Why Accepting Is The Answer to Most of Your Life’s Problems (Plus 35 Acceptance Quotes)

Why Accepting Is The Answer to Most of Your Life's Problems (Plus 35 Acceptance Quotes)

“Happiness can only exist in acceptance.”
George Orwell

I believe that the much-needed quality we all haven’t developed that can make our life easier, is acceptance.

I’m talking about the ability to accept things that can’t be changed, to be okay with what was in the past and let it be, to accept the uncertainty of the future and the imperfection of the present.

Because only this way can you actually let go of the anger, stress, anxiety, hatred, depression, disappointment, guilt, etc. in order to let in the freedom, beauty, inspiration, peace, and joy that are everywhere around you.

The Real Meaning of Acceptance

You see, the way we live life is a matter of choice.

We can either be in a constant battle, trying to fight our true selves and focusing on our bad sides, trying to change the people around us, being unhappy with the way things turn out, etc.
Or, we can appreciate everyone – especially ourselves – for who they are, without judging. We can be alright and believe that things are perfect just the way they are in that exact moment. And – yes – they will be different in the next, but will still be perfect.

The second approach to life is the healthy, positive, peaceful and successful one.

I think that the older we get, the more we start accepting everything and everyone around us. Because we see it’s the only way to keep living without so much stress and overthinking.

And I’m not saying stop trying to improve yourself. No! I’m all about personal development, testing your limits and achieving more.

But also, when it doesn’t work, accept it and move on to the next thing. When you fail or make a crucial mistake, be okay with it. Accept it for the experience and lesson it is. And go do it better this time.

That’s the real definition of acceptance.

It’s the opposite of change and struggle. It means being absolutely okay with things the way they are – still trying to make the best of what you have, but without changing it or putting too much effort, without a feeling of unfairness or dissatisfaction, but by just going with the flow.

Examples of Acceptance in Real Life

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  1. Did you know that to this day my dad gets angry whenever the light turns red right in front of him when driving? Even if it’s only 1 out of 5 times or so…

How ridiculous is that!

Seeing that from my point of view – and not being the driver – makes me realize how we ourselves bring stress in our life with little daily situations like these.

Again, it’s all a matter of choice.

The realization that you can do nothing but wait a minute or two for the green light to come, and accepting that, is the only solution to experiencing this moment. Anything else will be connected with anger, worries, bad mood and other negative emotions.

Stuff like that can ruin your whole day if you react this way to every other thing that you don’t want to happen.

  1. Is it winter already? Well, let’s accept it and make the best of it then. It’s much better than constantly complaining about the cold and wishing it was summer again.

Because when it comes, many just start being dissatisfied with the heat. And it’s the same story all over again.

What’s the part of the year that you are okay with then?

And that’s a kind of a lifestyle. This approach to life makes us miserable. Our inability to accept what can’t be changed turns our days into dreadful battles.

But we can always do something about it.

How to Accept: Learning to Be Okay with Things The Way They Are

We should accept all that we can't change. Here are 5 simple steps for a more peaceful and happier you by embracing acceptance and learning how to be okay with everything:

1. Focus on what you have.

Truth is we all have much more than we realize. If we actually look around and notice the small and the big things, the ones we take for granted every single day, we’ll feel abundant.

2. Be content with it.

Now realize that it’s just enough to make you happy. And appreciate it. Thank for it every morning and find time for the people in your life, the things you love doing, the opportunities that come your way, etc.

3. Forgive yourself.

In order to accept yourself for who you are – and thus receive a chance to become a better version of yourself regardless of your past mistakes – you’ll have to be compassionate.

Know that the past is gone, there’s nothing you can do about it. And if you don’t let go of it, together with all the burden it carries, you’ll never be free to truly experience new things.

So be okay with who you’ve been before, even if you considered yourself a bad person, or not good enough. Let that be your starting line and move forward from here on.

4. Don’t avoid reality.

Yes, we all have problems we want to forget about. And we find different ways to do that.

But even if you don’t want to deal with them right away, you can still be okay with them, accept their existence. That’s not as hard as it sounds.

Keeping them deep inside yourself is much worse and much more unhealthy for your mind and soul.

5. Be present.

Awareness is not our strongest quality these days.

We’re always in a rush, thinking about yesterday (usually with regrets) or worrying about what tomorrow might bring. It appears that it’s never as bad as we imagine it to be, though.

