5 Confidence Techniques Using Your Subconscious Mind You Should Try Today

5 Confidence Techniques Using Your Subconscious Mind You Should Try Today

Confidence is one of the things we all want more of. And after experimenting with plenty of self-esteem hacks, listening to other people’s advice, reading and learning about the science of confidence, we realize it all begins on the inside. The answers and solutions lie in our subconscious mind, but getting there takes some practice and a bit of hacking.

Let’s see some confidence techniques using the power of your mind, to finally become the confident individual you’re destined to be:

1. Give affirmations a try.

Affirmations are a popular thing, especially if you’re interested in the Law of Attraction. They are powerful simply because you repeat (out loud or in your mind) positive statements about a certain result you want to achieve.

Eventually, your mind hears it so often, and you sound more and more convincing, that it starts believing this as if it’s already true. And whatever the mind believes, it conceives. So you start taking more action as a result of this newly gained determination and faith.

2. Know what’s effective on a subconscious level.

Not everyone can stay consistent enough to see progress with affirmations, though. So it’s smarter to use a few tricks to make it more effective.

The way your mind works when you want to get a new desire or thought in it is this: it first reaches your subconscious mind (if it’s present for at least a quarter of second), then needs time and a strong enough stimulus to reach the conscious mind, which will notice and remember it.

It’s proven that the brain activity comes first. That is followed by a decision, and eventually we take action upon what we want.

For a start, be aware that not everything gets to the subconscious mind. So a long affirmation, no matter how detailed and positive it is, won’t do the job quickly enough. It’s important to stay consistent with using affirmations though, and so we need results faster. In this case, make them shorter and simpler.

Choose positive statements that will bring you to where you want to be if they were true.

Write down something like ‘I love exercising!’ if you want to lose weight. Repeat it to yourself daily. When your mind feels comfortable with it you’ll actually begin doing it more. And the moment you start living a more active lifestyle, you’ll also begin getting in shape. 

3. Keep a confidence journal.

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The reason why I want you to give this is a try is because writing things down helps our brain internalize them. Most often, we just wish for things and don’t know why. But if you write about being confident, why you want it and how your life will be better once you boost your self-esteem, you’ll finally  know the ‘why’ behind everything. That gives your mind the power to bring the right circumstances to you and help you generate ideas on how to get there quickly.

Some people journal their thoughts daily to let go of what’s on their mind and reduce stress. Others – many successful people, actually – keep morning pages, where they write about what they’ll achieve today.

Just turn this practice into one related to boosting your confidence, and you’ll notice results pretty soon. Do it first thing in the morning when no outer factors have had the chance to affect your subconscious mind. Or before bed, to go to sleep with a clear mind.

4. Ditch the negative self-talk.

The next confidence technique you should try is to remove anything negative from your life that might be destroying your self-esteem.

First, that’s the negative self-talk. Every time you say you can’t do something, think you’ll fail, or that you aren’t good enough to be part of somebody’s life after you’ve been rejected, you contribute to your lack of confidence. Your conscious mind remembers these emotions and will often remind you of how you felt, thus bringing this to the present moment.

Get out of this vicious circle by noticing when you’re being negative, saying ‘stop’, and replacing it with a positive thought.

But the negativity around us doesn’t stop here. It could be your parents, teachers, partner, friends, colleagues or else. If some of the people you’re around daily have the habit of criticizing you, then you’ll eventually believe their comments and stop having faith in yourself.

Authority figures from childhood are one of the biggest reasons why we lack self-esteem. It’s important to think about this, analyze their behavior, understand that it has nothing to do with your abilities and who you’ve become, and let go of their opinion.

5. Try guided meditation for self-esteem.

Meditation is a wonderful exercise for the brain. And although it’s simple, most people struggle to make it a habit. It takes a bit of effort to learn to let go and just focus on your breathing. Once you get good at this, it’s time to bring in the power of positive affirmations.

But there’s another way to go about meditation and use it as a tool to increase your self-esteem. That’s guided meditation.

Just find an isolated place, put your headphones on, and listen to the sounds or instructions.

You’ll reach a state of hypnosis, and will find it much easier to forget about the reality around you and just be one with your mind. There’s plenty of free audio available online which you can give a try, and find what works best for you.

Could be relaxing sounds of nature, or confidence affirmations by a soothing voice.

Now that you’re familiar with these 5 confidence techniques using your subconscious mind, you can take action today to improve your self-esteem no later than tomorrow. What will you give a try first?

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How This Family Guy Makes $10,000/Month Online Teaching Others How to Make, Save and Invest Money

How This Family Guy Makes $10,000/Month Online Teaching Others How to Make, Save and Invest Money - Interview with R.J. Weiss from TheWaystoWealth.com

This is an interview-style post with R.J. Weiss from The Ways to Wealth.

Hey R.J. What’s your background and what do you do?

I blog about all things personal finance at The Ways to Wealth.

Before I went full-time into blogging, I spent ten years in the financial services industry. Specifically, helping families buy the right type of life insurance.

