I Met My Younger Self for Coffee [TikTok Trend]

Now that I’m on TikTok, I see some trends. And while I’m not really into them, one that stood out to me was the younger self trend. 

It’s about imagining you meet your younger self at a cafe and have a conversation with her, and describe the growth that has happened since then. 

This is actually a nice healing and self-love practice (and related to inner child work) as it means you go back to a previous version of yourself (energetically) and give her love, forgive her, tell her it all gets better, etc. 

In case you don’t want to do this on socials, you can do it in your mind as a spiritual practice and as a form of mediation and really feel how your younger self lets go of a lot and feels her feelings and is accepted and loved by you.

You can take this further by writing a letter to her, and then burning it if you feel like.

So, here’s what I told my younger self.

I met my younger self for coffee.

She was 20 minutes late and anxious and disappointed because of it. I was a few minutes late but relaxed about it.

She had slept in that day and didn’t manage to get anything done before the meeting. I woke up early simply to have my slow morning.

She was wearing too much makeup and her skin didn’t look good. I had little to no makeup and felt good about it.

She had just overeaten the night before, and was still not fresh from partying in the weekend. I hadn’t had alcohol in months and food wasn’t a weakness for me anymore. There was no void to fill now.

She told me she couldn’t stop thinking about the law of attraction and imagining her ideal life.

I told her to keep following that nudge, and that I’ve successfully used manifestation for business, relationships and other big goals.

She told me she wanted to get out of her home country. I told her that one day, she’ll relocate to her favorite country thanks to her online business.

She told me she was angry at her dad and often cried. I told her I learned to forgive him and set strong boundaries.

She told me how she only attracts the wrong men. I told her I learned more about my attachment style and abandonment issues, let go of the fantasy of finding and fixing a bad boy, healed some of my daddy issues, and started making better choices. But only in my early 30s.

She shared how she feels about her body, how she’s often on a diet but then overeats and is never happy with what she sees in the mirror.

I told her we get through that and love our body more than ever now, the way it is. Also that we love going to the gym, gave up sugar, and don’t have a bad relationship with food anymore but can still eat what we want and feel good and fit in our body. 

She liked hearing that but it will take her quite some time to actually feel good in her skin.

She told me about the guilt and shame she feels. How she’s constantly being triggered, can’t control her emotions and almost never feels good.

I told her it all gets better because one day she’ll leave this toxic environment, will only surround herself by people she likes, will do what she loves for a living and create her ideal daily life, as well as go to bed peacefully and wake up happy. That’s because she learns to ride the waves of her emotions, gets to know her inner self and allows the emotions to be felt and released when necessary, and then feels relieved and even more empowered.

She told me she often looks for a deeper why, for meaning, and for something greater than the average life she’s living.

I told her she’ll find it in spirituality, in the meaningful work she’ll do online, in her healing journey, and in her self-love journey.

She liked hearing this. The spark was back in her eyes. And I know this spark. It’s what made me never stop pursuing personal growth, kept me working on my business even when there were no results, and closing old chapters with peace and starting new ones with courage and excitement.

I hope we meet for coffee again soon.