How to Find The One Thing That Just Feels Right 298

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There is always at least one thing everyone should do.

It’s what they’re meant to do, what they’re good at, what feels right, what helps others and can be shared, what makes the doer get in the zone, lose track of time and dedicate himself to it entirely.

This thing will be his salvation, his therapy, both his relaxation and work. It will be his duty because he knows he has to do it, and then he has to involve others.

The world would have been different – in a better way – if everyone followed their path.

I believe everyone has one, or more. The point is that he has to stay mindful and follow it, stay true to what’s important to him and do what he’s supposed to do.

Unfortunately, we live in the age of distraction – money; addictive behavior in the form of shopping, overeating, drinking, gambling, drugs, etc; technologies; TV; daily tasks; jobs; rules; social life; peer pressure; fears; worries; etc.

These are all things that make us leave behind what matters.

They turn us into average people, who only care about what others are doing and what others think of them; who often feel sad, depressed and hopeless for many reasons but never important ones; who have jobs they hate, work for and with people they can’t stand so that they can make money that is never enough and can spend it on things that actually make life worse. These people live in their comfort zone, fill their minds with jealousy, judgmental and negative thoughts, fears, worries about the future, regrets, doubts.

They become empty on the inside and sometimes you can see that in their eyes.

The solution to that is to find the path they’ve lost a long time ago.

It’s still there, probably still the same and has the same tremendous benefits to the person who has to walk it once he follows it.

That’s often hard to explain. This path may appear in so many different ways, in different situations, and the meaning we give it can vary. But one thing is sure – once you’re back on it, everything feels just right.

It’s about doing what you’re meant to, finding your thing and dedicating time to it. Making it your mission and staying true to it.

Mine is writing.

I may do many other things, but nothing can compare to that. Simply because it’s my thing.

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I devoted myself to it only 2-3 years ago. I mean that’s when I really started writing. And everything changed. I feel so much better, happier. I’ve never had something that felt so right before, often in an inexplicable way.

Ever since I can remember, I’ve showed an interest in writing. I loved essays at primary school, I loved books. I was outgoing and have lived enough, although secretly an introvert, but I never stopped reading and being fascinated with how I felt when I write.

As a little kid, I’ve written poems. But many others have too.

Also, at some point in high school I’ve felt so many emotions that instead of bursting into tears I just took sheets and a pen, late at night at home, and started writing. It often last for hours.
And then I felt relieved. That’s when I realized writing was also my therapy.

At school there have been times when I wasn’t prepared at all for an exam. But if it was an essay, or something about a book I should have read but haven’t and an extract of the text was given, I had great marks.
That – and other situations in which I’ve helped others with writing, or things about grammar and literature were just coming to my mind – was when I though I may even be good at that.

I also noticed that every time I wrote for a while, be it at school or for something else, I felt more energetic, happy, enthusiastic. My energy level increased significantly.

But it wasn’t until my first year at university, that I really started writing. It was a bit of a depressed period, not that something has happened, but just that I needed a vent. And I started writing a lot.
I lived alone for a while, and was writing for a few whole days. Then kept doing it during the night – that’s when I’m most productive. And haven’t stopped since then.

I started my blog a few months after that. And have been writing whenever I feel like. I understood that there’s no such thing as writer’s block. Writing, creating, and anything else, is simply a habit. And when practiced by being done repeatedly, it becomes a daily activity.

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Also, inspiration can be found all the time, anywhere. It’s in the way you think and look at the world. And yes, sometimes I just feel like writing and words come naturally, other times – I don’t. But a writer can write whenever he decides to, and that can be all the time.

I have big plans for that now. I finished my first book, which I will release for pre-orders in a week. The whole writing thing is evolving, but I’m not surprised. I’m grateful and enjoy every second of it. But it doesn’t come as a surprise because it feels so right and I was sure that this was going to happen at some point.

It’s my passion. And it’s the perfect thing for me because it requires me to write about the things I care, share them with like-minded people, write whenever I feel like and not to do what I’m told to or work for someone else and listen to what others think.

Many people may not agree that it’s what I should spend hours each day doing, many won’t like my writing and may find them simple, boring, unworthy or call me illiterate.
It doesn’t even matter that English is just my second language and I may post and publish stuff with mistakes here and there even after a few revisions. Everyone has the right of having an opinion and expressing it.

But as long as I feel great about it, as long as people tell me I inspire them and that my work matters, I’ll keep doing it.

Also, it helps me grow. Sometimes I just leave my mind wonder while writing. It’s a kind of meditation for me – I just go with the flow and let my left hand do the work on the sheet, or my fingers on the keyboard. Other times I don’t even know what I’m going to think about before I have written it. That’s how I come up to new realizations every now and then. And it feels amazing.

The point of this post is to show you how important it is to find that thing, to make it your mission, to master it by practicing it daily, preferably to make it your career, let it make you a better person, and share it with others, help them and make it your contribution to the world and also a legacy.

