Lessons Motherhood Taught Me in Just 3 Weeks

I know it’s been just 3 weeks since I’ve had my baby girl, but as a personal development lover (or fanatic 🙊), the lessons are already hitting hard and I’m loving it.

Here’s what I got so far:

What Becoming a Mom Is Teaching Me About Life and Work

I’m finally letting go of perfectionism

This was a lifelong journey, but now I see more progress in this area.

Truth is, the house will never be as clean or organized as I’d like, I can’t be 100% present and peaceful during every feeding and cuddle time with baby, business and personal development (like reading books, journaling, taking courses, etc.) will be in the background most days and I might not even get to it, and that’s okay.

Being with my daughter and enjoying the newborn stage while it lasts (it will be over before I know it!) is the most important thing now (as well as keeping baby alive, of course). The rest can wait.

Motherhood makes you face your perfectionism very quickly, and if you don’t let go of it (finally!), the days won’t be pleasant and you’ll never feel good about yourself or be the best mama you can be.

Productivity looks different, but it can still be there.

My favorite thing now is listening to audiobooks or podcasts during feeding or other long tasks with baby. My brain needs that stimulation, and of course, I don’t do it all the time. It’s something I do for myself and it helps me stay sane.

The rest of the time, I’m present and talking to baby girl, listening to classical music to stimulate her, or simply enjoying the moment.

I don’t have work hours anymore, I have work moments.

I love my business and I miss it, no matter what else is happening in my life. And these weeks I’ve found a beautiful balance, and a new practice and way to look at things.

I simply go to my home office when possible, when my partner is with baby (which is often now that he’s at home with us full-time for the first few weeks), when she’s napping and when I have energy and am feeling creative.

And I answer emails, publish sponsored content, do some administration, work on something new, post on socials, write the newsletter, or create some new content.

It’s simple and it doesn’t need to continue long. It can be 15 minutes, or 1 hour. It can be once every 2 days, or 4 times in 1 day. I let it be anything it’s supposed to be and I don’t push it.

This works only for this period, of course. We will see what comes next. But that’s what I call work moments. And, of course, having built the foundation of my blogging business for so many years now allows me to do all that.

The concept of maternity leave doesn’t really resonate with me and is not something I need to even think about. Also, I don’t define this current period as postpartum. It’s just me, my newborn, my partner, my new priorities, and – as always – my business and personal and spiritual growth.

I am the best mom I can be for her.

Mom guilt is very real and it can hit often, even if it doesn’t make any sense. But I believe that our kids choose us, and that means we are equipped with anything necessary to be the best parents for them.

I am defining what kind of mom I want to be and becoming her every day, but – at the same time – I am already the perfect mom for my daughter. That gives me peace.

I do some energy work on that throughout the day, such as releasing limiting beliefs, regulating my nervous system, making baby girl feel safe (cultivating a feeling of safety in her the way I did in myself, so she can carry it with her no matter where she goes or what happens in life), etc.

I’m still myself, I’m just a mom now.

This tiny humans’ life depends on me, but I am still myself and on a path of my own. So I have a big vision.

I can’t wait to get back to things I couldn’t do much of while pregnant, I can’t wait to do more sports again. I can’t wait to set more boundaries with people so I can be more available and present for my partner and baby. I’m excited to learn more about taking care of a newborn, and I’m passionate about business and being a great role model for her.

I’m excited to keep working on my money mindset and double my revenue this year. By living the life I want and on my own terms, I am showing her what’s possible for her.

So these are the lessons, themes and insights that have been coming up for me in the past 3 weeks since I give birth.

I know some might think this is too much, and is not even what I’m supposed to be thinking about. 

But I’m not pushing myself. This is who I am, I have the space and time to explore these thoughts. I am mentally, physically and emotionally fit, and my personal growth gives me energy and is my kind of therapy.

In fact, this is what’s making postpartum very pleasant so far. And that reality is available to others too.

Let me know what you think.

Even if you’re not a parent, this is mindset we’re talking about, so we can always discuss these topics further.