Stop Asking for Permission in Life and Do These 7 Big Things 237

Stop Asking for Permission in Life and Do These 7 Big Things

We don’t do so many things simply because we think we need permission for it. That reminder came to me by a recent post of one of my favorite bloggers, Tynan.

We are a bit confused when it comes to doing unusual things due to what others might think about it. Society wants us to do everything in a certain way, and anything outside that trajectory gets attention that doesn’t feel comfortable.

You might be judged, seen as unprofessional, considered crazy (most of the people who changed the world were thought to be insane though), or else. All are unpleasant emotions, but at the cost of living the life you want and are meant to live.

When I thought about this a bit more, I realized we don’t actually need permission for anything, but there is a certain mental barrier we need to destroy.

It all begins during childhood and in school when anything unusual you do is weird or actually gets you punished. You are expected to block your creativity and stop doing what feels right. You then start feeling guilty about anything bigger you might want to do with your life because you feel like you aren’t given permission for it.

Well, turns out that’s all in our head. You can do and have anything you feel like, and people will actually look up to you for your courage, although they wouldn’t do the same. They lack the guts and imagination, but you don’t need to fall into that trap.

If you feel like living an extraordinary life, go for it.

Some of the most beautiful and enjoyable things in life are stuff we don’t need permission for. I wanna remind you of them with this post, and maybe even encourage you to go achieve one of them pretty soon.

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1. Write a book.

So many people have whole books in their heads but think they don’t have the expertise or just aren’t ready to write one. Maybe you won’t follow through or won’t make any sales. But none of that matters.

If you feel like writing, go ahead and write something. If you feel like it’s worth reading, publish it. Ask friends and followers to read it, get paid for it. It’s not about the money. It’s about following the right path for you.

Even if you’re not a writer by nature, and think others will laugh at you, you have something to say and there are others out there willing to read it.

So open a doc on your laptop and start typing. Don’t think about editing, or what comes next. You’ll figure it out.

In fact, you can write and self-publish your book in less than 30 days. No experience necessary.

2. Skip college.

I didn’t do it and graduated from uni, but said my final Goodbye to formal education when it was time for a master’s degree. That didn’t mean anything in my case, and yet everyone around me expected me to do it.

I never learned anything in university simply because I didn’t want to. However, at the same time, I was dedicating tens of hours weekly, for years, to learn the ins and outs of the Internet, the publishing world, the blogging scene, the digital marketing industry. That education paid better in my case!

I won’t make you do that if you’re studying Law or Medicine. Others just attend college and pay a fortune to go into a business school just because they don’t know what else they can do and follow the advice of experts.

But Josh Kaufman didn’t write the bestseller titled The Personal MBA for no reason. No. He knows we can all skip business school and learn the same, even more, and in a smarter way, ourselves.

Save tens of thousands of dollars, and invest a year of your life to self-education. It might be the smartest thing you’ll ever do.

When I say don’t continue your education, though, I don’t mean to spend your family’s money, sit on the couch all day, or else. No. I say do stuff all the time. Build skills. Network. Meet people. Learn all you can about the industry of your choice. Start building an online business. Write and create stuff.

3. Travel to the other corner of the world.

I know people who think it’s impossible to go to a country far away just like that and spend some time there. I think it is.

I worked my ass off to get my time and freedom back, to be free from location, fixed hours, bosses, relatives even. All that in order to live in another country and travel to other continents when I want to.

That’s not how you need to do it. And I’m not saying you should become a world traveler either. I just wanna remind you that to turn your life around, you might need to just buy a ticket to a place far away right now.

There are many things you might need to do before that, but the ticket will make it real.

Some people like to spend all their savings to travel Asia for a few months. Others take a gap year and live in another country for a while. Some quit their jobs to travel the world, or just take an unexpected trip to a destination far, far away.

In any case, you don’t need permission to do it. If you don’t have your own money to cover it, that would be a problem. But a reminder again: you don’t need as much as you think if you’re headed to a cheap country like those in South East Asia, are a life hacker by nature, and are about to be making some bucks online.

If you’ve never left home, your parents will worry, yes. They wouldn’t want their kid to be somewhere where there’s no signal and not hear from you for days. But that’s what you need to grow up, see what life is all about, and finally, let go of the zone of comfort that your home place is.

So please, do a quick research now, learn more about the people who just said ‘f*ck it’ to reality and bought a one-way ticket, and who never looked back because they’ve been having the time of their lives ever since.

4. Build an online business.

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I’m shocked by the number of people who think this isn’t possible, and for the hundreds of excuses I’ve heard around me over the years. Wow!

Truth is, everyone trying to build something on their own feel like they will be judged. Like they leave less free time to do others things. That they are too different from what others around them are saying and don’t fit in anymore, so maybe they should stop it and go back to reality.

No. Instead, do this:

  • Keep building stuff.
  • Make your first dollars online as a freelancer.
  • Build your personal brand and have an online presence.
  • Connect with people online.
  • Read about successful entrepreneurs and how they began.
  • Listen to podcasts on online business and entrepreneurship.
  • Have a website.
  • Start a blog and keep it updated.
  • Create a newsletter and start asking people to subscribe to it to build your audience.
  • Be on social media and be active there too.
  • Join new platforms and create different types of content, such as audio and video.

All that, when you stay consistent, is the foundation of not just your future career where you’ll be your own boss, but also a life of freedom and independence.

And you don’t need permission to do it. In fact, you don’t need to tell anyone about it until there are some results to show (by which time you won’t care about what they have to say).

5. End a relationship.

No one should stay in a bad relationship. Both parties involved are miserable when that happens, and you make the world a worse place.

Some people do this because they’ve been together long enough and it just takes too much effort to start all over again. Others don’t want to hurt the other person.

