The 7 Life Lessons Tinder Teaches Us About Relationships and Communication

The 7 Life Lessons Tinder Teaches Us About Relationships and Communication -

I believe life lessons are everywhere. And as long as we’re trying new things, learning skills, experimenting and keeping our eyes open for the wisdom in each activity (and even mistake), we can get better at most aspects of life.

Dating apps are no exception. And when it comes to that, Tinder is the game changer in the way most people meet these days, and how relationships can start.

You don’t need to be out there meeting people, being in awkward situations and wondering what to say. It’s all in your hands. Anyone looking for something is using the same app as you already, so there you go. You just need to pick what looks good and feels right, start a chat and see where it goes.

And just like I believe that anyone can start their own business, live life on their own terms and find true happiness in their work and daily life, so do I think that finding your soul mate on a dating app like Tinder is absolutely possible.

I personally know people who’ve done it. I’ve had the chance to meet some great people as a result, and I hear about Tinder success stories all the time too.

So it works.

Now I wanna talk more about the actual life lessons Tinder can teach us, mostly about relationships and communication.

Hope this inspires you to give it a try if you haven’t already, and if you’re looking for someone to date. If not, it might still save you some trouble in your relationships, help you deal with social anxiety, or just remind you of some truths about life and love.

So, here’s what Tinder can teach us:

1. Using Tinder doesn’t make you desperate.

There are more than 9 million daily users and more than half a million people actually paying for it.

None of that is desperate. It just means people are looking for something they haven’t found in their life yet, and are using an app to connect with others with the same interests and aspirations.

And there are all types of people. If you’re thinking it’s for the lonely ones, those who aren’t social and have no friends, or those just looking for one night stands, you’re wrong.

You can meet smart, beautiful and successful people there. Plus, being there also means being open-minded and available.

That’s one of the many great opportunities of the digital era we live in, and we should all be grateful

2. You can make friends there too.

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If you’re being friendly, swiping right to like people who really look like a good fit for you, and truly enjoy the chat, why not keep in touch without expecting anything else?

Friendships with the opposite sex can be formed at any age, it’s just that we’re too prejudiced against it.

Let go of that old mentality and embrace the world of dating apps.

3. It’s actually a relationship hack.

I’m all about life hacks. Be it to get up early, get things done quickly, work smarter rather than harder, do business better, optimize your health, etc.

So why not hack relationships too?

Tinder makes it much easier. You’ll like only the people with similar interest, the first few sentences can say a lot about a person, and it takes less than a few hours to decide whether or not you want to meet that person.

All that saves you all the time, energy, drama and rejection that people usually experience when dating.

4. You become better at this over time.

The more people you chat with, the better you get at this. It means that after a month of using Tinder, you’ll be a better conversationalist, more confident, will know how to start a chat and what questions to ask, it will take you much less time to know if someone’s being real and if you want to keep things going, etc.

Social skills are important. And every time you text someone or answer, you’re overcoming social anxiety. Yes, real life might feel different, but that’s still preparation for it.

5. Don’t expect anything.

Want to actually have fun and make the most of Tinder or any other dating app you’re using? Well, leave your expectations behind the moment you log in.

I’m against expectations in life in general, as they lead to creating an illusion in your mind of how things are supposed to turn out and being disappointed as a result.

But when you let go of that, you can truly take action, do your best, think clearly, be excited and positive about it, and make the most of it regardless of what happens in the end.

Let that be your approach to online dating too, and you’ll find it satisfactory and fun.

6. Use Tinder to get valuable feedback.

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One of the most important steps to validating a business idea before you start working on it, is to do some research and get feedback from people, see what they like and don’t like about it, and decide on ways to make it better.

Then, even when the product is built, you should keep getting feedback and make improvements.

But that’s a great strategy for other things too, even relationships and communication. Use Tinder as a marketing tool.

For a start, begin different types of conversations with people and see which one you feel most comfortable with, what topics you enjoy the most, what most men/women don’t really want to hear online, and how to go about meeting them and taking things to the next level.

Now, there’s something even more crucial than that, which is one of the powerful life lessons Tinder teaches us. Each so-called ‘failure’ is where the real feedback can be found.

And although there’s no real failing because not connecting with someone on a deeper level just means you two weren’t the right fit for each other, every time you reject someone or get rejected, or when things just don’t seem to be clicking, you should ask yourself (or the other person) why that’s happening.

If you take a closer look at the conversations that didn’t go well, and if you ask some Tinder users you were chatting with for some time about it, you might realize that you’re talking a lot about yourself and forget to show genuine interest in the other person’s life. Or maybe you invite them on a date way too soon and it scares them.

Is it that your pictures are too provoking? Or maybe you struggle with answering personal questions?

Whatever the issue is, be sure that it will be a problem in real life when communicating with new people and even when you’re in a relationship.

So use that powerful feedback to define this, and start working on it right away.

7. Being yourself is the best recipe for success.

If you ever pretend to be someone else, exaggerate things about your life, never mention your weaknesses, and just never let yourself be who you really are, things just won’t go anywhere with another person on Tinder.

Whoever it is you’re chatting with, he or she deserves to know the real you from day 1. Even if you manage to present yourself in a much better way, you’ll eventually need to meet in person and you can’t fake it forever.

In fact, you’ll lowering your self-esteem even more this way by not accepting who you are and not embracing your uniqueness.

So, let Tinder be your teacher on how important authenticity is. Be real. It’s good enough. After all, you want to meet someone who’ll like you for who you are and who won’t be trying to change you.

