Building Self-Confidence with The Mirror Technique

Learn how to build confidence with this one simple exercise called the mirror technique

Smile in the mirror. Do that every morning and you’ll start to see a big difference in your life.
 Yoko Ono

What if I tell you that doing one simple exercise a day can make you confident?

One of the most important characteristics of great leaders is self-confidence. Every successful person looks strong and confident and we hardly believe that once he used to be just an ordinary person with fears and worries.

These people aren’t afraid to look someone in the eyes, to say what they want and to go and get it. They radiate confidence, power, success and determination and many times this helps them win a fight and get what they want without even saying anything.

They had gone through many difficulties until they’ve become who they are.

The relief is that everyone can achieve it. Even if you pretend that you are self-confident, you will look stronger in the eyes of others and they will treat you with the respect you deserve.

Being self-confident is a sign that you believe in yourself, have your goals set and work on them every day, aren’t afraid to make eye contact and are unstoppable once you’ve decided something. That will help you overcome indecisiveness and any form of insecurity. It also helps you speak and walk more confidently, look better and feel comfortable with yourself.

And one simple exercise separates you from all that.

This is a technique that most of the people you look up to use every day.

If you have role models, I can guarantee you that at least one of them is doing this every morning. I’m talking about politicians, businessmen, athletes, actors, motivational speakers, professors and many others. They do it every morning/evening, before a competition/meeting/performance/etc., or every time they need a little confidence boost. And it has helped them more than anything. Here it is:

The Mirror Technique

What to do?

Stand in front of a mirror (the bigger, the better). Let the weight of your body be equally divided. Straighten your back and take a deep breath with your chest. Look yourself in the eyes confidently. Put a light smile on your face so that you look determined. Start talking to your reflection. Say things like “I believe in myself!”, “I can!”, “Everyday I get 1% better.”, “I know what I want and aren’t afraid to get it.”

Think about the things you want to achieve and say that you can get them, and there is nothing that can stop you on your way to success. Continue breathing as deep as you can and generate only positive statements and thoughts.

Go on like that for at least 5-10 minutes.

You can always make it longer and add things like what you love most about yourself, your best qualities and recognition so far. It’s not about bragging and vanity, but about starting to believe in yourself, your potential and possibilities.

How often?

It is best to do it in the morning, preferably as a part of your morning routine. This way you can start your day with energy and go out with confidence.

Others prefer doing it in the evening, or simply whenever they need self-esteem. All you need is to find a mirror and spend 5 minutes alone in front of it.

What results to expect from the mirror technique?

After the first few times you do it, you will feel a little difference in your behavior, but it may not last long.

That’s because when you leave the quiet room with the mirror, you go back to reality with its problems, people who are mean and critical to you, disappointments and worries.
And you easily forget the way you felt while practicing confidence, and continue the day as usual.

But please don’t let that stop you. Start doing it twice a day, make it a habit and in a week or two you will see a more confident person in the reflection.

The magic, however, happens in the long term.

After one or two months nobody will be able to deny that you are a different person, or at least look and feel like one. You won’t be afraid to look people in the eyes anymore.
You will become more active, because you will spend every day of yours reaching the goals you’ve set. But this time you will be absolutely sure that nothing will stop you, simply because you won’t let it get in your way.

The best result you’ll have from the exercise is the strength and power your eyes are going to radiate. After that you will also notice how people treat you in a different way, because you won’t be inferior to them anymore. Some may even feel afraid to argue with you as you seem so determined and confident.

Our subconscious is very susceptible to the things we say out loud. Imagine what a big influence this technique will have on it when we combine saying positive statements with looking ourselves confidently in the eyes.

The best way to understand that is to simply perform the exercise.

Don’t forget that almost every athlete has done that before a game, every businessman before an important meeting with a client, even a man/woman before going on a first date, an employee before an interview and so on.

Use this strategy and become an individual with strong character and self-esteem. Let the mirror be your friend!

So would you give the mirror technique a try?

The mirror technique is the ultimate and simplest confidence-boosting exercise I've ever tried. Learn more about it and how to turn it into a habit so you can increase your self-esteem in no time: #confidence

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How This Family Guy Makes $10,000/Month Online Teaching Others How to Make, Save and Invest Money

How This Family Guy Makes $10,000/Month Online Teaching Others How to Make, Save and Invest Money - Interview with R.J. Weiss from TheWaystoWealth.com

This is an interview-style post with R.J. Weiss from The Ways to Wealth.

Hey R.J. What’s your background and what do you do?

I blog about all things personal finance at The Ways to Wealth.

Before I went full-time into blogging, I spent ten years in the financial services industry. Specifically, helping families buy the right type of life insurance.

During my time with a full-time job, I’ve always had different side hustles going on. From freelance writing, Amazon FBA, conversion rate optimization, to website design — there were many projects I pursued outside of work.

How did you start your career in finance?