So try to stop every now and then. To just take a deep breath and look around you.

Don’t judge, compare, or even think about it. Just see it, feel it, listen to the noises and let things be.

That’s what living in the present moment is all about. It brings clarity, calmness and peace that can be found nowhere else but in this moment.

Enjoy them! That will make it easier for you to accept everything. And to trust the natural flow.

Here’s what Benjamin Hoff says about that in “The Tao of Pooh”:

“Things just happen in the right way, at the right time. At least they do when you let them, when you work with circumstances instead of saying, “This isn’t supposed to be happening this way,” and trying hard to make it happen some other way. If you’re in tune with The Way Things Work, then they work the way they need to, no matter what you may think about it at the time. Later on, you can look back and say, “Oh, now I understand. That had to happen so that those could happen, and those had to happen in order for this to happen. . . .” Then you realize that even if you’d tried to make it all turn out perfectly, you couldn’t have done better, and if you’d really tried, you would have made a mess of the whole thing.”

And here are some acceptance quotes from famous people that can inspire you and give you a sense of why trying to change things and people is not always the best idea:

35 Quotes on Acceptance

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  1. Be willing to have it so. Acceptance of what has happened is the first step to overcoming the consequences of any misfortune. – William James
  1. The first step toward change is awareness. The second step is acceptance. – Nathaniel Branden
  1. Acceptance looks like a passive state, but in reality it brings something entirely new into this world. That peace, a subtle energy vibration, is consciousness. – Eckhart Tolle
  1. Panic causes tunnel vision. Calm acceptance of danger allows us to more easily assess the situation and see the options. – Simon Sinek
  1. We are mindful of desire when we experience it with an embodied awareness, recognizing the sensations and thoughts of wanting as arising and passing phenomena. While this isn’t easy, as we cultivate the clear seeing and compassion of Radical Acceptance, we discover we can open fully to this natural force, and remain free in its midst. – Tara Brach
  1. The keys to patience are acceptance and faith. Accept things as they are, and look realistically at the world around you. Have faith in yourself and in the direction you have chosen. – Ralph Marston
  1. I surround people in unconditional acceptance and love to such a degree that everything that is unloving about them rises to the surface.- Iyanla Vanzant
  1. It’s important to remember that the animals are not grieving with us. They’re very accepting. They’re not lying there thinking ‘How could you do this to me? Why aren’t you keeping me going?’ Pets don’t do the human things of guilt and anger and recrimination that we do. They come and go with great acceptance. – Jon Katz
  1. I’m not wise, but the beginning of wisdom is there; it’s like relaxing into – and an acceptance of – things. – Tina Turner
  1. What I’m trying to do is get a change in the mindset so people move from a level of mere tolerance to total acceptance and eventually to celebrate diversity. If you feel comfortable with one another, it doesn’t matter whether we live in which neighbourhood but we can interact with one another freely. It’s a mindset. – Najib Razak
  1. The best you can sometimes do is learn to take a breath, count to ten and simply accept that try as you might, no, your husband will never, ever learn not to drop a wet towel on the bed. That acceptance too counts as resolving a fight. – Jeffrey Kluger
  1. What we need is not more distrust and division. What we need now is acceptance. – Tom Daschle
  1. Acceptance of one’s life has nothing to do with resignation; it does not mean running away from the struggle. On the contrary, it means accepting it as it comes, with all the handicaps of heredity, of suffering, of psychological complexes and injustices. – Paul Tournier
  1. When you invoke the agent of change called acceptance, you must accept all that you are, all that you’ve been, and all that you will be in the future. – Debbie Ford

