Why Everyone Must Work on Improving Their Confidence Today

Why Everyone Must Work on Improving Their Confidence Today - let's reach success

From what I’ve seen and experienced myself, and from what people have shared with me, lack of confidence seems to be the main thing that’s stopping us from taking action towards our goals.

There’s more to that, though. We also don’t approach new people, aren’t social because we don’t feel comfortable in our skin and thus miss out on what can be the next great relationship.

We are also too insecure to express our opinion. And, sadly, in life we can’t get what we want if we don’t ask for it. Confidence in our abilities is what helps us do it.

Lack of self-esteem makes us sabotage our own happiness and success as well. We consider failure an option, don’t believe we’ll make it this far and often don’t even start because of that, or give up early on.
Be if we were sure of our success, things would be different.

So without confidence, we can’t get far. But just imagine what we can achieve if we have it.

What if you were so confident in yourself and your abilities, that you never listened to the naysayers, didn’t care what others or society think of you, had no doubts, didn’t need any help or support, and could just get out there and take action towards your desires?!

I think that’s absolutely possible. What’s more, it’s a must if we want to live a life of abundance, and be happy with who we are and what we got.

But how do we gain confidence?

Two things must be done:

1. You should eliminate the things in your current life that are making you insecure and with low self-esteem.
2. You should be making small changes in your life and learning new behaviors in order to make confidence your second nature, just like you do with any other new habit you’re building.

So let’s take a look at each.

Eliminating What’s Making You Less Confident

In 8 Ways Other People and Stuff Suck The Self-Esteem Out of You I talk about the people in your life, and out of it, plus some other outer factors, that are making you doubt your abilities and be insecure.

In a nutshell, here are the 8 things I mention:

1. Parents.

Your parents make you believe you’re not good enough.

Solution: You don’t need anyone else’s approval or opinion in order to feel good enough. You’re already a unique individual and the only barriers stopping you from living the ideal lifestyle are the ones in your head.

2. Past failures.

Many people don’t believe they can succeed only because they’ve made mistakes in the past. But failure is a learning experience and no successful people have reached the top without experiencing defeats many times. It’s how we learn and grow. And how we eventually find what works.

Solution: Let go of the past. It has nothing to do with your present or future. Once you leave it behind with peace, you’ll see that it has nothing to do with your level of confidence. And you’ll be able to just give your new idea a try without comparing it to a project in the past that failed.

3. Society.

I talk about the fact that society gives us a wrong perception of what confidence consists of. According to others, a good-looking, rich, popular and busy person is allowed to have high self-esteem.

But in reality, such a person is rarely truly happy.

We can be confident right in this moment, even before we’ve achieved anything. Because this belief will help us build momentum and stay consistent when going after a dream.

You don’t need to change anything about yourself either, in order to be confident. You don’t need to make anyone like you. Those who respect you and appreciate you for who you are, however, will stick around. And they are the only ones you need.

“The moment you let go of insecurity, doubts and shyness, you can give everything in life a try without fearing it, can approach even the most unapproachable person and can see what life is all about.

So free yourself from everything society wants you to believe. And do what feels right, follow your own path, do more of what works for you and ignore what everyone else says.”

4. Comparison.

Comparing yourself to others is a habit most people share, but which makes them miserable and is a sign of insecurity and desperation.

If you think about it, it’s pointless. You have no right to compare yourself to others, as you don’t know what they’ve been trough. Also, no two people are like. You see the world differently and don’t have similar plans or goals. Which means you’re walking different paths. And why lose focus and lead astray from yours] just to compare your life to someone else’s?

Solution: Stop comparing. Appreciate what you have and who you are, and work on becoming a better version of yourself.

5. Environment.

As I’ve said before, environment is a big part of how successful you are. It affects your confidence, or the lack of it, too.

Solution: Start dressing for success, take care of yourself. Eliminate toxic people from your life – those how lower your self-esteem and make you doubt yourself. Get rid of things that remind you of who you were when you were insecure in the past.

6. Vocabulary.

Successful people use powerful and positive words. The rest, complain, are negative and always in doubt.

The words you use shape your identity and affect your thoughts and actions.

Solution: See how confident people speak, and start using their vocabulary. Remove negative words. Stop telling others that you want to be more confident. Instead, say that you already are.

I’m sure there are many other outer factors that have a negative influence on our self-esteem. But there’s a way to ignore or eliminate each. Don’t hesitate to analyze all these and do something about them today.

Making Confidence a Habit

First, decide that you’ll work on it and make it a priority. That means dedicating a little time daily to practice being more confident (by affirmations, meditation, talking to yourself in the mirror, watching someone you admire and imitating him, reading about the psychology of confidence, etc.)

Make a plan. Break it down to small steps.

Consistency is key, together with starting small. So I suggest you think of simple actions that take no more than 5 minutes to do 2-3 times daily.

Before you go out, tell yourself in the mirror how confident you are. Fake it by breathing deeply, smiling to yourself, standing straight and enjoying what you see.

When you’re out, focus on walking and talking with attitude, even if you don’t feel it in the beginning.

When in public, approach new people no matter how hard it is. It’s best to simply start a small talk without thinking too much. Do a few of these and you’ll feel much more comfortable the next few times.
That’s how you overcome shyness and deal with social anxiety too – by doing the one thing you’re scared of.

I believe gaining confidence can change your life. And if you haven’t seen progress for some time, it’s because you don’t believe in yourself enough to ask for more, to get out there and speak up, to take action, to connect with influencers, etc.

