How to Be a Healthy Perfectionist 72

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Nobody’s perfect, everybody knows that. Another thing considered the common truth is that the perfect is the enemy of good.

If you are reading this article, you probably deem yourself a perfectionist, but more so, you find yourself pushing too hard with your perfectionism.

It is true that when one wants things done perfectly, one often doesn’t know when to stop perfecting something that’s quite good already.

This may lead to some undesirable consequences.

We might finish projects just before (if not after) deadlines. Our friends and colleagues may see us as obsessive nitpickers, some might even diagnose us with an OCD (because everybody has a degree these days *sarcasm*). What can we do to avoid such nuisance?

Ultimately, we can apply our perfectionism to itself. We can perfect the perfectionism up until the point where it becomes perfectly healthy.

A healthy perfectionist is someone who is focusing on the strong points accompanying perfectionism – such as endurance and conscientiousness, for instance – and minimizes the possible disadvantages – basically, does not beat themselves up into demoralization.

Here are some tips on how to put your perfectionism to good use:

6 Tips for Becoming a Healthy Perfectionist

1. Open up.

If you feel like your perfectionism is somewhat destructive, then you have probably realized the need to change something.

Still, we tend to treat any ideas of a change in attitude aggressively. We see any suggested change as a call to underperforming. Obviously, it is not necessarily the case. It is our strategies that are questioned, not the aim for perfection.

Once you realize your complications, you also need to accept the ideas on what to do about them from outside.

2. Change the mindset.

If you do something not quite as awesome as you know you could, it is necessary to realize that beating yourself about it will get you nowhere.

Instead, make the most of these misfortunes.

Focus on the positive outcome: this was surely a valuable experience that will help you analyze your possible drawbacks and come up with ways to avoid them to perform even better in future. This is what a healthy perfectionist does.

3. Dig deeper.

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This one is about meditation and self-realization.

Ever wondered why you are so keen on accomplishing a task perfectly?  If you give it some thinking, you will most likely realize that it is not for achieving an exact result, not for someone’s approval, but rather for the enjoyment of having things turn out exactly as you wanted them to, even if they don’t – making mistakes is often good.

If you acknowledge that’s the case, it will make it easier for you to stop exaggerating the possible negative outcome of your seeming underperformance, stop worrying about it, and move on to the new tasks that await you and that you will surely make even better!

4. Shut up the inner critic.

Nobody doubts that one should treat oneself and one’s accomplishments with a grain of criticism. However, as mentioned above, a healthy perfectionist likes to perform to the fullest mainly, if not solely, because they enjoy it, and not in order to impress a potential critic.

It is unhealthy to always have your mind set on impressing someone – your parents, your teacher, your boss, God, etc.

If you find yourself severely beaten up for the imperfections of your performance, you need to realize that the one beating you up is you, and not any one of the aforementioned. So, it is only up to you to stop this unhealthy practice.

5. Separate your work from the rest.

If you want to achieve the ultimate result with the job that you are doing, you probably mobilize all your time and energy for this purpose.

It may be hard, but you need to realize that work is to be done in working hours, and the rest of the time is meant for other activities, and it is this way for a reason.

A healthy perfectionist sees their performance in life as a whole, and not in just one aspect (for example, job). This is why such a person sees the importance of the “time diet” – when you spend your time in a balanced way which helps you feel satisfied with your life, instead of beating oneself up and feeling miserable about “underperforming”.

6. Motivate yourself to be happy.

If you find your perfectionism unhealthy but are still reluctant about changing your attitude toward a healthier direction, here is one final piece of food for thought. All of the aforementioned advice about healthy perfectionism is aimed solely at making you a happier kind of person, the one that enjoys oneself.

It is true that perfectionists tend to perform better, even on tests where nothing actually depends on the result.

But researches have shown that overall happiness also influences the performance in a good way. This means that a happy perfectionist is much more likely to perform better than an unhappy one. This should motivate you to apply your perfectionism on eliminating the negative and unhealthy aspects of your mindset and lifestyle – simply in order to perform even better.

We live in a tough world where being the best at what you are doing is extremely valued. At school and at work – we are always monitored, quality-assessed, and compared. Under such circumstances, it is easy to evolve into an impression-obsessed result junkie, and it is important to preserve the pleasure of having the job well done for yourself, and not to live up to someone else’s expectations. So, consider taking our tips to remain a healthy perfectionist at all times.

See also:

The Ups and Downs of Being a Perfectionist
How to Overcome Negative Self-Talk
What Negative People Constantly Think About
11 Signs You’re a Perfectionist

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What the Richest People in the World Have in Common 6

What the Richest People in the World Have in Common

Getting rich is something everyone dreams about.

For those facing financial hardships, getting rich seems the only way out to tide over shortage of money. For the bourgeoisie – the working class – getting rich conjures up visions of stuff they want to buy for luxury or higher social status. Millionaires also wish to get rich: they want to become billionaires and enter Forbes List of the world’s wealthiest people.

Unless you inherit a fortune or get lucky at lottery or sweepstakes, getting rich can be quite tough.

Yet, there are countless rags-to-riches stories around the world. Enterprises such as Amazon, KFC, Facebook or SpaceX have become runaway successes within a short span. The reason: their founders have several things in common, which is rare among other people.

Here we look at various traits that the world’s richest and most successful entrepreneurs have in common.

