How to Let go of Grudges and Learn to Forgive

Let go of grudges and learn how to forgive

There are so many things on our minds in each moment.

Most of them, however, are just not necessary and are ruining our present moment.

We need to realize that we can’t control the world and change it so that it can be the way we like it.

We shouldn’t be angry with the past, but let go of what has happened and make peace with it.

We often think we’ve done horrible things and deserve to be punished. But the biggest punishment is the guilt we live in.

We forget that others have done much worse, and whatever it is that has happened, can’t be changed.

Then comes forgiveness – the ultimate salvation.

It’s the solution to all of the above.

We should forgive ourselves for everything we’ve done that we don’t like, and others too.

How to forgive?

Simply realize that you and the other person are worth forgiving.

Once forgiven, we’ll let go of the need to control and will embrace uncertainty. Then life will turn into a beautiful flow and we will follow the natural course of events.

We won’t be angry with the past anymore, because we will have understood that our mistakes and failures are a result of us trying to do something. Which means we haven’t given up.

Our failures don’t define us. How we react to them in the present, however, is crucial.
And the wiser choice is to accept past events, take the lessons they were meant to teach us and move on.

Then, whatever bad we’ve done, will seem meaningless.
Because it’s never such a big deal compared to everything else going on.

We need to accept our humanity because that’s who we are – human beings with imperfections.

You can be at peace right now just by letting go – by freeing yourself of the need to be punished for what you’ve done, the desire to change things, to fix problems.

What happens when you forgive?

Forgiveness is a universal language and has so many benefits.

It helps you reach emotional and spiritual freedom and live a happy life.
It helps others because you let them continue their life in peace and let things from the past stay there.
It’s great for the world in general because it’s an element of compassion.

Forgiveness also helps us let go of guilt.

Guilt is something so many of us struggle with these days. And it’s the way we punish ourselves for what we think we did wrong.

But it’s not necessary. You can easily leave it behind and move on, instead of experiencing the past all over again.

And keep in mind that no one else can forgive you but yourself.

So let go of that guilt, together with the grudges you hold against others.

By living in guilt we create our own hell.

That’s why we need to go beyond these distractions and try to touch our true nature. Then to forgive ourselves for what was and what will be, and finally experience what is.

To do that, you must find something worthy inside you.

Most people can’t forgive because they think they don’t deserve it, or focus on the bad sides of the person who did something to them.
But the right approach is to focus on the good.

We’re all a combination of good and bad. It’s what we choose to act upon that makes our destiny.

Keep that in mind when judging others or yourself too much.

Also, be compassionate. Understand people and don’t be too harsh. Everyone has their own battles, fears and problems. So why don’t you forgive the people in your life and thus make their journey easier?

And once again, forgiveness is the ultimate salvation. Don’t underestimate its power because of its simplicity.

Just forgive, breathe deeply and move on.

Have you ever forgiven anyone? How did you feel after that?

See also:

Why it’s difficult to forgive
Let go and forgive
Inner peace
Set yourself free
Self-acceptance
Don’t let anger control your life

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How to Look and Sound More Confident

How to Look and Sound More Confident

We associate confident people with success. But does confidence lead to success, or does success lead to confidence?

It’s a bit of a chicken and egg scenario. But there is plenty of evidence to suggest that working on your confidence levels will indeed boost your achievements in the workplace.

The thing about confidence is that it works two ways.

On the one hand, exude confidence and your clients and colleagues will have confidence in you – self-belief is very reassuring to others!

In fact, for better or worse, the mere appearance of confidence can be more likely to get you a promotion than your actual ability! When you think of some of the dubious phonies who’ve leapfrogged you in the past, it kinda makes sense, right?

And on the other hand, confidence builds confidence within yourself. When you adopt the look and the sound of the self-assured, you begin to feel bolder on the inside. You take risks and put yourself forward for opportunities you might otherwise not have. You begin to work with clear, bold strokes rather than inching ahead in half-measures.

Great – so how to create that feeling? Well, in the long-term, you can use cognitive behavioral therapy techniques to deal with the underlying causes of your indecisiveness and lack of confidence. But in the short run, getting the aforementioned look and sound of self-belief is a fairly simple matter of adjusting the way you speak, listen, and move.

If you’re particularly shy, try starting with your hands.

Keep them out of your pockets.

Burying your hands in your pockets instantly gives the (possibly correct) impression that you are nervous or uncertain.

And even the (hopefully incorrect) impression that you are dishonest or lazy. Keeping your palms open and faced upwards is a way of opening up to those around you and exuding trust.

Likewise, a firm handshake of around two-five seconds communicates warmth and self-assuredness. A limp handshake, on the other hand, might create the impression that you feel out of your depth. And an over-strong handshake always feels like the giver is trying to prove something!

The next steps are to work on your eye contact and the way that you intone your sentences.

This can be a bit much to think about when you’re struggling with what you actually want to say. Which is why it’s best to start with the other stuff first.

But take it one stage at a time and you can gradually build a confident manner that will start to perpetuate itself by making you feel strong on the inside. For a full guide to the remaining tweaks, you can make to get that feeling, run through this new infographic from Poundplace.

 

Build your confidence back up, and success will surely follow.

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