During my time with a full-time job, I’ve always had different side hustles going on. From freelance writing, Amazon FBA, conversion rate optimization, to website design — there were many projects I pursued outside of work.

How did you start your career in finance?

I got started in finance straight out of college working for my the family insurance business. As I love the financial planning side of things, I choose to specialize in life insurance planning. This led me down the path to obtaining the CFP® Certification.

What made you start blogging?

The Ways to Wealth, which I started in 2016, has been my 5th blog.

The others mostly fizzled out most due to a lack of interest. But, in 2009 I started a personal finance blog called GenYWealth.com (no longer around) that had some success.

The idea GenYwealth.com was to write about what I was learning about studying to take the CFP®. The blog was, by all means, a success. I was able to gain valuable knowledge, pass the CFP® exam, earn some extra money and build up a good community.

I then took this knowledge and started a business blog, which allowed the insurance agency I was working for to generate leads.

I started The Ways to Wealth because my passion is personal finance–from investing to travel hacking, I love the challenge of optimizing my finances.

How was The Ways to Wealth born?

I didn’t have much of a plan for starting The Ways to Wealth when I purchased the domain name.

I was actually thinking it would be a niche site, which was inspired by Pat Flynn’s niche site duel. Then, I came across the income reports of Michelle Schroeder-Gardner and wisely changed direction to a more traditional blog.

This change came about 6-months after starting to blog.  I did a timeline of the site in one of my income reports.

What worked best when trying to grow the site?

I had a decent knowledge of SEO. So at first, I started growing the site with email outreach. One of the first posts I had about best investing books of all time, had about 15 links to it.

This was nice to start with but was quite slow to build up, as it can take a while to earn Google’s trust.

The big turning point came when I started to understand Pinterest. I spent a few frustrating weeks on the platform, then it finally started paying dividends.

I went from about 100 sessions a day to 1,000, which was huge for me at the time.

How did you get to 3 million monthly viewers on Pinterest?

the ways to wealth pinterest 3 million monthly views

I lay out my Pinterest strategy here. But at the core the idea is to:

1) Write high-quality content that Pinners want to click through, read, and share.

2) Pin to my own and high-quality group boards, with a keyword-rich description.

3) Continue to Pin my best pins across my own boards/group boards, ruthlessly eliminating Pins that don’t perform well.

One thing to keep in mind is impressions don’t mean much on Pinterest. What counts are clicks to your website. So, you want to design not for impressions but clicks.

What aspects of the online business are you outsourcing or automating and how?

The first thing I outsourced was Pinterest design. I’ll design about 30-40 pins a month, so this was big time saver for me.

Of course, it took some work to get going. At first, I hired 5 or so people on Fiverr. I found one decent designer but the work quality deteriorated over time.

I then went to Upwork and posted a job for a  graphic designer. I found a great team down in Argentina, who I’m very happy with.

I’m currently experimenting with working with a ghostwriter. A few of my latest posts have been transcribed from my recording, with the ghostwriter making sense of it all.

I can compile about 3 posts in 90 minutes, then take another 90 or so minutes to prepare them. Saving me around 3-4 hours per post this way.

What’s your main income stream and why do you think it works for you?

My main source of income for the blog is affiliate revenue. It works because the partners I do have are high-quality businesses, who deliver value and solve real problems. This makes it easy to naturally link to such a partner.

When did you start making more than $10K/month and what was the turning point?

My first month over $10K was in January of 2018. In December of 2017, income was around $3,000 and in July of 2017 around $500. So, it was definitely a jump.

What happened then in January?

First, personal finance is at its peak interest in January.

Second, I had multiple Pins go viral.

Third, in November I started driving traffic via Facebook to the site. So, in January I could take campaigns I’d been fine-tuning for a few weeks and scale them.

How do you balance work and family life?

I have a routine I stick to Monday through Friday.

When inside of my designated working hours, I work. When outside of these hours, I’m not.

This is a lot easier said than done. But the thing important for me is not to take work everywhere I go. This means I don’t have any apps on my phone that are work-related (email, analytics, etc..)

What are you 3 best finance tips for newbies?

  • Focus on your savings rate. How much you save is the most important decision you’ll make.
  • Small incremental improvements add up over time. My favorite example is increasing your savings rate 1% every quarter, means you’ll be saving 20% of your income in just 5 years.
  • Study happiness. Become a student on how to increase your level of happiness. The natural result is you’ll want less overtime, making the game of personal finance a lot easier to win.

What books, blogs or podcasts help you stay motivated along the way of growing an online business?

I read a fair amount to keep fresh ideas in my head.

My favorite podcast is The Tim Ferriss Show.

Two blogs I enjoy reading are:

Farnam Street
Barking up the Wrong Tree

And as far as books. I try to read one a week. A few books I would recommend to online entrepreneurs would be:

Deep Work by Cal Newport
The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy
The Four Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss

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Check out my interview with R.J. from TheWaystoWealth to see how he entered the finance niche, started making money blogging, began bringing traffic from Pinterest and monetizing it with affiliate marketing, and is now making $10,000/month from his online business. #blogger #interview #blogtraffic #incomeideas #income