The Common Traits of The World’s Richest People

The Common Traits of The World's Richest People

1. Serving People.

“If your only goal is to become rich, you will never achieve it,” said John D. Rockefeller, who laid the foundation stone for America’s giant petroleum industry and his own enterprise, Standard Oil. The same adage holds good today.

Facebook, for example, was launched by Mark Zuckerberg and his roommate, Eduardo Saverin to allow Harvard University students to share profiles and pictures

There are countless such examples of ordinary people striking rich. However, they share one thing in common: serving people. The main objective of launching these enterprises was to make life easier or enjoyable for people rather than earning money.

2. Reading Books.

Microsoft founder Bill Gates, celebrity TV show host Oprah Winfrey, SpaceX and Tesla CEO Elon Musk, Berkshire-Hathaway CEO Warren Buffet and several other extremely rich people of the world have one more thing in common: they are avid readers.

Bill Gates reads at least 50 books every year – an average of nearly four and a half books per month.

Elon Musk owes his success at SpaceX, the project to open space tourism to his love for books and the knowledge he gained from them about rocketry. Oprah Winfrey attributes her success to dozens of books, including some 70 top titles she read on her way to success while Warren Buffet spends about 80 percent of his day reading books.

3. Long-Term Financial Strategies.

A report by CNBC states, all wealthy people depend upon long-term financial strategies rather than short-term gains. They utilized their earnings and savings to invest in safe stocks that would assure gains in the long run rather than indulging in risky trading that can offer high returns.

Such financial planning and decisions ensured they do not lose money. Further, they invested money in their enterprises without the hope of immediate returns.

These wealthy people first focused on building a brand, offering value for people to identify with the brand. And later, popularize the brand through word-of-mouth publicity, which is more effective than traditional advertising.

4. Never Say Die.

Yet another common character trait shared by the world’s richest people is, they are not quitters.

Like every other human on Earth, these wealthy folks also witnessed ups and downs in life. Some of these were so overwhelming most ordinary people would have called it quits and gone in search of easier ventures.

Brian Chesky, Joe Gebbia and Nathan Bleckharczyk, founders of Airbnb, the world’s largest hotels and accommodations aggregator were plagued with financial problems.

 

Heavily encumbered with debts, bankruptcy was staring at these entrepreneurs in the very eye. Yet, they did not budge. They innovated their service that made Airbnb the world leader in its field today.

Another excellent example is Colonel Harland Sanders, whose recipe for fried chicken was rejected as many as 1,009 times before it was accepted. Col. Sanders is the founder of global chain Kentucky Fried Chicken or KFC.

5. Accepting Criticism.

Most people flee from criticism of any sort. Rather than learning from negative comments arising out of their behavior or work, they take umbrage rather quickly. Yet, they do not bother to amend their behavior or work pattern.

All wealthy people, however, are different. They are willing to be criticized for introducing new ideas or thoughts.

Jeff Bezos, founder of Amazon, rightly says that those who will try and do something new must be willing to draw criticism.

Steve Jobs, founder, Apple, Inc. puts it in even stronger words: “If you want to make everyone happy, do not become a leader; sell ice cream instead.”

The success of Amazon and Apple proves their founders were right when it came to accepting criticism.

6. Out of The Box Thinking.

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Thinking outside of the ‘box’ or a typical mindset is often impossible for most people. Understandably, because everyone draws their mindset from factors and circumstances they are raised and educated in.

This mindset eventually becomes a formidable fetter for anyone wanting to become an entrepreneur. Generally, most people follow the flock and take professions they falsely believe as best suited for their skills. Others try to follow footsteps of their parents.

The wealthiest people in the world never followed flock or took lucrative professions of their parents.

Mark Zuckerberg’s father was a dentist and mom – a psychiatrist. Bill Gates’ dad was a banker father while his mother was a lawyer.

Despite coming from wealthy families, they chose to follow their passion rather than confine their thinking to the proverbial boxed mindset. Col. Sanders had lost his parents at a young age of six years and had to shoulder responsibilities of his siblings.

Other Examples of What The Wealthiest People Have in Common

As we can see, these qualities or personality traits are common to the world’s richest people. It sets them apart from others. Most of them launched small enterprises with the sole purpose of bettering the lives of people. Their products or services gained popularity because money was never their consideration. Widespread use of their technology, products, and services eventually led them to become wealthy.

These traits are not typical to the US or the western world, as one may mistakenly come to believe. A glance at some richest people in India and elsewhere also reveals, they share the same characteristics with their American counterparts. This amply proves that richest people around the world share something in common, regardless of where they live and flourish.

Another common trait that all rich people share in common is philanthropy.

Since childhood, they believe in giving back to the society and helping the underprivileged. They practiced charity when they were not so rich and continue to donate money for the betterment of the society even after becoming billionaires.

These richest people on the planet never waited to become wealthy. Instead, they were philanthropists since childhood – a trait most other people pathetically lack or try to foist upon themselves to gain popularity.

In Conclusion

It is not easy to become wealthy. Or everyone would become a millionaire. People who do make it to the top have a different way of thinking combined with an undying zest for learning new things and educating themselves.

They do not consider conventional learning at universities as the end of their education. Instead, they try and acquire new skills every day and find ways and means to become better humans rather than focusing on fattening their purses.

The world’s wealthiest people also share one common trait: they are not people pleasers, despite their generosity and willingness to serve the society. Because they know, trying to please everyone will get them nowhere and could mean possible failure.