I got started in finance straight out of college working for my the family insurance business. As I love the financial planning side of things, I choose to specialize in life insurance planning. This led me down the path to obtaining the CFP® Certification.

What made you start blogging?

The Ways to Wealth, which I started in 2016, has been my 5th blog.

The others mostly fizzled out most due to a lack of interest. But, in 2009 I started a personal finance blog called GenYWealth.com (no longer around) that had some success.

The idea GenYwealth.com was to write about what I was learning about studying to take the CFP®. The blog was, by all means, a success. I was able to gain valuable knowledge, pass the CFP® exam, earn some extra money and build up a good community.

I then took this knowledge and started a business blog, which allowed the insurance agency I was working for to generate leads.

I started The Ways to Wealth because my passion is personal finance–from investing to travel hacking, I love the challenge of optimizing my finances.

How was The Ways to Wealth born?

I didn’t have much of a plan for starting The Ways to Wealth when I purchased the domain name.

I was actually thinking it would be a niche site, which was inspired by Pat Flynn’s niche site duel. Then, I came across the income reports of Michelle Schroeder-Gardner and wisely changed direction to a more traditional blog.

This change came about 6-months after starting to blog.  I did a timeline of the site in one of my income reports.

What worked best when trying to grow the site?

I had a decent knowledge of SEO. So at first, I started growing the site with email outreach. One of the first posts I had about best investing books of all time, had about 15 links to it.

This was nice to start with but was quite slow to build up, as it can take a while to earn Google’s trust.

The big turning point came when I started to understand Pinterest. I spent a few frustrating weeks on the platform, then it finally started paying dividends.

I went from about 100 sessions a day to 1,000, which was huge for me at the time.

How did you get to 3 million monthly viewers on Pinterest?

the ways to wealth pinterest 3 million monthly views

I lay out my Pinterest strategy here. But at the core the idea is to:

1) Write high-quality content that Pinners want to click through, read, and share.

2) Pin to my own and high-quality group boards, with a keyword-rich description.

3) Continue to Pin my best pins across my own boards/group boards, ruthlessly eliminating Pins that don’t perform well.

One thing to keep in mind is impressions don’t mean much on Pinterest. What counts are clicks to your website. So, you want to design not for impressions but clicks.

What aspects of the online business are you outsourcing or automating and how?

The first thing I outsourced was Pinterest design. I’ll design about 30-40 pins a month, so this was big time saver for me.

Of course, it took some work to get going. At first, I hired 5 or so people on Fiverr. I found one decent designer but the work quality deteriorated over time.

I then went to Upwork and posted a job for a  graphic designer. I found a great team down in Argentina, who I’m very happy with.

I’m currently experimenting with working with a ghostwriter. A few of my latest posts have been transcribed from my recording, with the ghostwriter making sense of it all.

I can compile about 3 posts in 90 minutes, then take another 90 or so minutes to prepare them. Saving me around 3-4 hours per post this way.

What’s your main income stream and why do you think it works for you?

My main source of income for the blog is affiliate revenue. It works because the partners I do have are high-quality businesses, who deliver value and solve real problems. This makes it easy to naturally link to such a partner.

When did you start making more than $10K/month and what was the turning point?

My first month over $10K was in January of 2018. In December of 2017, income was around $3,000 and in July of 2017 around $500. So, it was definitely a jump.

What happened then in January?

First, personal finance is at its peak interest in January.

Second, I had multiple Pins go viral.

Third, in November I started driving traffic via Facebook to the site. So, in January I could take campaigns I’d been fine-tuning for a few weeks and scale them.

How do you balance work and family life?

I have a routine I stick to Monday through Friday.

When inside of my designated working hours, I work. When outside of these hours, I’m not.

This is a lot easier said than done. But the thing important for me is not to take work everywhere I go. This means I don’t have any apps on my phone that are work-related (email, analytics, etc..)

What are you 3 best finance tips for newbies?

  • Focus on your savings rate. How much you save is the most important decision you’ll make.
  • Small incremental improvements add up over time. My favorite example is increasing your savings rate 1% every quarter, means you’ll be saving 20% of your income in just 5 years.
  • Study happiness. Become a student on how to increase your level of happiness. The natural result is you’ll want less overtime, making the game of personal finance a lot easier to win.

What books, blogs or podcasts help you stay motivated along the way of growing an online business?

I read a fair amount to keep fresh ideas in my head.

My favorite podcast is The Tim Ferriss Show.

Two blogs I enjoy reading are:

Farnam Street
Barking up the Wrong Tree

And as far as books. I try to read one a week. A few books I would recommend to online entrepreneurs would be:

Deep Work by Cal Newport
The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy
The Four Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss

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Check out my interview with R.J. from TheWaystoWealth to see how he entered the finance niche, started making money blogging, began bringing traffic from Pinterest and monetizing it with affiliate marketing, and is now making $10,000/month from his online business. #blogger #interview #blogtraffic #incomeideas #income