But you owe it to yourself and to him/her to end the relationship on good terms and move on. No questions asked, no explanation needed, no guilt involved.

6. Buy something expensive.

If you’ve earned the money yourself, and regardless of your financial situation or where in life you are, you can spend them how you like it.

Tynan bought an island, before that a Bentley. But he’s a frugal guy, who’s selective with his money, time and attention.

I’m just reminding you now that if you planned a trip that seems unreasonably expensive (and maybe it is), or you want a new gadget that you’ll enjoy so much, you don’t need to ask for permission. You just go and buy it. And suffer the consequences, of course, without complaining. But sometimes that’s the price we pay for freedom.

7. Move away.

If you feel stuck in the city where you’ve been your whole life and where everyone you know is, it’s time to get away.

There will be sad faces, tears, broken hearts, and guilt. But it’s okay to give another place a try and see how it goes. It’s also okay to never come back.

Love knows no distance and family comes first. But it’s also true that your path is different and they play a role only in the first few stages of your life. In fact, it’s necessary for your personal growth to move away as soon as possible and do things on your own.

Conclusion

I can continue the list with tens of more items, but I think you get the point. I wanted to unlock the part in your brain where you realize you don’t need permission and can simply go do stuff and enjoy it all. After all, it’s one life we got, right?

There’s also a podcast episode of the Let’s Reach Success Podcast on this same topic. Check it out below:

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The Importance of Exercise to Your Professional Success 4

The Importance of Exercise to Your Professional Success

In today’s world, most jobs are demanding both physically and mentally. Competition is not always based on the best resume, education, or experience. Having the upper hand in your profession is most likely linked to your ability to think quickly, act appropriately, and carry out difficult duties with the utmost quality.

You need to be able to bring something new, different, and maybe even better to the table. So, how can you get the edge? How can you maximize your professional potential and output?

Believe it or not, the answer to that question might be found outside the workplace. It may be what you do when you are not at work that makes the difference in your work. What is it? EXERCISE, that’s what!

Replace Some Screen Time or Other Time Wasters.

Everyone needs to take a break from the workday. Television, gaming, social media, and video-viewing are what we often go to for this.

Try replacing some of your downtime with exercise, or trying exercising while you are in front of the screen. Exercising instead of sitting will not only help relieve some stress from your day but also help release some built up tension so you can actually rest better at night, helping you be better prepared for the next work day.

Exercising a few hours before bedtime elevates your body temperature. When your body temperature returns to normal, your brain and body are ready to sleep.

Exercise Sharpens Your Thinking.

It is a fact that as we age, our cognitive abilities decline.

While researchers may not have found the cure for dementia-related disorders, they do know that exercise helps delay onset or slow down its progression. Exercising during the years of 25 – 45 can boost the brain chemicals that prevent shrinking of the brain. It has also been shown to create new brain cells and increase proteins found in the brain that help keep thinking skills sharp.

Exercise Reduces Sick Time.

Exercise improves general health functioning and helps build your immunity to illnesses.

It has also been shown to increase our ability to think and work under stress, rather than giving in to the stress and being more susceptible to illness.

This keeps you reporting to work on a regular basis, and taking less sick days. The more you are at work, the more productive you are, and the more your employer values you.

Working Out Increases Your Stamina.

Long work days can leave you drained and listless. If you know you are facing long meetings, strenuous work sessions, or overtime for increased production demands, you can prepare to meet these challenges head-on.

As you exercise, over time your stamina will be able to withstand longer and more strenuous workouts. It also translates into helping you stay sharp during those long, arduous workdays.

Yes, How You Look Does Count.

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While it may never be mentioned, your appearance is noticed by employers, co-workers, interviewers, etc. You do not necessarily need to look like a buff bodybuilder, but having a svelte, strong appearance is a benefit.

Other’s first perception of you is of great importance. Think about interviewing prospective employees. Honestly consider the impact of their first impression on their employment outlook. Healthy looking is definitely a check in the “yes” column.

Energy levels are also higher when you are exercising regularly, and your energy is part of how you are perceived overall. When you start to feel better about yourself, you begin to present a more positive image to your coworkers.

It Boosts Your Confidence.

When you have conquered a goal in your exercise plan, like being able to run an entire mile instead of having to stop and walk some, you know you have accomplished something. You are on your way to bigger and better goals.

There may have been times along the way that you felt like that milestone would never come, but here it is. You feel proud and motivated to keep working toward your next goal. You see the fruits of your labor. You are energized and begin to feel better about yourself overall.

You begin to feel a sense of accomplishment that does not leave when you exit the gym doors. You carry that as a boost in your confidence as you go into work.

Bring the Habits of Exercise to Work.

What else do you learn through exercise? Goal setting, resilience, perseverance, learning new things, taking chances, organizing and managing your time, just to name a few. These are great skills to boost your performance at work, too.

You begin to realize that you can take what you have learned through setting up and sticking with an exercise plan to the workplace. You can use all these skills in your career. As you do, you will become more confident and thus, more effective in your daily tasks.

All of these are learned by starting, committing to, and following through with a fitness plan, and can become more of a life plan.

If you are looking for a job, being physically fit might not get you the job, but it will definitely help your chances. Your first impression is incredibly important, so do not brush off exercise and fitness lightly.

Exercise has so many benefits like sharpening thinking, building stamina, increasing energy, reducing negative effects of stress, building immunity, and boosting self-confidence. This can really help you in your professional success.

The benefits extend beyond your exercise time.

They stay with you day in and day out. If you are not currently exercising regularly, just start today, doing something small. Some sit-ups in front of the television, taking the stairs instead of the elevator, cleaning up your diet, or increasing your walking pace as you move around the office are good ways to get started. You will feel the benefits, even with these small steps.