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Do you value your communication skills enough to break through your shyness?

What if I told you that developing better communication skills is the single biggest thing you can do to further your career and life ambitions. Would you believe me? If your answer is ‘no’, then think about this.

Imagine you are the most talented person in the world in your field (which I’m sure you aren’t far away from). Your skills are unmatched, you’re incredibly diligent, and you can solve any problem that comes your way. You should go straight to the top of the career ladder, right?

But what if you don’t have the communication skills to tell people how good you are? In a job interview, your prospective employer wouldn’t know about your amazing skills. They’d only see a quiet, shy person. So you wouldn’t get the job.

At work, more vocal colleagues could start taking credit for your achievements because they know you won’t pipe up, so you’re passed over for promotion.

And at social events, even though you have loads of interesting experiences and thoughts to talk about, you just… don’t. You’re too shy and unconfident, so you miss out on meeting people who would love to be friends with you.

Now do you see the true value of communication skills?

Of course, if you’re shy or introverted, you might think it’s impossible to change. Your shyness is the reason you don’t communicate well – and you can’t seem to beat it.

But the truth is, when you start working on improving your communication skills, your confidence will grow – and you will gradually start to feel less intimidated.

To help you get started, I collected some of my favourite tips below that should help you get on the right path.

A good tip to find out whether you actually have a problem with communication is to complete a quick communication skills questionnaire. Then you can see what type of communicator you are, where exactly you are going wrong, and how to go about fixing it. But in this article, we are just going to concentrate on overcoming shyness!

1. Focus on speaking up

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Now that you understand the importance of communication skills – not only for reaching your goals, but for overcoming shyness as well – you can start to prioritise them.

The best place to start is to make a concerted effort to speak up more often. Here are 3 ways to do it:

  1. Give your opinion when someone asks you for it. Shy people often believe their opinions aren’t worth hearing, or that nobody is interested. That clearly isn’t true when you’re asked for your thoughts, so speak up!
  1. Help others at work. You’re good at your job, aren’t you? Then use your knowledge to strike up a conversation when you see a co-worker struggling. It’s a great way to demonstrate your value, practice communication, and build friendships.
  1. Be more sociable than you were yesterday. It’s going to take time to build your communication skills and confidence, but if you improve a little each day, you’ll get there soon enough. Start with small talk – saying hello, asking how colleagues are doing – and build up from there.

2. Forgive yourself when things go wrong

If you’re like many people, your shyness comes from a lack of confidence. And often, your confidence is damaged not by the things other people say to you – but the things you say to yourself.

In other words, you’re too hard on yourself when your interactions with other people don’t go ‘right’. You might imagine you made a fool of yourself in certain conversations, or that you simply don’t come across well to others.

You know what the likely truth is? You are the only person who sees it that way. Everyone else probably recognises the competent, good person you really are.

So it’s time to start forgiving yourself for small things: like saying the wrong thing, or muddling your words. They happen to everyone, and you can’t let them hold you back.

3. Practice, practice, practice

Communication is a skill, not an innate talent. And that’s good news for shy people!

Firstly, because you don’t have to be born a good communicator. It’s possible to improve, just like with any other skill.

And second, also just like with any other skill, you can get better at communication through practice. Try these tips:

  1. Use public speaking as an opportunity to practice – next time you need to give a presentation at work, don’t just dread it quietly. Take time to prepare fully. Practice your delivery at home, in front of friends, family, or a mirror. Challenge yourself to do better than last time, and you will.
  2. Practice important communication skills throughout the day – Making eye contact, speaking up more often, and projecting confidence are all skills you can practice every single day. You just need to focus on them.
  1. Practice the things you’re the least confident doing – The key to overcoming shyness is usually to build confidence. And you can build confidence by improving in the areas you feel the weakest. Make a list of what you believe are your biggest communication flaws, and practice them until you feel better about them.

4. Stop trying to beat shyness alone

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A great way to overcome shyness and lack of confidence is to realise that other people have the same fears as you do. Once you start talking to other shy people, or those who also want to improve their communication skills, you’ll realise their fears are unfounded… and that means yours are too!

So consider joining a public speaking class, or even a local business networking group. A regular class or group is a great opportunity to:

  • Practice communication skills like public speaking and presenting
  • Meet and talk to other people who are in the same boat as you
  • Build your confidence and beat your shyness

You might also have fun, advance your career and make new friends along the way.

Don’t wait a second longer.

Shyness is an unusual problem, in the sense that it comes from within. That means only you can do something about it.

It can feel like a force that holds you back, which you cannot control – but that isn’t true. By working to improve your communication skills, you will slowly build greater confidence. And shyness will gradually become a smaller and smaller part of your life.

I hope you found my tips helpful, and make sure to leave a comment with your own ideas, or techniques that worked for you!

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What the Richest People in the World Have in Common 5

What the Richest People in the World Have in Common

Getting rich is something everyone dreams about.

For those facing financial hardships, getting rich seems the only way out to tide over shortage of money. For the bourgeoisie – the working class – getting rich conjures up visions of stuff they want to buy for luxury or higher social status. Millionaires also wish to get rich: they want to become billionaires and enter Forbes List of the world’s wealthiest people.

Unless you inherit a fortune or get lucky at lottery or sweepstakes, getting rich can be quite tough.

Yet, there are countless rags-to-riches stories around the world. Enterprises such as Amazon, KFC, Facebook or SpaceX have become runaway successes within a short span. The reason: their founders have several things in common, which is rare among other people.

