5 Confidence Techniques Using Your Subconscious Mind You Should Try Today 90

5 Confidence Techniques Using Your Subconscious Mind You Should Try Today

Confidence is one of the things we all want more of. And after experimenting with plenty of self-esteem hacks, listening to other people’s advice, reading and learning about the science of confidence, we realize it all begins on the inside. The answers and solutions lie in our subconscious mind, but getting there takes some practice and a bit of hacking.

Let’s see some confidence techniques using the power of your mind, to finally become the confident individual you’re destined to be:

1. Give affirmations a try.

Affirmations are a popular thing, especially if you’re interested in the Law of Attraction. They are powerful simply because you repeat (out loud or in your mind) positive statements about a certain result you want to achieve.

Eventually, your mind hears it so often, and you sound more and more convincing, that it starts believing this as if it’s already true. And whatever the mind believes, it conceives. So you start taking more action as a result of this newly gained determination and faith.

2. Know what’s effective on a subconscious level.

Not everyone can stay consistent enough to see progress with affirmations, though. So it’s smarter to use a few tricks to make it more effective.

The way your mind works when you want to get a new desire or thought in it is this: it first reaches your subconscious mind (if it’s present for at least a quarter of second), then needs time and a strong enough stimulus to reach the conscious mind, which will notice and remember it.

It’s proven that the brain activity comes first. That is followed by a decision, and eventually we take action upon what we want.

For a start, be aware that not everything gets to the subconscious mind. So a long affirmation, no matter how detailed and positive it is, won’t do the job quickly enough. It’s important to stay consistent with using affirmations though, and so we need results faster. In this case, make them shorter and simpler.

Choose positive statements that will bring you to where you want to be if they were true.

Write down something like ‘I love exercising!’ if you want to lose weight. Repeat it to yourself daily. When your mind feels comfortable with it you’ll actually begin doing it more. And the moment you start living a more active lifestyle, you’ll also begin getting in shape. 

3. Keep a confidence journal.

How to Use The Morning Pages Exercise as a Therapy

The reason why I want you to give this is a try is because writing things down helps our brain internalize them. Most often, we just wish for things and don’t know why. But if you write about being confident, why you want it and how your life will be better once you boost your self-esteem, you’ll finally  know the ‘why’ behind everything. That gives your mind the power to bring the right circumstances to you and help you generate ideas on how to get there quickly.

Some people journal their thoughts daily to let go of what’s on their mind and reduce stress. Others – many successful people, actually – keep morning pages, where they write about what they’ll achieve today.

Just turn this practice into one related to boosting your confidence, and you’ll notice results pretty soon. Do it first thing in the morning when no outer factors have had the chance to affect your subconscious mind. Or before bed, to go to sleep with a clear mind.

4. Ditch the negative self-talk.

The next confidence technique you should try is to remove anything negative from your life that might be destroying your self-esteem.

First, that’s the negative self-talk. Every time you say you can’t do something, think you’ll fail, or that you aren’t good enough to be part of somebody’s life after you’ve been rejected, you contribute to your lack of confidence. Your conscious mind remembers these emotions and will often remind you of how you felt, thus bringing this to the present moment.

Get out of this vicious circle by noticing when you’re being negative, saying ‘stop’, and replacing it with a positive thought.

But the negativity around us doesn’t stop here. It could be your parents, teachers, partner, friends, colleagues or else. If some of the people you’re around daily have the habit of criticizing you, then you’ll eventually believe their comments and stop having faith in yourself.

Authority figures from childhood are one of the biggest reasons why we lack self-esteem. It’s important to think about this, analyze their behavior, understand that it has nothing to do with your abilities and who you’ve become, and let go of their opinion.

5. Try guided meditation for self-esteem.

Meditation is a wonderful exercise for the brain. And although it’s simple, most people struggle to make it a habit. It takes a bit of effort to learn to let go and just focus on your breathing. Once you get good at this, it’s time to bring in the power of positive affirmations.

But there’s another way to go about meditation and use it as a tool to increase your self-esteem. That’s guided meditation.

Just find an isolated place, put your headphones on, and listen to the sounds or instructions.

You’ll reach a state of hypnosis, and will find it much easier to forget about the reality around you and just be one with your mind. There’s plenty of free audio available online which you can give a try, and find what works best for you.

Could be relaxing sounds of nature, or confidence affirmations by a soothing voice.

Now that you’re familiar with these 5 confidence techniques using your subconscious mind, you can take action today to improve your self-esteem no later than tomorrow. What will you give a try first?

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Why Top Executives Meditate (and Why Should You) 29

Why Top Executives Meditate (and Why Should You)

If you want to perform at a high level – whether in tennis, chess or at work – you either have to study how the masters in that field train and operate, or you need to be so stupendously talented that nobody is in a position to give you any advice at all.

For most of us, the latter doesn’t apply, so getting better is partly a question of emulating what we see those we admire doing. At the C level in top companies, this obviously includes things like actively networking, knowing as much as possible about your industry and training your subordinates.

A less visible habit is becoming more popular among top executives, though: meditation. Let’s take a look at a few reasons why some business superstars consider this a vital part of their daily routine:

Rebooting a Negative Mindset

When you have to deal with dozens of issues each day, it’s inevitable that you’ll have some successes and some failures.

The problem arises when our responses to setbacks start bleeding over into other matters. Meditation helps us to dispassionately examine our negative thoughts and get back on an even keel before the next meeting.

Most of us will have experienced days where we hit an upsetting snag first thing in the morning, after which nothing we try seems to go right. Rationally speaking, this can’t be because your horoscope says that your day will suck or accidents come in threes: the most likely explanation is simply that suffering a reverse conditions us to act in a way that doesn’t lead to success.

Remaining Objective

Although we’d like to deny it, our “rational” decisions are shaped at least as much by our emotions as by the relevant facts. This becomes even more true when we’re under pressure; anyone interested in how this works will find plenty of examples in Ben Horowitz’s book, “The Hard Thing About Hard Things.”

Simply put, when our emotions are engaged, we become less able to find creative solutions to problems, see the wood for the trees and tell our needs from our wants.

Meditating, even if only briefly, helps us separate fact from perception and feeling from thought, leading to better judgment and more a consistent management style.

Releasing Stress

Although closely related to the previous points, the negative impact of persistent stress on our health makes it worthwhile discussing this separately.

The roots of stress are many: frustration, anger, disappointment, anxiety. These feelings can’t really be avoided in a management position, so many executives turn to a therapist or therapy, exercise or uninterrupted time with their family for release.

These approaches are all effective, but meditation has the advantage that doing it regularly trains our minds to enter a “centered” state within a very short time of closing our eyes and stilling our thoughts.

Once the habit has been established, whenever things get to the point where our palms are sweaty and we feel the need to yell at the wallpaper, we need only take two or five minutes to get back to the “real” us. This ability is simply invaluable for anyone who has to be at their best all the time, which means that it’s great news that meditation can be learned by anyone.