How to Be in Harmony with Yourself 356

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Peace is the highest happiness. And by being in harmony with yourself, you can welcome it in your life.

Harmony is deeply connected with the balance of your mind, body and soul.

As long as we can remember, we’ve always been striving for the golden mean – that state, in which we become conscious of every detail of our inner and outer world, we accept things as they are, and just then are we able to embrace the new ones.

I’m not talking about perfection here. It is a different thing – reaching excellence in everything we do and seeking for the ideal.

From a philosophical point of view, though, those who are perfect are different from everyone else, which makes them imperfect.
A lot of famous people in the history have dedicated their lives to a desperate search of that utopia, but after failing to reach it, and finally realizing how mortal and powerless they are in the face of faith, they have lost their minds.

Harmony is completely another thing.

It’s happiness, completeness, fulfillment, satisfaction, acceptance, peace and awareness.

There are a few steps we have to take in order to be in harmony with ourselves.

Most of these things we are completely familiar with, and, yet, somehow we tend to avoid them. Maybe we are afraid to become the best versions of ourselves and to reach success.

Well, fear is our worst enemy and with it, we will always stay at the same level.
So overcome it, and start your journey to success by attaining harmony.

Here is what you need to do (give your mind time to get used to every change you make and be patient) :

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1. Define where you are now.

What have you achieved? What qualities do you have? What have you learned?

 2. Define where you want to get and who you want to become.

Now answer the same questions from the step above, but for the future. Set your goals and start doing something to achieve them right away.

3. Accept everything you are, have and have done.

Summarize everything you have – family, friends, home, education, qualities, achievements,  possibilities, etc. – and appreciate it.

4. Learn to listen to your mind.

It has a lot to tell you, but this can happen only if you listen to it, ask questions and respect it.

5. Meditate.

Meditation is the way to achieve the previous step.

There are various techniques and methods but they all include body and mind relaxation, concentrating on your own thought and listening to your consciousness.

If you do it to clear your mind, then after a few sessions and a lot of patience and focus, amazing things can happen.

6. Respect your desires and needs.

7. Give in order to get and satisfaction will come.

8. Be grateful.

Show the people in your life how much they mean to you.

9. Do things for yourself.

10. Take full responsibility for everything you’ve done.

This is one of the most important qualities you need to acquire. Steve Kamb from Nerd Fitness said it best in his post.

11. Move on.

After accepting all your negative qualities and imperfections, you can now consciously start improving them one by one.
You will have to let some things go and welcome new ones in your live.

12. Learn to love your body and then make it better.

13. Have some quiet time for yourself.

Last but not least, you need to make time like that.

A lot of people I know are afraid to be left alone in a room even for a few minutes. That means they are so insecure and afraid, that every fear and thought they’ve been avoiding will suddenly pop up in their mind.

It’s easier for them to indulge in the illusion of their comfort zone, which in this case is their social life. That is why they spend their free time communicating with others, even though sometimes it is just random people with whom they have nothing in common.

It is a sad picture as they are ruining their potential by surrounding themselves with unimportant acquaintances (that means that you cannot learn something from them), staying in cafes and discussing other people and events just to kill some time.

What they have to do is take some time for themselves, be alone, start getting to know themselves and realize that others aren’t the people they can truly depend on.

Have you already taken some of these steps ?
Which one do you consider most important?

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4 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Ignore Your Mental Health 20

4 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Ignore Your Mental Health

While most people pay the most attention to their physical health and work hard to achieve a healthy body, they often overlook the potential mental health issues that may have been well tucked away.

Understanding and paying sufficient attention to your mental health issues is an action that should be prioritized in every situation. What could seem like the simplest mental health problem to you might actually be affecting your life in more ways that you can imagine.

Here are just a few reasons why you shouldn’t ignore the signs.

1. It Is Way More Common Than You Believe.

You might think that mental illness is not present in many situations but the truth is that almost everyone has or is facing such an issue.

In fact, one in five Americans suffers from some type of mental illness. The saddest part about this though, is that very few of them seek treatment.

The person affected by the illness can even be one of your family members. Sadly, symptoms are easy to hide and even people who are severely depressed can mask their health issues from their families and avoid getting help.

2. It Can Also Affect Your Physical Health.

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It is known from a long time ago that the connection between the mind and the body is strong. Any sort of physical distress can have a huge effect on your capability to work or focus on things around you. Following this same rule, any sort of mental problem can easily affect your physical health too.

The first few things that a mental illness will affect are your mood, energy levels, sleep cycles, appetite and quite possibly your sex drive. Along with these problems and as a result of them, your immune system can also be affected and that can lead to more often colds and an overall impairment of your physical health.

People who face mental illnesses are often left unmotivated and drained of energy.

The illness blurs your mind so much that you have no energy left to function properly in your everyday life. Ask any person that has faced a major depression and they will tell you just how much they let themselves go and how they stopped caring about simple everyday things, such as brushing their teeth or taking a shower.

Physical symptoms won’t take long to appear and you will simply keep increasing your risk factor of a number of health problems such as heart disease or heart palpitations, insomnia and fatigue. It is very important that you ask for help if you feel such symptoms arising. Make sure that you consult a board-certified practitioner to be certain that a mental problem is not the cause of them.   

3. It Plays an Important Role in Your Success.

One of the most frequent symptoms of a mental illness is the lack of motivation. You just feel so tired of everything, you find that you are not interested in what others are doing and you just end up losing interest in things you used to love.

The lack of mental health can, therefore, play a huge role in your success. No matter if you are a college student, an employee or a working parent, you can easily lose sense of what’s important to you and hinder your success in whatever role you might have.

In whichever situation you might be, you will definitely need to be able to be creative and productive. Your success in your studies or your workplace might be your only source of stability and income.

An untreated mental illness can be the reason behind your reduced productivity, your lack of creativity and your overall negative attitude towards your work.

Keep in mind that a large number of homeless people are those who are suffering from a mental illness but sadly left it untreated.

Looking for help and letting the mental health professionals guide you can take a lot of weight off your shoulders. It can help you see things from a different perspective and give you the courage and motivation you need to get back on track and find yourself again.

4. It Can Affect Your Relationship with Your Peers.

Most people who face a mental illness find themselves intimidated by social situations. Even spending time with friends or family can seem like a very tiring or pointless task and they will often opt out of it. It is important to remember that this does not apply only to depressed people, as many might think, but to a large area of mental issues.

Anxiety disorders can alienate a person from their circle because of the constant fear of something going wrong, of someone not liking them or of an overall new situation. It is very common for the solution to your mental health issue to be holding the key to you getting back your behavioral health.

Mental illness can also affect your relationship with your family.

Apart from losing contact with people you probably care about, you might even end up harming them more than you think. It is not rare to see a person struggle both financially but also emotionally when it comes to helping family members that are battling mental illness.

Another very important reason to not take your mental health lightly is for the sake of your children. It is very often reported that children of people who struggle with a mental illness are abused or neglected. That can play a huge role in their lives and affect their entire lives, from childhood to adulthood.

Make Your Mental Health an Everyday Goal!

There are many places to turn to for help. The National Alliance on Mental Illness, otherwise known as NAMI, can be a great place to start. Through it, you can find a suitable medical center that will provide you with the suitable health services to help you regain your mental health.

It is important that you are not ashamed of your personal struggles or mental issues. Everything is part of the human nature and the fact that there are so many people available to help comes to show just how human this situation is and how much attention we, as a society, should be paying to this important issue.


Leona Henryson is a professional writer and passionate blogger. Her goal is to help people achieve their personal self-development and mental wellness.