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  1. These years in silence and reflection made me stronger and reminded me that acceptance has to come from within and that this kind of truth gives me the power to conquer emotions I didn’t even know existed. – Ricky Martin
  1. The five stages – denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance – are a part of the framework that makes up our learning to live with the one we lost. They are tools to help us frame and identify what we may be feeling. But they are not stops on some linear timeline in grief. – Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
  1. We are deeply conditioned against unconditionality because we’ve been told in a thousand different ways that accomplishment always precedes acceptance, that achievement always precedes approval. – Tullian Tchividjian
  1. In world mythology, there are countless examples of tragic characters whose greatest strength is also the source of their undoing. But the ancient Greeks and Romans also held the view that acceptance is the beginning of wisdom. – Simon Van Booy
  1. Even the acceptance of personal responsibility may not overcome the temptation to believe that now is not the time to repent. ‘Now’ can seem so difficult, and ‘later’ appear so much easier. The truth is that today is always a better day to repent than any tomorrow. – Henry B. Eyring
  1. Acceptance of what has happened is the first step to overcoming the consequences of any misfortune. – William James
  1. The art of acceptance is the art of making someone who has just done you a small favor wish that he might have done you a greater one. – Martin Luther King, Jr.
  1. I used to love people for what they could be. I thought love was how hard you tried and how much you sacrificed and suffered. That is not love. Acceptance is. – Michael Learned
  1. And as I stumbled onto Eastern philosophy and Buddhism, it was the first time I had ever read any sort of philosophy that really made a tremendous amount of sense. What I liked that was missing from my experience of Christianity growing up was a sort of acceptance, a sort of being OK with being imperfect and not focusing on the sin. – Alan Ball
  1. Attitude is your acceptance of the natural laws, or your rejection of the natural laws. – Stuart Chase
  1. Human material seems to have one major defect: it does not like to be considered merely as human material. It finds it hard to endure the feeling that it must resign itself to passive acceptance of changes introduced from above. – Czeslaw Milosz
  1. Acceptance is not love. You love a person because he or she has lovable traits, but you accept everybody just because they’re alive and human. – Albert Ellis
  1. Acceptance is different than apathy. It is important to strive to be your best self, your healthiest, most productive, joyful self. But that is going to be a different answer to everyone. – Teri Hatcher
  1. I found that laughter was a form of acceptance, and I really enjoyed that and I just – I crave it. – Gabriel Iglesias
  1. When it’s open and honest, that’s when the real nature of who you are as a vocalist or as a performer, all of that stuff can finally start to become what it’s supposed to be. Like a settling into yourself. It’s not even a musical thing, it’s a whole mindset, a whole acceptance of who you were supposed to be. Life sounds good. – Alison Krauss
  1. My happiness grows in direct proportion to my acceptance, and in inverse proportion to my expectations. – Michael J. Fox
  1. Any natural, normal human being, when faced with any kind of loss, will go from shock all the way through acceptance. – Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
  1. For me, art really starts with acceptance, self trust. Wherever you come to with art, it’s perfect. You don’t have to come with anything. What you bring to something is the art. That’s where it’s found. It’s found within you. – Jeff Koons
  1. Acceptance and tolerance and forgiveness, those are life-altering lessons. – Jessica Lange
  1. One has to accept pain as a condition of existence. One has to court doubt and darkness as the cost of knowing. One needs a will stubborn in conflict, but apt always to the total acceptance of every consequence of living and dying. – Morris West
  1. Many people think of perfectionism as striving to be your best, but it is not about self-improvement; it’s about earning approval and acceptance. – Brene Brown

Here are 35 life quotes on acceptance to inspire you every day to accept what we can't change and just go with the flow: #quotes #motivationalquotes #inspirationalquotes

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How This Family Guy Makes $10,000/Month Online Teaching Others How to Make, Save and Invest Money

How This Family Guy Makes $10,000/Month Online Teaching Others How to Make, Save and Invest Money - Interview with R.J. Weiss from TheWaystoWealth.com

This is an interview-style post with R.J. Weiss from The Ways to Wealth.

Hey R.J. What’s your background and what do you do?

I blog about all things personal finance at The Ways to Wealth.

Before I went full-time into blogging, I spent ten years in the financial services industry. Specifically, helping families buy the right type of life insurance.

During my time with a full-time job, I’ve always had different side hustles going on. From freelance writing, Amazon FBA, conversion rate optimization, to website design — there were many projects I pursued outside of work.

How did you start your career in finance?

I got started in finance straight out of college working for my the family insurance business. As I love the financial planning side of things, I choose to specialize in life insurance planning. This led me down the path to obtaining the CFP® Certification.

What made you start blogging?

The Ways to Wealth, which I started in 2016, has been my 5th blog.

The others mostly fizzled out most due to a lack of interest. But, in 2009 I started a personal finance blog called GenYWealth.com (no longer around) that had some success.

The idea GenYwealth.com was to write about what I was learning about studying to take the CFP®. The blog was, by all means, a success. I was able to gain valuable knowledge, pass the CFP® exam, earn some extra money and build up a good community.

