What Separates Us from Success 408

what separates us from success

If money is your hope for independence you will never have it. The only real security that a man will have in this world is a reserve of knowledge, experience, and ability. 

Henry Ford

There are different types of people. Even a child can say that one is happy, while another is sad; one is confident, another – not. Some of them are successful, others – not.
The big question is what separates the first group from the second?

People have equal rights, opportunities and chances to evolve and improve. Not all realize that and not many use them. But the worst thing is that they let other factors stay in their way – factors which are scary at first sight, which make it impossible for you to go any further in your life, make you ordinary and turn life into a never ending struggle.

It’s time to define every limitation you’ve set yourself through the years, influenced by the failures you’ve been through, people who’ve been telling you what you can’t, situations that have seemed impossible to deal with, not being understood, etc. Realize that you can change even your most deep-seated convictions.

Understand that you can start from nothing and reach success in every aspect of your life. You have every physical and mental capacity for achieving what you want but only if you are willing to put in a lot of hard work, effort, time, energy and to chase your goals every single day, believe in yourself and your abilities and don’t pay any attention to the naysayers, critics and judgmental people.

There will always be someone to tell you what you can’t do. But real inner strength is revealed in the moments when you ignore that and tell yourself what you can do.

Such a way of thinking is what distinguishes successful people from the mass.

Now let’s take a look at the most frequent factors that ordinary people use as an excuse not to work hard and to succeed.

No Money

The biggest difference in the way successful and ordinary people think is when it comes down to money.

But nothing can give us better examples than history. Most of the richest people we know were once poor. They started from nothing but had a great idea, a talent to improve, a service to offer. They did everything they can so that people know about their products, they found sponsors, they formed the right relationships and thus made their way in the world of business.

Many families live in poverty. And they’ve struggled so much without succeeding and had so bad moments that this has made them desperate, sad, stressed and without any hope. The worst thing is that their kids share their opinion and attitude towards money and life, they often start to detest rich people, the government, their boss or else just because they have to find a reason for all they’ve suffered.

But many successful people have come from such families, so that is no excuse.

You need to take control of your own life and make your truth. Sometimes even your parents can be the people who kill your hope for a bright future. No one said it will be easy. You have to get out there and find your own way.

Don’t think money is bad just because some people have it while others have nothing to eat. Don’t blame rich people for that. Just find what you are good at and work hard.

No Education

Bill Gates, Henry Ford, Thomas Edison, John. D. Rockefeller, Mark Zuckerberg and many others weren’t educated enough as well. Some of them got expelled or didn’t have the chance or money to go to college but in either way they showed that this is not what makes you successful.

Of course, if you can afford it, you should study. That is the advice they give to every young person who is trying to build a good future. But their life is an example of what can happen if someone follows his path, sets the right goals, devotes himself to an idea and decides to change his life and the life of others.

Whatever you study, try not to forget to learn new things everyday. Read all about the thing you’re interested in, gain knowledge, figure out how to use it in real life and try to make it even better. Find what people need and provide it to them. Solve their problems and become a professional in your niche.


Many people think they are too young or too old to succeed. That is an awfully wrong thought. Why should age stop you if you have found a way to help people, a product to sell, a way to start your own business?

There are more and more cases of young people (16-25) who have thought of something great and started working on it. Steve Jobs made his first million when he was 23 so why can’t you too?

If you can write well why don’t you start your own book now? If you are good at programming and have some great ideas why don’t you try to get in touch with someone who works in an IT company? If you are good at football why don’t you start playing  professionally?

Young age has so many benefits. You are full of enthusiasm and energy, brave, not distracted by others, you want to try new things, to see the world, to meet new people every day.
You don’t think so much about money issues, health problems, political and economic life and that makes everything so much easier. You will be a breath of fresh air in every company and business. You will eventually gain knowledge and experience in the process of your work but never think that you are too young for anything.

Don’t lose hope if you are over 50 or so. This is another level where you know almost everything about people and life. You’ve seen many things and have priceless experience. So why don’t you finally start that online business you’ve been thinking of for so long? Why don’t you finish the painting/book/etc. you started years ago?

Many famous, rich and successful people have done their best job in their middle age. You have so much to tell and share with the world that it would be egoistic of you not to do it. And now people will respect you and won’t take your word for granted because your experience will speak for you.

So do your best and feel satisfied with life by finally doing what you’ve always wanted.

You are special, unique, one of a kind. If you belief in yourself strong enough, have no limits, make no excuses and don’t let money, education and age be an obstacle, you will reach success.

 What other limitations do people tend to set that separate them from success? 

See also:

The 3 biggest obstacles to entrepreneurial success
5 ways to overcome success barriers
5 types of people you don’t need in your life anymore
20 people who became highly successful after age 40

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9 Ways to Handle Change in Your Life [Infographic] 3

9 Ways to Handle Change in Your Life [Infographic]

When a big change happens in your life, it doesn’t have to be a negative change to have a huge impact on you.

Change causes uncertainty and our brains and bodies react to uncertainty by trying to protect us with the release of fight or flight chemicals and hormones.

The downside to this is that living with these for an extended time results in elevated heart rate and affects your digestion, immune systems and blood flow.

But there are ways you can regain control over your life even in the midst of big changes.

The first is to take a step back and reflect on what’s actually happening and what your involvement is, which will help you to understand and find perspective on the situation. Hopefully, this will enable you to find the opportunities that every change in your life brings, rather than obsessing over any short-term negative impacts.

It may also help you to allow yourself a transition period where you adjust to the changes. But with a firm deadline by which you expect to have moved on and settled into the new routine. Even if it doesn’t quite work out that way, it will still push you towards visualizing the end of the uncertainty, which will prepare you to make it happen sooner rather than later.

On a more basic level, you need to remember to look after yourself during this time of change and the related stresses.

It can be too easy to fall into bad habits like neglecting your own simple needs, like a good night’s sleep and staying active and eating right when you are going through something like this. Having a day in your pajamas eating ice cream out of the tub is fine. But your body needs sleep, exercise and nutrition to keep you healthy.

Routine can be a comfort when it feels like everything in your life is changing.

So try and stick to some simple ones like walking your dog every morning or going to a regular gym class to give your life some stability and consistency.

You also need the help and support of those around you. And having a strong support network is crucial when it comes to coping with big changes in your life. This means family and friends, but you could also seek out people going through similar experiences by looking online. There may well be communities who you can talk to and get helpful tips from.

Most importantly of all, you need to be aware of when you need more than just the love and support of other people to help you cope with stress and uncertainty. If you start to feel like your mental health is really suffering, or you have been feeling the symptoms of stress for more than a couple of months, you need to go and talk to a health professional to get the help you need to bounce back.

You can read more practical tips about dealing with change and the symptoms it causes in this infographic from Pounds to Pocket.