How to Let go of Grudges and Learn to Forgive 97

Let go of grudges and learn how to forgive

There are so many things on our minds in each moment.

Most of them, however, are just not necessary and are ruining our present moment.

We need to realize that we can’t control the world and change it so that it can be the way we like it.

We shouldn’t be angry with the past, but let go of what has happened and make peace with it.

We often think we’ve done horrible things and deserve to be punished. But the biggest punishment is the guilt we live in.

We forget that others have done much worse, and whatever it is that has happened, can’t be changed.

Then comes forgiveness – the ultimate salvation.

It’s the solution to all of the above.

We should forgive ourselves for everything we’ve done that we don’t like, and others too.

How to forgive?

Simply realize that you and the other person are worth forgiving.

Once forgiven, we’ll let go of the need to control and will embrace uncertainty. Then life will turn into a beautiful flow and we will follow the natural course of events.

We won’t be angry with the past anymore, because we will have understood that our mistakes and failures are a result of us trying to do something. Which means we haven’t given up.

Our failures don’t define us. How we react to them in the present, however, is crucial.
And the wiser choice is to accept past events, take the lessons they were meant to teach us and move on.

Then, whatever bad we’ve done, will seem meaningless.
Because it’s never such a big deal compared to everything else going on.

We need to accept our humanity because that’s who we are – human beings with imperfections.

You can be at peace right now just by letting go – by freeing yourself of the need to be punished for what you’ve done, the desire to change things, to fix problems.

What happens when you forgive?

Forgiveness is a universal language and has so many benefits.

It helps you reach emotional and spiritual freedom and live a happy life.
It helps others because you let them continue their life in peace and let things from the past stay there.
It’s great for the world in general because it’s an element of compassion.

Forgiveness also helps us let go of guilt.

Guilt is something so many of us struggle with these days. And it’s the way we punish ourselves for what we think we did wrong.

But it’s not necessary. You can easily leave it behind and move on, instead of experiencing the past all over again.

And keep in mind that no one else can forgive you but yourself.

So let go of that guilt, together with the grudges you hold against others.

By living in guilt we create our own hell.

That’s why we need to go beyond these distractions and try to touch our true nature. Then to forgive ourselves for what was and what will be, and finally experience what is.

To do that, you must find something worthy inside you.

Most people can’t forgive because they think they don’t deserve it, or focus on the bad sides of the person who did something to them.
But the right approach is to focus on the good.

We’re all a combination of good and bad. It’s what we choose to act upon that makes our destiny.

Keep that in mind when judging others or yourself too much.

Also, be compassionate. Understand people and don’t be too harsh. Everyone has their own battles, fears and problems. So why don’t you forgive the people in your life and thus make their journey easier?

And once again, forgiveness is the ultimate salvation. Don’t underestimate its power because of its simplicity.

Just forgive, breathe deeply and move on.

Have you ever forgiven anyone? How did you feel after that?

See also:

Why it’s difficult to forgive
Let go and forgive
Inner peace
Set yourself free
Don’t let anger control your life

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4 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Ignore Your Mental Health 33

4 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Ignore Your Mental Health

While most people pay the most attention to their physical health and work hard to achieve a healthy body, they often overlook the potential mental health issues that may have been well tucked away.

Understanding and paying sufficient attention to your mental health issues is an action that should be prioritized in every situation. What could seem like the simplest mental health problem to you might actually be affecting your life in more ways that you can imagine.

Here are just a few reasons why you shouldn’t ignore the signs.

1. It Is Way More Common Than You Believe.

You might think that mental illness is not present in many situations but the truth is that almost everyone has or is facing such an issue.

In fact, one in five Americans suffers from some type of mental illness. The saddest part about this though, is that very few of them seek treatment.

The person affected by the illness can even be one of your family members. Sadly, symptoms are easy to hide and even people who are severely depressed can mask their health issues from their families and avoid getting help.

2. It Can Also Affect Your Physical Health.

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It is known from a long time ago that the connection between the mind and the body is strong. Any sort of physical distress can have a huge effect on your capability to work or focus on things around you. Following this same rule, any sort of mental problem can easily affect your physical health too.

The first few things that a mental illness will affect are your mood, energy levels, sleep cycles, appetite and quite possibly your sex drive. Along with these problems and as a result of them, your immune system can also be affected and that can lead to more often colds and an overall impairment of your physical health.

People who face mental illnesses are often left unmotivated and drained of energy.

The illness blurs your mind so much that you have no energy left to function properly in your everyday life. Ask any person that has faced a major depression and they will tell you just how much they let themselves go and how they stopped caring about simple everyday things, such as brushing their teeth or taking a shower.

Physical symptoms won’t take long to appear and you will simply keep increasing your risk factor of a number of health problems such as heart disease or heart palpitations, insomnia and fatigue. It is very important that you ask for help if you feel such symptoms arising. Make sure that you consult a board-certified practitioner to be certain that a mental problem is not the cause of them.   

3. It Plays an Important Role in Your Success.

One of the most frequent symptoms of a mental illness is the lack of motivation. You just feel so tired of everything, you find that you are not interested in what others are doing and you just end up losing interest in things you used to love.

The lack of mental health can, therefore, play a huge role in your success. No matter if you are a college student, an employee or a working parent, you can easily lose sense of what’s important to you and hinder your success in whatever role you might have.

In whichever situation you might be, you will definitely need to be able to be creative and productive. Your success in your studies or your workplace might be your only source of stability and income.

An untreated mental illness can be the reason behind your reduced productivity, your lack of creativity and your overall negative attitude towards your work.

Keep in mind that a large number of homeless people are those who are suffering from a mental illness but sadly left it untreated.

Looking for help and letting the mental health professionals guide you can take a lot of weight off your shoulders. It can help you see things from a different perspective and give you the courage and motivation you need to get back on track and find yourself again.

4. It Can Affect Your Relationship with Your Peers.

Most people who face a mental illness find themselves intimidated by social situations. Even spending time with friends or family can seem like a very tiring or pointless task and they will often opt out of it. It is important to remember that this does not apply only to depressed people, as many might think, but to a large area of mental issues.

Anxiety disorders can alienate a person from their circle because of the constant fear of something going wrong, of someone not liking them or of an overall new situation. It is very common for the solution to your mental health issue to be holding the key to you getting back your behavioral health.

Mental illness can also affect your relationship with your family.

Apart from losing contact with people you probably care about, you might even end up harming them more than you think. It is not rare to see a person struggle both financially but also emotionally when it comes to helping family members that are battling mental illness.

Another very important reason to not take your mental health lightly is for the sake of your children. It is very often reported that children of people who struggle with a mental illness are abused or neglected. That can play a huge role in their lives and affect their entire lives, from childhood to adulthood.

Make Your Mental Health an Everyday Goal!

There are many places to turn to for help. The National Alliance on Mental Illness, otherwise known as NAMI, can be a great place to start. Through it, you can find a suitable medical center that will provide you with the suitable health services to help you regain your mental health.

It is important that you are not ashamed of your personal struggles or mental issues. Everything is part of the human nature and the fact that there are so many people available to help comes to show just how human this situation is and how much attention we, as a society, should be paying to this important issue.


Leona Henryson is a professional writer and passionate blogger. Her goal is to help people achieve their personal self-development and mental wellness.