actually are. Once you have this mindset, nothing can stop you.

But how do we become so confident in our abilities? What is it that makes us believe in ourselves so much that no outer factor can affect our performance anymore?

By simply talking to ourselves in the mirror.

The Mirror Technique: Definition

The mirror technique is a confidence-building exercise. It lets you use your subconscious mind to appear and feel more confident in a matter of minutes.

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Talking to yourself in the mirror: How to do it?

All you need is a mirror. You stand straight in front of it, with your head up and shoulders back. You look into your eyes, breathe deeply and start repeating powerful affirmations out loud.

This practice has a huge impact on many areas of your life if done daily. You don’t need any preparation, knowledge, experience or even a little confidence.

All you need to do is look at your reflection and say positive, successful, motivational statements about yourself as a person and your life in general.

How often should you do it for maximum results?

Start with twice a day – in the morning right after you wake up, and in the evening before you go to bed.

These are the two best times of the day for this exercise. Here’s why:

What you do first thing in the morning sets the tone for the day. Your mind is most susceptible in the first minutes upon opening your eyes, and if you engage it in such an activity, the affirmations you’ll repeat in the mirror will take your consciousness to a deeper level and you’ll feel an instant self-esteem boost.

Then, do it again in the evening to make the effect even bigger.

People often wonder how long they should do the mirror technique each time. Truth is, the longer you manage to do it, the better. But for a beginner, it’s going to be hard to keep doing it for 10 minutes from scratch.

That’s why you should start small. As we do with every other new behavior.

Do it for a minute today. And for the next few days. Then you’ll feel more comfortable doing it, won’t forget and will soon feel like it’s easy to keep it up for long. That’s when you can do it for 5 minutes. Then 6. And so on.

By the time you do it on autopilot, the mirror technique will already be an important part of your daily schedule and you’ll be increasing your confidence day after day.

Mirror Technique: Benefits

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Here’s why the mirror technique is the best confidence building exercise:

• you start feeling more comfortable in your own skin;
• you accept the way you look and behave;
• your communication skills improve;
• each time you do the exercise, you’ll give yourself a self-esteem and a motivation boost;
• you’ll be more positive;
• you’ll start believing in your own abilities and thus be ready to try new stuff;
• you won’t feel inferior to others anymore;
• you’ll appreciate yourself for who you are and will embrace your good qualities;
• you won’t be afraid to look people in the eyes;
• you’ll appear more confident in front of others;
• you’ll have a higher opinion of yourself;
• you won’t have doubts;
• you’ll be more decisive;
• you’ll set higher goals and will be more confident in your chance to reach them;
• you’ll look and be stronger and people will start treating you differently.

What makes the mirror technique unique and practical is the power of the mirror, the effect saying positive affirmations out loud has on our mindset, the benefits of doing such successful activities every single day and the magic of believing.

It’s a combination of hypnosis, psychology, pep talk, gratitude, positive thinking, focused thoughts and a strong belief.

Mirror Technique: What to Tell Yourself in Front of The Mirror

Looking in the mirror and talking to yourself does help.

So many successful people are doing it even after they’ve achieved a lot, only because they know how powerful this little habit is, and how when done daily, can be the one thing that turns their life around.

And the little secret is that saying things in front of a mirror really does make you believe it. It doesn’t change anything in the physical world, but it puts strong, focused thoughts in your mind. And they shape your reality later on.

But what should we say to ourselves in the mirror so that we can hack our self-esteem and actually become more confident?

Here are some positive affirmations that will help you feel the benefits of this technique (plus exact lines to tell yourself every morning and evening to gain self-confidence):

1. Your good qualities.

Start saying out loud all the good things you’ve ever heard about yourself, the compliments you’ve received, the things you like about yourself, your good sides, the stuff that makes you different from others.

Say things like:

I believe in myself no matter what.
I’ve succeeded before, I can do it again.
The only limitations are the ones in my head, and I won’t let them stop me from going after what I want in life.
I’m an individual and have the right to love, be loved, fight for what I believe in and achieve success.
I’m beautiful and people see that.
I make the right choices.
Every day I get stronger, more experienced and confident in myself.
I have the potential to do great things with my life.

2. Positive things about the following day.

Today is going to be a great day.
At the end of it, I’ll be proud of how much I’ve achieved.
Wherever I go, I’ll radiate confidence.
Others will respect me and look up to me.
I deserve the best and only good things are coming my way.
I’m surrounded by other confident people.

3. Confidence affirmations.

I’m proud of who I am.
I’m self-reliant.
My voice sounds confident.
I trust myself.
I look people in the eyes.
I am confident of what life has planned for me.
I respect myself.
I deserve the best.

Other Questions You May Have about The Mirror Technique

mirror technique exercise to build self-confidence

How long does it take for it to work?

