Last Updated: May, 2019
What if I tell you that doing one simple exercise a day can make you confident?
One of the most important characteristics of great leaders is self-confidence. Every successful person looks strong and confident and we hardly believe that once he used to be just an ordinary person with fears and worries.
These people aren’t afraid to look someone in the eyes, to say what they want and to go and get it. They radiate confidence, power, success and determination and many times this helps them win a fight and get what they want without even saying anything.
They had gone through many difficulties until they’ve become who they are.
The relief is that everyone can achieve it. Even if you pretend that you are self-confident, you will look stronger in the eyes of others and they will treat you with the respect you deserve.
Being self-confident is a sign that you believe in yourself, have your goals set and work on them every day, aren’t afraid to make eye contact and are unstoppable once you’ve decided something.
That will help you overcome indecisiveness and any form of insecurity. It also helps you speak and walk more confidently, look better and feel comfortable with yourself.
And one simple exercise separates you from all that.
This is a technique that most of the people you look up to use every day.
If you have role models, I can guarantee you that at least one of them is doing this every morning.
I’m talking about politicians, businessmen, athletes, actors, motivational speakers, professors and many others.
They do it every morning/evening, before a competition/meeting/performance/etc., or every time they need a little confidence boost. And it has helped them more than anything. Here it is:
The Mirror Technique
What to do?
Stand in front of a mirror (the bigger, the better). Let the weight of your body be equally divided.
Straighten your back and take a deep breath with your chest. Look yourself in the eyes confidently.
Put a light smile on your face so that you look determined.
Start talking to your reflection. Say things like “I believe in myself!”, “I can!”, “Everyday I get 1% better.”, “I know what I want and aren’t afraid to get it.”
Think about the things you want to achieve and say that you can get them, and there is nothing that can stop you on your way to success. Continue breathing as deep as you can and generate only positive statements and thoughts.
Go on like that for at least 5-10 minutes.
You can always make it longer and add things like what you love most about yourself, your best qualities and recognition so far. It’s not about bragging and vanity, but about starting to believe in yourself, your potential and possibilities.
It is best to do it in the morning, preferably as a part of your morning routine. This way you can start your day with energy and go out with confidence.
Others prefer doing it in the evening, or simply whenever they need self-esteem. All you need is to find a mirror and spend 5 minutes alone in front of it.
What to say?
Talking to yourself in the mirror is the foundation of the mirror technique – a confidence building exercise that many successful people use.
And it works. Standing in front of a mirror, looking at your reflection, using body language and saying stuff helps you increase confidence.
But what should we say to ourselves?
Here are some self-esteem affirmations that have helped me believe in myself more with nothing more than a self-talk and a mirror. And they can do the same for you.
1. Every day I get more and more confident in myself and my abilities.
2. I feel comfortable in my skin.
3. I accept myself for who I am.
4. I don’t seek attention and approval.
5. I am confident in what life has planned for me.
6. I like what I see in the mirror.
7. I have control over my mind and my life.
8. I’m good at many things.
9. I’m outgoing and communicative.
10. Each day it gets easier for me to do things with confidence.
11. I have the knowledge and competence to do what I want with my life and achieve a lot.
12. I’m proud of who I am.
13. I’m doing great things with my life.
14. People feel good around me, they want to be in my company.
15. My voice sounds confident.
16. I naturally appear and feel confident in every situation I face daily.
17. I radiate confidence.
18. Whatever I want, I can get it.
19. I don’t feel intimidated by other people.
20. Being the best I can be is a top priority for me.
Believe it or not, just saying a positive statement or a few like these in the mirror every day can change your life in the long term.
Here are 13 more confidence affirmations, courtesy of SimplyBe.
What results to expect from the mirror technique?
After the first few times you do it, you will feel a little difference in your behavior, but it may not last long.
That’s because when you leave the quiet room with the mirror, you go back to reality with its problems, people who are mean and critical to you, disappointments and worries.
And you easily forget the way you felt while practicing confidence, and continue the day as usual.
But please don’t let that stop you. Start doing it twice a day, make it a habit and in a week or two you will see a more confident person in the reflection.
The magic, however, happens in the long term.
After one or two months nobody will be able to deny that you are a different person, or at least look and feel like one. You won’t be afraid to look people in the eyes anymore.
You will become more active because you will spend every day of yours reaching the goals you’ve set. But this time you will be absolutely sure that nothing will stop you, simply because you won’t let it get in your way.
The best result you’ll have from the exercise is the strength and power your eyes are going to radiate.
After that, you will also notice how people treat you in a different way because you won’t be inferior to them anymore. Some may even feel afraid to argue with you as you seem so determined and confident.
Our subconscious is very susceptible to the things we say out loud. Imagine what a big influence this technique will have on it when we combine saying positive statements with looking ourselves confidently in the eyes.
The best way to understand that is to simply perform the exercise.
Don’t forget that almost every athlete has done that before a game, every businessman before an important meeting with a client, even a man/woman before going on a first date, an employee before an interview and so on.
Use this strategy and become an individual with strong character and self-esteem. Let the mirror be your friend!
So would you give the mirror technique a try?