How to Use Reality Check to Get Back to The Present Moment 69

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We tend to lose direction every now and then. To stay in our heads and play different scenarios for too long. To forget what we have and be sad about what we don’t have.

That’s when you need a reality check – to stop, look around, become aware of your surroundings and see the bigger picture.

Here are a few situations in which we get lost, confused, distracted or unmindful, and what to do to get back to this moment and enjoy the present:

1. Expectations.

Many people expect way too much.

They create their versions of how things should be, how people will react and what’s going to happen. And life – being an adventure full of surprises – has a natural flow of events, which rarely meets people’s expectations that are often too big.

And that leads to disappointment.

People stop enjoying the present moment, ruin relationships, become negative and full of regrets and misery.

When you feel like that, make a quick reality check.

You’ll immediately realize how ridiculous your fantasies are and that you don’t actually need to expect anything.

If you simply let things be, everything will fall into place. And will just be perfect.

2. Many desires.

If you ever catch yourself wanting too many things, and never being satisfied with your current situation, stop.

Reflect on that. Notice how you feel and then try to let go of all those desires.

They aren’t necessary. They may happen one day, and you can keep working on your goals, but don’t let that ruin your ability to seize the day.

Because if you live like that for many days, then you’ve missed out on a significant part of your life you can never take back.

Go back to this moment. Appreciate all you have.

Many would give anything to have it. So be grateful.

3. Comparing to others.

Do you often find yourself wanting what others have, wondering how they got it, wishing you were at their place, feeling sad knowing you’re not like them?

Time for a reality check then.

Everyone’s usually having a harder time than you think.

Embrace your individuality by going after your goals, creating your own experience and building character.
And respect the journeys of others. They may be different, but also full of hardships.

4. Complaining about not making progress and being far from your goals.

Results take time, dedication, efforts, focus and sacrifices.
But most of all, it’s about staying consistent.

You can’t really feel bad about not succeeding or getting good at something, if you’re not taking at least one step a day towards it.

And how do you expect to see results if you aren’t ready to say ‘no’ to some things, if you waste time in unproductive activities, are impatient, don’t have any clear goals, and so on.

Man up. Or stop waiting for progress.

5. Blaming others.

You may spend your whole life trying to find relief in blaming others, but that will get you nowhere.

It’s your life.

You make choices at any given moment and they shape your personality and future.

So take responsibility for your actions. And start taking deliberate decisions.

6. Getting lost in dreams.

It’s one thing to have specific goals, review them daily and visualize the end result in order to stay focused and follow the right path.
But it’s completely another to think about the future more than you live in the present.

Don’t forget that you need to take action now in order to get closer to these dreams of yours.

7. Living in the past.

Whatever it is that happened, it doesn’t matter.

You’re free to let it stay in the past and move on with your life

So many people hold onto past experiences, places, people, memories, or just who they used to be. And think of that all the time.
Which is basically reliving it all over again.

There’s no point in all that. You just bring stress, regret and hopelessness into your life.

Instead, be here. Live in this moment as it’s all there is.

These are just seven of the daily things we do that prevent us from living in the reality and being present.

Can you share another one that has made you lose touch with what’s going on around you?

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4 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Ignore Your Mental Health 21

4 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Ignore Your Mental Health

While most people pay the most attention to their physical health and work hard to achieve a healthy body, they often overlook the potential mental health issues that may have been well tucked away.

Understanding and paying sufficient attention to your mental health issues is an action that should be prioritized in every situation. What could seem like the simplest mental health problem to you might actually be affecting your life in more ways that you can imagine.

Here are just a few reasons why you shouldn’t ignore the signs.

1. It Is Way More Common Than You Believe.

You might think that mental illness is not present in many situations but the truth is that almost everyone has or is facing such an issue.

In fact, one in five Americans suffers from some type of mental illness. The saddest part about this though, is that very few of them seek treatment.

The person affected by the illness can even be one of your family members. Sadly, symptoms are easy to hide and even people who are severely depressed can mask their health issues from their families and avoid getting help.

2. It Can Also Affect Your Physical Health.

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It is known from a long time ago that the connection between the mind and the body is strong. Any sort of physical distress can have a huge effect on your capability to work or focus on things around you. Following this same rule, any sort of mental problem can easily affect your physical health too.

The first few things that a mental illness will affect are your mood, energy levels, sleep cycles, appetite and quite possibly your sex drive. Along with these problems and as a result of them, your immune system can also be affected and that can lead to more often colds and an overall impairment of your physical health.

People who face mental illnesses are often left unmotivated and drained of energy.

The illness blurs your mind so much that you have no energy left to function properly in your everyday life. Ask any person that has faced a major depression and they will tell you just how much they let themselves go and how they stopped caring about simple everyday things, such as brushing their teeth or taking a shower.

Physical symptoms won’t take long to appear and you will simply keep increasing your risk factor of a number of health problems such as heart disease or heart palpitations, insomnia and fatigue. It is very important that you ask for help if you feel such symptoms arising. Make sure that you consult a board-certified practitioner to be certain that a mental problem is not the cause of them.   

3. It Plays an Important Role in Your Success.

One of the most frequent symptoms of a mental illness is the lack of motivation. You just feel so tired of everything, you find that you are not interested in what others are doing and you just end up losing interest in things you used to love.

The lack of mental health can, therefore, play a huge role in your success. No matter if you are a college student, an employee or a working parent, you can easily lose sense of what’s important to you and hinder your success in whatever role you might have.

In whichever situation you might be, you will definitely need to be able to be creative and productive. Your success in your studies or your workplace might be your only source of stability and income.

An untreated mental illness can be the reason behind your reduced productivity, your lack of creativity and your overall negative attitude towards your work.

Keep in mind that a large number of homeless people are those who are suffering from a mental illness but sadly left it untreated.

Looking for help and letting the mental health professionals guide you can take a lot of weight off your shoulders. It can help you see things from a different perspective and give you the courage and motivation you need to get back on track and find yourself again.

4. It Can Affect Your Relationship with Your Peers.

Most people who face a mental illness find themselves intimidated by social situations. Even spending time with friends or family can seem like a very tiring or pointless task and they will often opt out of it. It is important to remember that this does not apply only to depressed people, as many might think, but to a large area of mental issues.

Anxiety disorders can alienate a person from their circle because of the constant fear of something going wrong, of someone not liking them or of an overall new situation. It is very common for the solution to your mental health issue to be holding the key to you getting back your behavioral health.

Mental illness can also affect your relationship with your family.

Apart from losing contact with people you probably care about, you might even end up harming them more than you think. It is not rare to see a person struggle both financially but also emotionally when it comes to helping family members that are battling mental illness.

Another very important reason to not take your mental health lightly is for the sake of your children. It is very often reported that children of people who struggle with a mental illness are abused or neglected. That can play a huge role in their lives and affect their entire lives, from childhood to adulthood.

Make Your Mental Health an Everyday Goal!

There are many places to turn to for help. The National Alliance on Mental Illness, otherwise known as NAMI, can be a great place to start. Through it, you can find a suitable medical center that will provide you with the suitable health services to help you regain your mental health.

It is important that you are not ashamed of your personal struggles or mental issues. Everything is part of the human nature and the fact that there are so many people available to help comes to show just how human this situation is and how much attention we, as a society, should be paying to this important issue.


Leona Henryson is a professional writer and passionate blogger. Her goal is to help people achieve their personal self-development and mental wellness.