If you keep doing it twice a day and do your best to say the affirmations in the mirror as confident as you can, you’ll feel much better and your self-esteem will be higher in a week, or 10 days. And from then on, you’ll feel more comfortable with yourself after each time you practice the exercise.

Does smiling in the mirror help?

Yes, it does. It makes the technique even more powerful because you’re using body language, and not only your mind but your body too believe what you’re saying.

Is the mirror technique only for building confidence?

No. It can be used for any other thing you want to believe in. With it, you can change your approach to life, become more optimistic, get over a traumatic event, etc.

I talk to myself in the mirror. Is that okay?

Some people who haven’t heard of this exercise may realize they’ve already tried it. And that’s great. It’s a successful technique so many people use, that helps them believe in themselves and thus achieve more in life. It’s nothing more than using body language and the power of your mind to build some confidence.

So that’s all you need to know about the mirror technique. Now you have no excuse not to practice it daily and feel its amazing effects.

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Going Minimalist in The Sharing Economy: Why It Makes Sense to Rent Our Belongings 29

Going Minimalist in The Sharing Economy: Why It Makes Sense to Rent Our Belongings

Last week, Jeremy Rifkin’s documentary “The Third Industrial Revolution: A New Sharing Economy” brought to public attention the importance that efficient sharing economies will have in coming years. The slowing of industrial productivity, coupled with the looming climate change crisis means that the game is up for the “take, make and dispose” model that we currently operate on.

This might seem a little inaccessible from the point of view of an individual. Most of us don’t have time to make lunch in the morning let alone contemplate changing economic models.

Yet the sharing economy is growing all around us, from Gumtree to Airbnb and most recently, stuff-sharing marketplaces like Fat Lama.

Born out of East-London in 2016, Fat Lama is a peer-to-peer rental platform where users can borrow items they need and rent out items that they don’t. It’s completely free to list items and operates out of your local area.

Put simply it’s a way for people to make money off their belongings and for others to gain access to equipment they might not otherwise be able to afford. However, the platform has the potential to become a lifestyle as much as a utility. Here are just a few of the benefits:

Saving The Environment

By 2022, the planet will have produced a staggering 50 million tonnes of e-waste.

This is by no means as harmless as it sounds. We are racing through computers, phones, cameras and cables at an alarming rate and worst of all, we recycle none of it.

By investing in the sharing economy and renting rather than buying, you can make a stance against the destructive and wasteful effects of linear consumerism.

To illustrate the paradigm, let’s take the example of a power drill, which, shockingly, is used for a grand total of 13 minutes on average in its life. It is a waste of money and is using up precious resources to buy such an item. Whereas if you rent from Fat Lama, the price of which is around $5 per day, you will end up saving yourself needless expenditure at no extra cost for the planet. This is not just true of drills, but Lawn Mowers, leaf blowers, cameras and projectors.

Go Local

One of the big downsides to living in an urban environment is the lack of community spirit. Cities can feel stiflingly disconnected and it is not uncommon for a resident to have never spoken to a single person on their street.

There has been efforts made to re-localize districts, with cafés bars and social hubs popping up in suburbs all over the world. However, if you are looking for something more personal, using Fat Lama puts you into contact with hundreds of locals living around you who often, given the circumstances, have the same interests as you do.

For instance, if you are looking to rent a surfboard or Kayak, chances are the owner will be an enthusiast as well. This could lead to at the very least a friendly interaction if not a friendship.

Save Money and The Planet

The other great strength of renting rather than buying that it will save you a packet.

The sharing economy is founded on the principle that limiting ownership reduces marginal costs because the cost of production storage etc. is mitigated from the equation.

To return to the power drill analogy, a low-end model will cost you around $100, which means that every minute of use is around just under $8. Unless your drill doubles up as a cocktail-maker, this seems like an enormous waste of money. In comparison, the average electric drill on Fat Lama will cost you less than $8; really it’s a no-brainer.

Make Some Moral Money

Aside from the obvious social benefits, you can turn your underused belongings into hard cash, with virtually no effort.

We have all made some questionable purchases. Whether it’s that DSLR you promised your parents you were going to use or that sound system that never get used because of you neighbours. Now they don’t have to be an ugly reminder of the lost money but active assets that can start paying for themselves. Often the money made from these items can far exceed their original price, with some users earning up to $5000 dollars a month, more than the minimum wage in any country.

These are just a few examples of the way in which renting can impact your life for the better.

Right now it’s the fastest growing sector but the possibilities are infinite. What I hope you take away from this is that being an ethical consumer doesn’t have to be a bleak future of Spartan self-control but rather a re-imagining of the way goods flow today. Clean consumerism is not a dream, it’s right in front of us.