Plus, it’s so much easier to just go with the flow and say what’s on your mind, instead of trying to appeal to the other person.

So these are the life lessons Tinder shares on relationships, communication and life in general.

What about you? Are you a Tinder used and what do you think you can optimize about the way you’re using the app?


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How This Family Guy Makes $10,000/Month Online Teaching Others How to Make, Save and Invest Money

How This Family Guy Makes $10,000/Month Online Teaching Others How to Make, Save and Invest Money - Interview with R.J. Weiss from

This is an interview-style post with R.J. Weiss from The Ways to Wealth.

Hey R.J. What’s your background and what do you do?

I blog about all things personal finance at The Ways to Wealth.

Before I went full-time into blogging, I spent ten years in the financial services industry. Specifically, helping families buy the right type of life insurance.

During my time with a full-time job, I’ve always had different side hustles going on. From freelance writing, Amazon FBA, conversion rate optimization, to website design — there were many projects I pursued outside of work.

How did you start your career in finance?

I got started in finance straight out of college working for my the family insurance business. As I love the financial planning side of things, I choose to specialize in life insurance planning. This led me down the path to obtaining the CFP® Certification.

What made you start blogging?

The Ways to Wealth, which I started in 2016, has been my 5th blog.

The others mostly fizzled out most due to a lack of interest. But, in 2009 I started a personal finance blog called (no longer around) that had some success.

The idea was to write about what I was learning about studying to take the CFP®. The blog was, by all means, a success. I was able to gain valuable knowledge, pass the CFP® exam, earn some extra money and build up a good community.

I then took this knowledge and started a business blog, which allowed the insurance agency I was working for to generate leads.

I started The Ways to Wealth because my passion is personal finance–from investing to travel hacking, I love the challenge of optimizing my finances.

How was The Ways to Wealth born?

I didn’t have much of a plan for starting The Ways to Wealth when I purchased the domain name.

I was actually thinking it would be a niche site, which was inspired by Pat Flynn’s niche site duel. Then, I came across the income reports of Michelle Schroeder-Gardner and wisely changed direction to a more traditional blog.

This change came about 6-months after starting to blog.  I did a timeline of the site in one of my income reports.

What worked best when trying to grow the site?

I had a decent knowledge of SEO. So at first, I started growing the site with email outreach. One of the first posts I had about best investing books of all time, had about 15 links to it.

This was nice to start with but was quite slow to build up, as it can take a while to earn Google’s trust.

The big turning point came when I started to understand Pinterest. I spent a few frustrating weeks on the platform, then it finally started paying dividends.

I went from about 100 sessions a day to 1,000, which was huge for me at the time.

How did you get to 3 million monthly viewers on Pinterest?

the ways to wealth pinterest 3 million monthly views

I lay out my Pinterest strategy here. But at the core the idea is to:

1) Write high-quality content that Pinners want to click through, read, and share.

2) Pin to my own and high-quality group boards, with a keyword-rich description.

3) Continue to Pin my best pins across my own boards/group boards, ruthlessly eliminating Pins that don’t perform well.

One thing to keep in mind is impressions don’t mean much on Pinterest. What counts are clicks to your website. So, you want to design not for impressions but clicks.

What aspects of the online business are you outsourcing or automating and how?

The first thing I outsourced was Pinterest design. I’ll design about 30-40 pins a month, so this was big time saver for me.

Of course, it took some work to get going. At first, I hired 5 or so people on Fiverr. I found one decent designer but the work quality deteriorated over time.

I then went to Upwork and posted a job for a  graphic designer. I found a great team down in Argentina, who I’m very happy with.

I’m currently experimenting with working with a ghostwriter. A few of my latest posts have been transcribed from my recording, with the ghostwriter making sense of it all.

I can compile about 3 posts in 90 minutes, then take another 90 or so minutes to prepare them. Saving me around 3-4 hours per post this way.

What’s your main income stream and why do you think it works for you?

My main source of income for the blog is affiliate revenue. It works because the partners I do have are high-quality businesses, who deliver value and solve real problems. This makes it easy to naturally link to such a partner.

When did you start making more than $10K/month and what was the turning point?

My first month over $10K was in January of 2018. In December of 2017, income was around $3,000 and in July of 2017 around $500. So, it was definitely a jump.

What happened then in January?

First, personal finance is at its peak interest in January.

Second, I had multiple Pins go viral.

Third, in November I started driving traffic via Facebook to the site. So, in January I could take campaigns I’d been fine-tuning for a few weeks and scale them.

How do you balance work and family life?

I have a routine I stick to Monday through Friday.

When inside of my designated working hours, I work. When outside of these hours, I’m not.

This is a lot easier said than done. But the thing important for me is not to take work everywhere I go. This means I don’t have any apps on my phone that are work-related (email, analytics, etc..)

What are you 3 best finance tips for newbies?

  • Focus on your savings rate. How much you save is the most important decision you’ll make.
  • Small incremental improvements add up over time. My favorite example is increasing your savings rate 1% every quarter, means you’ll be saving 20% of your income in just 5 years.
  • Study happiness. Become a student on how to increase your level of happiness. The natural result is you’ll want less overtime, making the game of personal finance a lot easier to win.

What books, blogs or podcasts help you stay motivated along the way of growing an online business?

I read a fair amount to keep fresh ideas in my head.

My favorite podcast is The Tim Ferriss Show.

Two blogs I enjoy reading are:

Farnam Street
Barking up the Wrong Tree

And as far as books. I try to read one a week. A few books I would recommend to online entrepreneurs would be:

Deep Work by Cal Newport
The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy
The Four Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss

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