7 Perks of Being Optimistic When Living Alone 90

7 Perks of Being Optimistic When Living Alone

This post was written by Donna Estrada, an editor for Scoopfed and a graduate of Bachelor of Arts in Journalism.

We’re living in the world where every day we are bombarded with negativities of life. From the news that we watch on TV to the information that we see on the Web. But what if you’re out of the country, living alone and these things happened to you. What are you going to do?

Will you find ways to survive this kind of dilemma? Or you’ll just learn how to get used to it?

There are no specific answers for it but one thing’s for sure; being a pessimist will do you no good.

Here are few of the things that sanguinity gives you, especially when living alone:

Negativity leads you nowhere.

You chose to work abroad even if you’re living alone because you wanted to succeed in life. Great things come to people with hopeful souls.

Success may not be given instantly to you but it is earned and people with positive minds can have that. If you’ll not let negativity ruin you, you’ll live life without doubting yourself and worrying that you won’t be able to succeed.

You won’t have series of self-questionings such as: “What if they won’t like my presentation?” or “Are my answers correct?” Instead you will say this, “At least, I know that I did my best.”

You’ll appreciate the art of being yourself.

When you start becoming who and what you really are, you’ll find the genuine happiness that you’ve been searching for. Some people might find this cliché but this is true.

Your happiness depends on how you treat yourself. Whether you’ll going to treat it as a stranger or going to embrace it as your newly found friend.

Remember, you’re living alone and you don’t have someone to run to in the middle of the night but yourself alone. You need to know yourself to be able to discover what you need in life.

Maybe you just miss some of the things that you usually do in your homeland or you missed your loved ones. It is really important to be kind to yourself most of the time. There’s plenty of stuff to appreciate about yourself already. Sometimes we’re just looking in the wrong direction.

There’ll be no room for prejudices.

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Once your perspective has changed, the way you perceive the world would eventually change, too. You’ll start appreciating every person you’ll meet. You will realize that they will play a big role in your life. Be it your fellowmen or those random citizens of the country where you’re working.

If you’re interested in them, talk to them and know their stories. Because everyone has their own inspiring life story that’s worthy to be told.

You will no longer see them as persons with good looks, but individuals with good souls. You’re living alone, take that opportunity to be able to meet new acquaintances to minimize the loneliness you’re feeling.

Every day is a better start.

Living alone might be hard for you, but you’ll get by. If you’re a positive thinker, giving up is no longer a part of your life’s wordlist and “everything happens for a reason,” will be your mantra.

Life is not always about suffering and crying. As an optimist, you tend to find reasons to uplift your mood. You’ll not stick to your old habits of procrastinating all night long because you know that nobody can help you but yourself.

You have your family and friends. But at the end of the day, it will always be your choices and the chances you’re taking that matters.

You’ll forget your critics when living alone.

No matter how hard you try to be the better version of yourself, there will always be someone who will going to pinpoint your mistakes.

For example, some people might be envious of you since you’re working out of the country. While they, on the other hand end up jobless. But if you’re the kind of person who has a positive mindset, their existence will remain irrelevant in your life. Their criticism won’t matter anymore.

The more they drag you down, the more you’ll realize that you’re above them. After all, how can a person pull you down if you’re below them, right?

Having a positive mindset about the things they’re saying against you would just annoy your critics. This way they will end up getting tired of pestering you. After all, if they only put you down, they don’t deserve to spend any time with you.

You’ll start dropping the “what ifs”.

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Back then, you’re still deciding whether you would take the risk of working abroad with a huge chance of living alone. You have a list of “what ifs” on the back of your mind.

If you always think things negatively, you always end up indecisive of your choices. Your way of thinking has the ability to overpower your decisions in life. You need to be certain of your choices.

For you to attain it, first you need to have a clearer mind. You should have a positive mind but not too much that everything already get unrealistic. Be open with the inevitable events that might occur to you while you’re living alone.

Influences others to smile.

Smiling is contagious. Most of the people forgot the power of smiling to a stranger. You don’t know what that person you saw in the park is going through. Maybe he or she is struggling and your smile would somehow diminish that sadness that lingers within her.

Smiling is one of the tools that doesn’t cost a thing but could spread positivity. Even if you’re in another country, don’t hesitate to lend your smile to everyone. Only if it’s not forbidden in that country, since there are countries that are strict with facial expressions, you might get in trouble and misunderstood your friend gesture.

So go out today and start doing good. The world needs people like you.

It’s hard to make optimism your predominant mental attitude, most especially if you’re living alone. You need to have patience, to work hard for it, and to take the time to maintain this kind of perception. It might take months or even years for you to achieve it but it’s worth the wait.

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9 Ways to Handle Change in Your Life [Infographic] 5

9 Ways to Handle Change in Your Life [Infographic]

When a big change happens in your life, it doesn’t have to be a negative change to have a huge impact on you.

Change causes uncertainty and our brains and bodies react to uncertainty by trying to protect us with the release of fight or flight chemicals and hormones.

The downside to this is that living with these for an extended time results in elevated heart rate and affects your digestion, immune systems and blood flow.

But there are ways you can regain control over your life even in the midst of big changes.

The first is to take a step back and reflect on what’s actually happening and what your involvement is, which will help you to understand and find perspective on the situation. Hopefully, this will enable you to find the opportunities that every change in your life brings, rather than obsessing over any short-term negative impacts.

It may also help you to allow yourself a transition period where you adjust to the changes. But with a firm deadline by which you expect to have moved on and settled into the new routine. Even if it doesn’t quite work out that way, it will still push you towards visualizing the end of the uncertainty, which will prepare you to make it happen sooner rather than later.

On a more basic level, you need to remember to look after yourself during this time of change and the related stresses.

It can be too easy to fall into bad habits like neglecting your own simple needs, like a good night’s sleep and staying active and eating right when you are going through something like this. Having a day in your pajamas eating ice cream out of the tub is fine. But your body needs sleep, exercise and nutrition to keep you healthy.

Routine can be a comfort when it feels like everything in your life is changing.

So try and stick to some simple ones like walking your dog every morning or going to a regular gym class to give your life some stability and consistency.

You also need the help and support of those around you. And having a strong support network is crucial when it comes to coping with big changes in your life. This means family and friends, but you could also seek out people going through similar experiences by looking online. There may well be communities who you can talk to and get helpful tips from.

Most importantly of all, you need to be aware of when you need more than just the love and support of other people to help you cope with stress and uncertainty. If you start to feel like your mental health is really suffering, or you have been feeling the symptoms of stress for more than a couple of months, you need to go and talk to a health professional to get the help you need to bounce back.

You can read more practical tips about dealing with change and the symptoms it causes in this infographic from Pounds to Pocket.