Why You Should Be Ruthless with Your Habits 177

how to be ruthless with your habits

Your habits are the foundation of your success. The things you do daily form your personality, create your future and give you the lifestyle you currently have.

And if you’ve decided to do something about your life, to edit it so that it can be the way you like it, then you need to work on your habits. And once you make a change – start a new behavior, break an old one, or replace a bad habit with a good one – you need to stick with it.

You need to stay consistent, never let outer circumstances and people make you fall back into your old behavior. You should always keep in mind that you weren’t satisfied with the person you were while having that habit, that you fought your demons one by one and did something about it, and are now over it.

In other words, you need to be ruthless with your habits.
Here are 3 ways to do it:

1. Don’t communicate often with people who have a bad influence on you and with whom you connect the bad habit.

A person who’s overcome drug addiction, for instance, should never spend time with his old friends who are still using again. No doubt about that.

But that applies to simpler and more common situations in daily life too. If you’ve finally become more confident, you shouldn’t go back to the environment or people who make you feel inferior and doubt your abilities.

2. Make it a priority.

Some of the things you do daily, whether you’ve turned them into successful habits or not, are more important than others. Maybe they help you make a living, or bring you happiness and a sense of control, or give you instant gratification.

Whatever that is, you need to keep doing them no matter what. And the best way is to put them on the top of your to-do list.

My work is probably the most important part of my day. That’s why I’m doing it first thing in the morning. I wake up early (most of the time) because of it, I dedicate my most productive time (the first part of the day) to it, I don’t eat or communicate with others while working for 4-5 hours straight.

It took me time to find out this exact way to do things, but it works wonders. I know it’s what works for me and don’t need to think about it again. I know I’ll feel great after this focused productive period and that I get a lot done during it.

I’m ruthless as I don’t let anything or anyone else prevent me from doing it.

If someone asks me out, or if I have other important things to do, I just schedule them for later in the day. And nothing really changes, except that I finish my work, and am then free to do anything else.

The other person may find it hard to accept the rejection, though, but that’s how ‘the ruthless you’ does it – the part of you that knows exactly what you want in life and is getting there step by step.

3. Plan in advance.

Preparation is key if you’re aiming for at least 70-80% success rate (perfection isn’t a realistic target when it comes to personal development).

If you’re trying to change your eating habits, for instance, and have weekly family dinners which usually include a huge amount of (tasty and tempting) food, you can do something about it now:

• let the hosts (your parents probably) know that you’re trying to eat less or avoid certain types of food so that they can stop offering it to you all the time;
• drink a lot of water before that;
• eat at your place before you go;
• focus on the salads and other low-calorie foods;
• let that be the only day of the week when you can eat as much as you want;
• have an intense workout this day.

Or if you’re trying to develop the habit of drinking 2-3 liters of water daily, then take a bottle with you wherever you go. And drink one glass immediately upon waking up.

All these are simple things to do, but require some thinking in advance and organization.

So that’s how you do it – show no pity, be merciless and unforgiving.

Only this way will other people in your life stop trying to sabotage your improvement. That’s how you’ll apply that approach to other areas of your life too – like your time, freedom, money and dreams.

And once you stop letting other people and outer factors decide what you do, how you do it and how you feel about it, you’ll also stop blaming and making excuses, and will thus take responsibility for everything that happens in your life.

And with that comes great power and confidence. And you achieve much more.

But the beginning is small. You need to be ruthless with your habits first.

What about you? Do you let other people and events interfere with your thoughts and actions? What habit are you working on now?

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5 Smart Ways to Incorporate Technology into Your Home 18

5 Smart Ways to Incorporate Technology into Your Home

A smart home was something we could only see in sci-fi movies just a few years ago. Today, smart technology is becoming more available in terms of prices and offers. Therefore, it’s not so surprising that many homeowners are choosing to introduce technology into their homes and make their lives more convenient, safe, cost-efficient and fun.

In fact, a recent report predicted that a global smart home platform revenue will increase from $4.2 billion (2017) to $39.5 billion (2026).

There is no doubt that the concept of a smart home will revolutionize our interaction with our interior, and impact various other aspects, such as the potential resale value of our properties. Knowing all this, it seems wise to start thinking about the ways to incorporate new technology into your home, today. Here are our top five.

Be smart – save energy

If there are two trends that have marked the previous year when it comes to home design, those are energy-efficiency and new technologies.

So, why not combine them and make smart technology work for you and help you save money on your electricity and heating bills? Your first step towards doing that is installing smart lighting. This change will enable you to remotely manage all the light bulbs in your home by using an app, so you won’t have to wonder whether you left your lights on ever again. The best way to use this technology is to pair it with LED bulbs and thus maximize your savings.

Another popular upgrade that helps you save money and automate your home is a smart thermostat. This device connects to your home Wi-Fi and allows you to set the desired temperature no matter where you are. Some models can even remember your habits and adjust the temperature accordingly.

An important safety upgrade

The times we are living in may be new and exciting, but they are still dangerous. That’s why you should do everything you can to make sure that your household is protected both from the unwanted guest as well as various hazards.

Smart home security takes care of that by offering state-of-the-art locks, high-resolution cameras, smoke detectors and motion-triggered alarms. Compared to the traditional security systems, smart security systems will not only alert everybody with a loud alarm but can also send an alert to your phone in case of emergency.

Comfort and convenience with smart furniture

Smart furniture is not being discussed enough, and we’re here to change that. It is set to completely change the way we live our lives.

Let’s start with a smart table or side table. These pieces can feature LED lights, Bluetooth speakers and wireless phone chargers.

The innovative smart sofas offer similar perks but with more coziness. Besides LED lights and speakers, they provide you with a convenient place to charge your phone, allowing you to have everything you need at your fingertips.

Other innovative pieces include color-changing wardrobes and TVs that can be “masked” into artwork, when turned off.

Make everything work together – smart hubs

You might find it difficult to control all your smart gadgets individually. A smart hub allows you to create a centralized system where all your devices are connected to the cloud, and you don’t need more than one app to manage all of them.

Additionally, smart hubs enable you to automate your devices. For example, this would mean that as soon as you unlock the door (using a smart lock, of course), the light in your entryway will be turned on and the thermostat will set the optimal temperature.

The only problem with smart hubs is that this new technology is still in its infancy, and there are too many manufacturers who do not collaborate. This makes pairing up devices from different manufacturers into one hub impossible. Until that changes, to avoid any problems, you should buy the products from the same brand.

A helping hand voice

If you are among those people who remember the Halloween special episode of the Simpsons on the mention of a smart home assistant, don’t be afraid. The assistants of the real world are nothing like Ultrahouse 3000 voiced by Pierce Brosnan. In fact, this technology can make your life a lot easier by helping you make the home automation run smoothly.

Just like Cortana and Siri are improving the smartphone user experience, smart home assistants will make your life easier.

They can be set to react to voice commands, which allows you to control various smart home features without having to use any app. Also, if you have a camera above your entrance and a smart lock, your assistant can unlock the door when they recognize your face.

It’s an exciting time to be alive, and we are sure that there are plenty other surprising smart home innovations on the horizon. Until then, try out these five, and see for yourself how they can change your life.

About The Author

Emma is a writer and a home décor enthusiast. She believes that good design can be found at the intersection between beautiful and functional. Her inspiration comes from traveling and exposing herself to new experiences.

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