I then took this knowledge and started a business blog, which allowed the insurance agency I was working for to generate leads.

I started The Ways to Wealth because my passion is personal finance–from investing to travel hacking, I love the challenge of optimizing my finances.

How was The Ways to Wealth born?

I didn’t have much of a plan for starting The Ways to Wealth when I purchased the domain name.

I was actually thinking it would be a niche site, which was inspired by Pat Flynn’s niche site duel. Then, I came across the income reports of Michelle Schroeder-Gardner and wisely changed direction to a more traditional blog.

This change came about 6-months after starting to blog.  I did a timeline of the site in one of my income reports.

What worked best when trying to grow the site?

I had a decent knowledge of SEO. So at first, I started growing the site with email outreach. One of the first posts I had about best investing books of all time, had about 15 links to it.

This was nice to start with but was quite slow to build up, as it can take a while to earn Google’s trust.

The big turning point came when I started to understand Pinterest. I spent a few frustrating weeks on the platform, then it finally started paying dividends.

I went from about 100 sessions a day to 1,000, which was huge for me at the time.

How did you get to 3 million monthly viewers on Pinterest?

the ways to wealth pinterest 3 million monthly views

I lay out my Pinterest strategy here. But at the core the idea is to:

1) Write high-quality content that Pinners want to click through, read, and share.

2) Pin to my own and high-quality group boards, with a keyword-rich description.

3) Continue to Pin my best pins across my own boards/group boards, ruthlessly eliminating Pins that don’t perform well.

One thing to keep in mind is impressions don’t mean much on Pinterest. What counts are clicks to your website. So, you want to design not for impressions but clicks.

What aspects of the online business are you outsourcing or automating and how?

The first thing I outsourced was Pinterest design. I’ll design about 30-40 pins a month, so this was big time saver for me.

Of course, it took some work to get going. At first, I hired 5 or so people on Fiverr. I found one decent designer but the work quality deteriorated over time.

I then went to Upwork and posted a job for a  graphic designer. I found a great team down in Argentina, who I’m very happy with.

I’m currently experimenting with working with a ghostwriter. A few of my latest posts have been transcribed from my recording, with the ghostwriter making sense of it all.

I can compile about 3 posts in 90 minutes, then take another 90 or so minutes to prepare them. Saving me around 3-4 hours per post this way.

What’s your main income stream and why do you think it works for you?

My main source of income for the blog is affiliate revenue. It works because the partners I do have are high-quality businesses, who deliver value and solve real problems. This makes it easy to naturally link to such a partner.

When did you start making more than $10K/month and what was the turning point?

My first month over $10K was in January of 2018. In December of 2017, income was around $3,000 and in July of 2017 around $500. So, it was definitely a jump.

What happened then in January?

First, personal finance is at its peak interest in January.

Second, I had multiple Pins go viral.

Third, in November I started driving traffic via Facebook to the site. So, in January I could take campaigns I’d been fine-tuning for a few weeks and scale them.

How do you balance work and family life?

I have a routine I stick to Monday through Friday.

When inside of my designated working hours, I work. When outside of these hours, I’m not.

This is a lot easier said than done. But the thing important for me is not to take work everywhere I go. This means I don’t have any apps on my phone that are work-related (email, analytics, etc..)

What are you 3 best finance tips for newbies?

  • Focus on your savings rate. How much you save is the most important decision you’ll make.
  • Small incremental improvements add up over time. My favorite example is increasing your savings rate 1% every quarter, means you’ll be saving 20% of your income in just 5 years.
  • Study happiness. Become a student on how to increase your level of happiness. The natural result is you’ll want less overtime, making the game of personal finance a lot easier to win.

What books, blogs or podcasts help you stay motivated along the way of growing an online business?

I read a fair amount to keep fresh ideas in my head.

My favorite podcast is The Tim Ferriss Show.

Two blogs I enjoy reading are:

Farnam Street
Barking up the Wrong Tree

And as far as books. I try to read one a week. A few books I would recommend to online entrepreneurs would be:

Deep Work by Cal Newport
The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy
The Four Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss

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Check out my interview with R.J. from TheWaystoWealth to see how he entered the finance niche, started making money blogging, began bringing traffic from Pinterest and monetizing it with affiliate marketing, and is now making $10,000/month from his online business. #blogger #interview #blogtraffic #incomeideas #income