How confident are you in your opinion? And what can you do today to improve that?

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How This Family Guy Makes $10,000/Month Online Teaching Others How to Make, Save and Invest Money

How This Family Guy Makes $10,000/Month Online Teaching Others How to Make, Save and Invest Money - Interview with R.J. Weiss from TheWaystoWealth.com

This is an interview-style post with R.J. Weiss from The Ways to Wealth.

Hey R.J. What’s your background and what do you do?

I blog about all things personal finance at The Ways to Wealth.

Before I went full-time into blogging, I spent ten years in the financial services industry. Specifically, helping families buy the right type of life insurance.

During my time with a full-time job, I’ve always had different side hustles going on. From freelance writing, Amazon FBA, conversion rate optimization, to website design — there were many projects I pursued outside of work.

How did you start your career in finance?

I got started in finance straight out of college working for my the family insurance business. As I love the financial planning side of things, I choose to specialize in life insurance planning. This led me down the path to obtaining the CFP® Certification.

What made you start blogging?

The Ways to Wealth, which I started in 2016, has been my 5th blog.

The others mostly fizzled out most due to a lack of interest. But, in 2009 I started a personal finance blog called GenYWealth.com (no longer around) that had some success.

The idea GenYwealth.com was to write about what I was learning about studying to take the CFP®. The blog was, by all means, a success. I was able to gain valuable knowledge, pass the CFP® exam, earn some extra money and build up a good community.

I then took this knowledge and started a business blog, which allowed the insurance agency I was working for to generate leads.

I started The Ways to Wealth because my passion is personal finance–from investing to travel hacking, I love the challenge of optimizing my finances.

How was The Ways to Wealth born?

I didn’t have much of a plan for starting The Ways to Wealth when I purchased the domain name.

I was actually thinking it would be a niche site, which was inspired by Pat Flynn’s niche site duel. Then, I came across the income reports of Michelle Schroeder-Gardner and wisely changed direction to a more traditional blog.

This change came about 6-months after starting to blog.  I did a timeline of the site in one of my income reports.

What worked best when trying to grow the site?

I had a decent knowledge of SEO. So at first, I started growing the site with email outreach. One of the first posts I had about best investing books of all time, had about 15 links to it.

This was nice to start with but was quite slow to build up, as it can take a while to earn Google’s trust.

The big turning point came when I started to understand Pinterest. I spent a few frustrating weeks on the platform, then it finally started paying dividends.

I went from about 100 sessions a day to 1,000, which was huge for me at the time.

How did you get to 3 million monthly viewers on Pinterest?

the ways to wealth pinterest 3 million monthly views

I lay out my Pinterest strategy here. But at the core the idea is to:

1) Write high-quality content that Pinners want to click through, read, and share.

2) Pin to my own and high-quality group boards, with a keyword-rich description.

3) Continue to Pin my best pins across my own boards/group boards, ruthlessly eliminating Pins that don’t perform well.

One thing to keep in mind is impressions don’t mean much on Pinterest. What counts are clicks to your website. So, you want to design not for impressions but clicks.

What aspects of the online business are you outsourcing or automating and how?

The first thing I outsourced was Pinterest design. I’ll design about 30-40 pins a month, so this was big time saver for me.

Of course, it took some work to get going. At first, I hired 5 or so people on Fiverr. I found one decent designer but the work quality deteriorated over time.

I then went to Upwork and posted a job for a  graphic designer. I found a great team down in Argentina, who I’m very happy with.

I’m currently experimenting with working with a ghostwriter. A few of my latest posts have been transcribed from my recording, with the ghostwriter making sense of it all.

I can compile about 3 posts in 90 minutes, then take another 90 or so minutes to prepare them. Saving me around 3-4 hours per post this way.

What’s your main income stream and why do you think it works for you?

My main source of income for the blog is affiliate revenue. It works because the partners I do have are high-quality businesses, who deliver value and solve real problems. This makes it easy to naturally link to such a partner.

When did you start making more than $10K/month and what was the turning point?

My first month over $10K was in January of 2018. In December of 2017, income was around $3,000 and in July of 2017 around $500. So, it was definitely a jump.

What happened then in January?

First, personal finance is at its peak interest in January.

Second, I had multiple Pins go viral.

Third, in November I started driving traffic via Facebook to the site. So, in January I could take campaigns I’d been fine-tuning for a few weeks and scale them.

How do you balance work and family life?

I have a routine I stick to Monday through Friday.

When inside of my designated working hours, I work. When outside of these hours, I’m not.

This is a lot easier said than done. But the thing important for me is not to take work everywhere I go. This means I don’t have any apps on my phone that are work-related (email, analytics, etc..)

What are you 3 best finance tips for newbies?

  • Focus on your savings rate. How much you save is the most important decision you’ll make.
  • Small incremental improvements add up over time. My favorite example is increasing your savings rate 1% every quarter, means you’ll be saving 20% of your income in just 5 years.
  • Study happiness. Become a student on how to increase your level of happiness. The natural result is you’ll want less overtime, making the game of personal finance a lot easier to win.

What books, blogs or podcasts help you stay motivated along the way of growing an online business?

I read a fair amount to keep fresh ideas in my head.

My favorite podcast is The Tim Ferriss Show.

Two blogs I enjoy reading are:

Farnam Street
Barking up the Wrong Tree

And as far as books. I try to read one a week. A few books I would recommend to online entrepreneurs would be:

Deep Work by Cal Newport
The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy
The Four Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss

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