Here we look at various traits that the world’s richest and most successful entrepreneurs have in common.

The Common Traits of The World’s Richest People

The Common Traits of The World's Richest People

1. Serving People.

“If your only goal is to become rich, you will never achieve it,” said John D. Rockefeller, who laid the foundation stone for America’s giant petroleum industry and his own enterprise, Standard Oil. The same adage holds good today.

Facebook, for example, was launched by Mark Zuckerberg and his roommate, Eduardo Saverin to allow Harvard University students to share profiles and pictures

There are countless such examples of ordinary people striking rich. However, they share one thing in common: serving people. The main objective of launching these enterprises was to make life easier or enjoyable for people rather than earning money.

2. Reading Books.

Microsoft founder Bill Gates, celebrity TV show host Oprah Winfrey, SpaceX and Tesla CEO Elon Musk, Berkshire-Hathaway CEO Warren Buffet and several other extremely rich people of the world have one more thing in common: they are avid readers.

Bill Gates reads at least 50 books every year – an average of nearly four and a half books per month.

Elon Musk owes his success at SpaceX, the project to open space tourism to his love for books and the knowledge he gained from them about rocketry. Oprah Winfrey attributes her success to dozens of books, including some 70 top titles she read on her way to success while Warren Buffet spends about 80 percent of his day reading books.

3. Long-Term Financial Strategies.

A report by CNBC states, all wealthy people depend upon long-term financial strategies rather than short-term gains. They utilized their earnings and savings to invest in safe stocks that would assure gains in the long run rather than indulging in risky trading that can offer high returns.

Such financial planning and decisions ensured they do not lose money. Further, they invested money in their enterprises without the hope of immediate returns.

These wealthy people first focused on building a brand, offering value for people to identify with the brand. And later, popularize the brand through word-of-mouth publicity, which is more effective than traditional advertising.

4. Never Say Die.

Yet another common character trait shared by the world’s richest people is, they are not quitters.

Like every other human on Earth, these wealthy folks also witnessed ups and downs in life. Some of these were so overwhelming most ordinary people would have called it quits and gone in search of easier ventures.

Brian Chesky, Joe Gebbia and Nathan Bleckharczyk, founders of Airbnb, the world’s largest hotels and accommodations aggregator were plagued with financial problems.


Heavily encumbered with debts, bankruptcy was staring at these entrepreneurs in the very eye. Yet, they did not budge. They innovated their service that made Airbnb the world leader in its field today.

Another excellent example is Colonel Harland Sanders, whose recipe for fried chicken was rejected as many as 1,009 times before it was accepted. Col. Sanders is the founder of global chain Kentucky Fried Chicken or KFC.

5. Accepting Criticism.

Most people flee from criticism of any sort. Rather than learning from negative comments arising out of their behavior or work, they take umbrage rather quickly. Yet, they do not bother to amend their behavior or work pattern.

All wealthy people, however, are different. They are willing to be criticized for introducing new ideas or thoughts.

Jeff Bezos, founder of Amazon, rightly says that those who will try and do something new must be willing to draw criticism.

Steve Jobs, founder, Apple, Inc. puts it in even stronger words: “If you want to make everyone happy, do not become a leader; sell ice cream instead.”

The success of Amazon and Apple proves their founders were right when it came to accepting criticism.

6. Out of The Box Thinking.

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Thinking outside of the ‘box’ or a typical mindset is often impossible for most people. Understandably, because everyone draws their mindset from factors and circumstances they are raised and educated in.

This mindset eventually becomes a formidable fetter for anyone wanting to become an entrepreneur. Generally, most people follow the flock and take professions they falsely believe as best suited for their skills. Others try to follow footsteps of their parents.

The wealthiest people in the world never followed flock or took lucrative professions of their parents.

Mark Zuckerberg’s father was a dentist and mom – a psychiatrist. Bill Gates’ dad was a banker father while his mother was a lawyer.

Despite coming from wealthy families, they chose to follow their passion rather than confine their thinking to the proverbial boxed mindset. Col. Sanders had lost his parents at a young age of six years and had to shoulder responsibilities of his siblings.

Other Examples of What The Wealthiest People Have in Common

As we can see, these qualities or personality traits are common to the world’s richest people. It sets them apart from others. Most of them launched small enterprises with the sole purpose of bettering the lives of people. Their products or services gained popularity because money was never their consideration. Widespread use of their technology, products, and services eventually led them to become wealthy.

These traits are not typical to the US or the western world, as one may mistakenly come to believe. A glance at some richest people in India and elsewhere also reveals, they share the same characteristics with their American counterparts. This amply proves that richest people around the world share something in common, regardless of where they live and flourish.

Another common trait that all rich people share in common is philanthropy.

Since childhood, they believe in giving back to the society and helping the underprivileged. They practiced charity when they were not so rich and continue to donate money for the betterment of the society even after becoming billionaires.

These richest people on the planet never waited to become wealthy. Instead, they were philanthropists since childhood – a trait most other people pathetically lack or try to foist upon themselves to gain popularity.

In Conclusion

It is not easy to become wealthy. Or everyone would become a millionaire. People who do make it to the top have a different way of thinking combined with an undying zest for learning new things and educating themselves.

They do not consider conventional learning at universities as the end of their education. Instead, they try and acquire new skills every day and find ways and means to become better humans rather than focusing on fattening their purses.

The world’s wealthiest people also share one common trait: they are not people pleasers, despite their generosity and willingness to serve the society. Because they know, trying to please everyone will get them nowhere and could mean possible failure.