Related: How to Leave a Legacy

Right now, for example, I’m writing about writing. It’s ridiculous but it’s like a confession. There’s a lot of passion in this post and it may inspire someone out there and make him do something about his life that he has been putting off for ages or haven’t had the motivation to do. Or even if it makes someone smile, touches a heart, or makes someone think, it has done its job.

Everything with a purpose is powerful. Even this text.

So if you have found it, keep investing time in it. If you haven’t – look for it by analyzing the things you’ve always wanted, the things that move you and you care about and search for it deep inside yourself. It’s worth it.

It’s your turn now. From all the things you do, what’s the one that just feels right? And how can you turn it into something more than just a hobby?

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4 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Ignore Your Mental Health 21

4 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Ignore Your Mental Health

While most people pay the most attention to their physical health and work hard to achieve a healthy body, they often overlook the potential mental health issues that may have been well tucked away.

Understanding and paying sufficient attention to your mental health issues is an action that should be prioritized in every situation. What could seem like the simplest mental health problem to you might actually be affecting your life in more ways that you can imagine.

Here are just a few reasons why you shouldn’t ignore the signs.

1. It Is Way More Common Than You Believe.

You might think that mental illness is not present in many situations but the truth is that almost everyone has or is facing such an issue.

In fact, one in five Americans suffers from some type of mental illness. The saddest part about this though, is that very few of them seek treatment.

The person affected by the illness can even be one of your family members. Sadly, symptoms are easy to hide and even people who are severely depressed can mask their health issues from their families and avoid getting help.

2. It Can Also Affect Your Physical Health.

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It is known from a long time ago that the connection between the mind and the body is strong. Any sort of physical distress can have a huge effect on your capability to work or focus on things around you. Following this same rule, any sort of mental problem can easily affect your physical health too.

The first few things that a mental illness will affect are your mood, energy levels, sleep cycles, appetite and quite possibly your sex drive. Along with these problems and as a result of them, your immune system can also be affected and that can lead to more often colds and an overall impairment of your physical health.

People who face mental illnesses are often left unmotivated and drained of energy.

The illness blurs your mind so much that you have no energy left to function properly in your everyday life. Ask any person that has faced a major depression and they will tell you just how much they let themselves go and how they stopped caring about simple everyday things, such as brushing their teeth or taking a shower.

Physical symptoms won’t take long to appear and you will simply keep increasing your risk factor of a number of health problems such as heart disease or heart palpitations, insomnia and fatigue. It is very important that you ask for help if you feel such symptoms arising. Make sure that you consult a board-certified practitioner to be certain that a mental problem is not the cause of them.   

3. It Plays an Important Role in Your Success.

One of the most frequent symptoms of a mental illness is the lack of motivation. You just feel so tired of everything, you find that you are not interested in what others are doing and you just end up losing interest in things you used to love.

The lack of mental health can, therefore, play a huge role in your success. No matter if you are a college student, an employee or a working parent, you can easily lose sense of what’s important to you and hinder your success in whatever role you might have.

In whichever situation you might be, you will definitely need to be able to be creative and productive. Your success in your studies or your workplace might be your only source of stability and income.

An untreated mental illness can be the reason behind your reduced productivity, your lack of creativity and your overall negative attitude towards your work.

Keep in mind that a large number of homeless people are those who are suffering from a mental illness but sadly left it untreated.

Looking for help and letting the mental health professionals guide you can take a lot of weight off your shoulders. It can help you see things from a different perspective and give you the courage and motivation you need to get back on track and find yourself again.

4. It Can Affect Your Relationship with Your Peers.

Most people who face a mental illness find themselves intimidated by social situations. Even spending time with friends or family can seem like a very tiring or pointless task and they will often opt out of it. It is important to remember that this does not apply only to depressed people, as many might think, but to a large area of mental issues.

Anxiety disorders can alienate a person from their circle because of the constant fear of something going wrong, of someone not liking them or of an overall new situation. It is very common for the solution to your mental health issue to be holding the key to you getting back your behavioral health.

Mental illness can also affect your relationship with your family.

Apart from losing contact with people you probably care about, you might even end up harming them more than you think. It is not rare to see a person struggle both financially but also emotionally when it comes to helping family members that are battling mental illness.

Another very important reason to not take your mental health lightly is for the sake of your children. It is very often reported that children of people who struggle with a mental illness are abused or neglected. That can play a huge role in their lives and affect their entire lives, from childhood to adulthood.

Make Your Mental Health an Everyday Goal!

There are many places to turn to for help. The National Alliance on Mental Illness, otherwise known as NAMI, can be a great place to start. Through it, you can find a suitable medical center that will provide you with the suitable health services to help you regain your mental health.

It is important that you are not ashamed of your personal struggles or mental issues. Everything is part of the human nature and the fact that there are so many people available to help comes to show just how human this situation is and how much attention we, as a society, should be paying to this important issue.


Leona Henryson is a professional writer and passionate blogger. Her goal is to help people achieve their personal self-development and mental wellness.